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Mad March Fledglings Fly in to action 2020

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Sizeablecontours · 28/02/2020 17:55

A warm welcome to the monthly thread where we (loosely) follow the Flylady housekeeping system here to combat CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome) with lots of virtual wine, chat and mutual support along the way. The thread leader of the month will post a link to Flying activities daily. Quite a few of us have been on here for a while, so we may seem cliquey, but we really aren't, and all newcomers, lurkers, returnees, regulars, and intermittent regulars are very welcome!

Very simply, Flylady is a zone-based cleaning system which we follow to varying degrees, depending on our individual homes, circumstances and energy levels. There are five zones and at the beginning and the end of the month we usually straddle Zone 1 and Zone 5. When you first start decluttering, cleaning, and organizing your zones, Flylady encourages you to spend 15 minutes per day decluttering in the current zone.

Each week, we work in a different zone. Each month, we repeat all the zones. After a few months of following this system consistently, you should start to see an improvement in the main areas of your house.

Pop on to the Flylady website to have a closer look about how to get started here but signing up for emails will probably lead to very many landing in your inbox. Also there has been some concern about securely downloading pdfs from the site so proceed with caution.

The Babysteps system is a light 31-day introduction to the system which familiarises you with Flylady routines (such as dressing to shoes, shining your sink etc) and with her philosophy, which emphasises self-care, her abhorrence of perfectionism and the adage that you’re never behind - just jump in where you are at - even if you only do 5 mins work, that is so much better than doing nothing at all!

There is a morning routine and an evening routine to keep things ticking over and a weekly home cleaning hour (which most of us find tight!) to change bed sheets, mop, hoover, take out rubbish etc. We've found over the years that the system isn’t brilliant for major decluttering so you might want to supplement with Kondo or another decluttering system. Flylady doesn’t want us cleaning all day so she is very keen on using a timer. Clean and declutter with focus, then stop and do something more interesting instead!

In addition each day has a purpose, see the daily focus here:
Monday: weekly home cleaning hour (can be split into ten minute sections and spread over week)
Tuesday: plan and play (menu planning, family event planning, doc appts etc)
Wednesday: anti-procrastination day
Thursday: errand day
Friday: clear out purses, bags, cars, date night
Saturday: family fun
Sunday: lift your spirits.

Don't hesitate to ask if you have any qs. And remember, there is NO wrong or right way of doing this, it is about adapting the system to suit your life circumstances, which will be different from someone else's, so feel free to ignore any step or routine that doesn't suit you or your home! And don't be put off by the barftastically twee language of the Flylady site, as the underlying system is sound.

And if/when it all gets too much: come and take a seat by the fire in our candelit, specially adapted, virtual "naughty" corner where you can retreat and enjoy all manner of lovely things such as fluffy pillows warm blankets, fine teas, strong coffee, and platters of sumptuous foodstuffs offered with lashings of support from fellow fledglings.

There may be mention of Ned (and his cousins Ted and Fred) who started their lives as autocorrections, but who have morphed in to virtual helpers, and are borrowed by thread members from time-to-time when the going gets tough on Mount Washmore.

Most days we pop on to post our "to do" and "ta da" lists of what we’ve managed to do and have a bit of a natter. Please don't compare your list with someone else's as this is all about individual progress.

More info follows (but again, please note we advise only looking at the pdfs and not downloading them):

** launch pad (general guidance and info) here

** daily babysteps pdf (ignore the ones that don't suit you or your home) here

** week day missions (some fledglings find it easier to do them at weekends) here

** info about zones (explanation of how zones work) [[http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2017/09/02/please-explain-the-zones/

here]]

** weekly zones (a rough weekly guide to which area of the house we are tackling currently, again adapt to suit yourself) [[http://www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/flying-lessons/zones/

here]] and here

** daily focus (helpful guide to allocate a certain day for a certain task) here

** deep cleaning lists pdf (only attempt when you have decluttered as you can't clean clutter!) here

Habit of the month: here

An explanation about the March habit of the month: Getting Dressed to Shoes here

Good luck and happy Flying one and all!

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Many thanks to Tinselette from whom I have stolen and adapted quite a bit of this introduction! Flowers

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And last, but definitely not least, a huge thank you to Expletive for running a really fast-moving February thread so splendidly Flowers Cake Gin Halo

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Stilllivinginazoo · 15/03/2020 05:18

ed glad you are making progress with damn thing
Willow that sounds like DD room is coming on a treat!Starfor both of you!

