I was going to prattle on about TV and the sexualisation of youth, but as I have been in practical despair all day since receiving a text from a dear friend, I thought again.
Can we remove the Muslim/Islam stuff out of this discussion please, it is utterly irrelevant.
As our 'resident Muslim' herself says (
) These men are as muslim as a housebrick.
This is due to upbringing, nothing more.
In egypt both christian and muslim families 'teach' their girls that they have to be like this, do that and basically STFU and get on with it.
The deeply sad text I received today from a friend there (married to christian) told me that her BIL literally verbally attacked his DW in front of the entire family (not the first time either) not one person raised an eyebrow. She married him before her 20s, and literally has been raised to take this kind of treatment. The utter non-reaction of the rest of the family at the time (in the dozens at an event) was chilling she said.
Her neighbours kids also came round the other day. The DD (10) was being ordered about by her brother (7) and basically being abused by him. she didn't argue back.
She's 10..
she already has accepted that her younger brother, a male, has the right to boss her about and be mean and she has to take it. Already, there is literally NO hope for her. I almost cried when I heard this.
I have no idea what religion these DC are, but it could be either.
Islam is not to blame for the way in which women are treated in cultures such as these, it goes deeper than this. Oh and I'm no fan of religion, don't get me wrong, but it is NOT what is driving this misogyny. That is societal misogyny which is gaining strength in many ways.
In our culture, I place blame on the overt sexualisation of our youth, the media, J. Kyle et al bringing the dregs of society onto our telly, in effect normalising that behaviour and encouraging it by sensationalising FAME at literally ANY cost, by ANY deed.
We as people, free to live as we wish, broadly morally intact, and kind hearted are being disproportionately represented on TV and film and news as out of control, drunken, and sex crazed. However the amount of crap on telly, the sexual imagery, language exposed to our youth at younger and younger ages, parents ignoring game age recommendations all adds up. We are equipping our DC with vocab and imagery they are not old psychologically mature enough to handle. Sure they know the words, but not the implications.
Mary Whitehouse was actually right. As many of her then critics have come out and publically said.