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Mumsnet, will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? And call upon the FA to kick sexism out of football?

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BasilFoulEggs · 29/04/2012 23:13

Dear Mumsnet
As you are no doubt aware, there has been the most extraordinary hate campaign waged this week by some football fans, against a rape victim in the wake of the Ched Evans Guilty Verdict.

The jist of the hatespeak, has been that a drunk woman has no right to expect the basic human right of not having her body penetrated without her active participation in that sexual act, or even her passive consent. Presumably because men (or at least footballers and their friends) have the right to penetrate women who are incapable of consent. And that if a man rapes you, it is because you are a slut, a slag and all the other hate-speak words used to de-humanise women and make it easier for people not to empathise with us when we are abused.

This week has seen the really ugly spectacle, of a bunch of men asserting their right to rape women, handmaidens supporting that right and both of them sending out a clear warning to all other rape victims, to know what to expect if they dare to pursue justice if they are raped.

If there had been a similar outpouring of hatred against any other historically oppressed group, the rest of the media would have been tearing their hair out analysing why some men hated this group so much, where the hatred came from, why it existed, what could be done about it; but ironically apart from the Daily Fail, there has been very little comment in response to the Twitter hate-campaign. If Twitter had buzzed with indignation at the jailing of the man who posted hate-speak about Fabrice Muamba, I?ve no doubt that the FA would have tracked down the posters and banned them from football matches. Because they?re busy kicking racism out of football. Sexism, though, is fine. They can give a bloody award to a convicted rapist, while their supporters conduct what must be a terrifying hate campaign against his teenage victim? right now, football fans don?t look all that much better than the Taliban, do they?

Mumsnet, will you use the voice you have against this horrible hate campaign? Will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? Will you ask the FA to state publicly, that they too, believe her and that in future, they will work as hard to kick sexism out of football, as they do to kick racism out?

Thank You.

OP posts:
MrIC · 30/04/2012 19:53

I believe her.

allthequeensmen · 30/04/2012 19:56

I believe you.

Babieseverywhere · 30/04/2012 20:18

I believe her.

CowboysGal · 30/04/2012 20:26

I believe you.
I will now get on Twitter to say the same.
I hope this support gives that poor girl some faith in humanity after all she has been through.
I also hope the whole thing enlightens a few people.
I hope the sister of the rapist, and others who think drunk=fair game, never have to endure anything similar in order for them to change their blinkered views.

FarelyKnuts · 30/04/2012 20:32

I believe you

SinicalSanta · 30/04/2012 20:35

I believe he

geekette · 30/04/2012 20:42

Oh my word. Some of those comments and support messages are really vile and quite scary because it isn't just hero worship. Some really think rape cannot be committed if the victim cannot give consent!
So many scenarios come to mind.

I am still struggling not to create an account so that I can like our facebook "we believe her" page. Can I like it without creating an account? I really do not want to join FB on principal...

I have tweeted (#ibelieveher) and signed the petition but I would really like to go the extra mile for this courageous young lady who is changing the world. And once again, I believe her.

MyDogShitsShoes · 30/04/2012 20:57

finally on bbc news website

I've retweeted the link with the #IBelieveHer

msrisotto · 30/04/2012 21:01

Bless you mydog "hark" and "twitter" do not belong in the same universe :)

SweetTheSting · 30/04/2012 21:04

I believe her.

Mustmakemarmalade · 30/04/2012 21:05

Thank you for this post

I believe her

FizzyLaces · 30/04/2012 21:11

I believe her

GetDownNesbitt · 30/04/2012 21:13

I believe her

MyDogShitsShoes · 30/04/2012 21:14

I know, not entirely sure I'm doing it right but God loves a try-er! Blush

Vagazzled · 30/04/2012 21:15

I believe you.

raininginbaltimore · 30/04/2012 21:16

I believer her

woopsidaisy · 30/04/2012 21:17

I believe you.

dollymixtures · 30/04/2012 21:17

I believe her.

Thank you Basil for your OP and this thread.

BuffyFairy · 30/04/2012 21:17

I believe her

SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 30/04/2012 21:20

Thanks for starting this.

I believe her.

MmeLindor. · 30/04/2012 21:23

This thread is so very powerful.

Thank you, Basil.

CoffeeAhorlicksAnonymous · 30/04/2012 21:23

I believe her.

How do I get on twitter and support her?

I'm a bit naive to all thats going on as I'm dealing with my own stuff like this.

ladytyndale · 30/04/2012 21:25

I believe her,
what a brave woman to have reported this and gone through the court case

Yama · 30/04/2012 21:28

I believe her.

It heartens me that so many people want to stand up against those who are supporting this rapist.

FakeFurCoatAndThermalKnickers · 30/04/2012 21:30

I believe her.

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