Hope that is ok,she's gone very quiet..

Not slept well,nothing new and uncertainty of thing isn't helping.really need be like KT and give myself a shake

THATscurryfungeBITCH · 15/03/2020 05:25

Im here

Literally

Everything is really busy atm

Manchild is fucking useless atm

Tinselette1940 · 15/03/2020 05:59

This is really early That. Will he not get out of bed to help? Hands pointy stick and axe ---> + ⛏️

Tinselette1940 · 15/03/2020 06:00

zoo I know 💐

Stilllivinginazoo · 15/03/2020 06:43

Lay here testing abouton mn...
Too much Corona now for my liking.restructing to our cozy thread and my parent supporting anxious kids one

Stilllivinginazoo · 15/03/2020 06:43

*twatting about on mn

THATscurryfungeBITCH · 15/03/2020 06:45

I think i am just feeling a bit uncared for. Too much default parenting going on. Plus stress of return to work looming, the fact i dont seem to be getting a new job and having had two teeth remove one of which i think i might have dry socket in Sad

FML

THATscurryfungeBITCH · 15/03/2020 06:45

Oh and then pissing coronavirus on top of all that

Oh and the essay that i have had an extension on and still not even worked through the materials let alone made a start

Stilllivinginazoo · 15/03/2020 06:54

that I often think you and I should shack up tog(in platonic sense) and let them wither in their own selfishness
I had huge rare up on phone last night(again) I have bigger worries than him so just switch him off my radar and getting on today
Sorry about dry socket issues,that a serious extra stress you could do without.Flowers

KTCluck · 15/03/2020 06:59

That BrewFlowers. Hope pain eases soon and it’s not dry socket. We could definitely come up with an alibi if you go too far with the pointy stick

Zoo I find imagining the consequences of not giving the shake helps in the shake giving. After a poor sleep you should go easy on yourself though

THATscurryfungeBITCH · 15/03/2020 07:08

Thanks all

Zoo i think you are right. It would be very busy but i assume much more productive and you could feed me Grin

Sizeablecontours · 15/03/2020 08:04

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Well done Fledglings, we are half way through the Flying month! How did that happen ?

Baby-step no. 15 for Sat 15th March is here

Today we are starting in Zone 3: The Main Bathroom and One Extra Room (15th to 21st March): here

Detailed cleaning list for Zone 3 is: here

And the launch pad link for zones, missions, reminders, flight plan etc etc is : here

Remember to turn off the news and do something to lift your spirits today fledglings! We all need to keep mentally strong for our dc in these surreal times and we can't do that if we are not ring-fencing an hour or so for ourselves every now and then. We need to put ourselves at the top of the list occasionally, because no one else will.
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We3kingsoforientareandabump · 15/03/2020 08:39

Only basic flying done in the past couple of days.

Going to try and get a fair bit done today. I also need to brave the supermarkets 🙈. Have written my meal plan so need to sit and write the list and just keep 🤞 that I can get what I need. I'm also going to write a big todo list of cleaning so I can tick it off as I go and so that DH and DC can pick jobs and help.

Might try and get the washing on the line as it looks like quite a nice day.

Have a lovely Sunday everyone 😃

ExpletiveDelighted · 15/03/2020 08:41

Thank you SC you are right so I'm going to go out for a little run today.

TooStressyTooMessy · 15/03/2020 08:49

Thanks for flying exception SC! Hopefully I won’t need it but we shall see.

Sizeablecontours · 15/03/2020 09:19

I was interrupted before I got on here last night Expletive but I was going to post "hang in there" or words to that effect wrt ds's PIP form, and I see this morning, in typically stalwart fashion, that you have, and you did!! Star Star Star [Doffs hat!] Bravo! Brew Well done for ploughing on through but it's unfair that it is all such a horrible ordeal every time Flowers

That really really crap that you continue to be so unsupported in this way. It's taking the Michael in a major way. Really selfish. Do you mind me asking what the manchild does when you are doing all the parenting and try to study/job-search? ( I can't imagine being in that situation with five dc and not pitching in.) And how does he rationalise/justify being able to cut himself off from it all? Can you just tell him this morning that you are going to do your course reading and make notes and walk out the house to a library/cafe somewhere (a metre or so away from others)?
Hope it's not dry socket btw or that you manage to get urgent treatment. Don't leave it too long to get sorted Brew Flowers

You do know that the fledgling squad will come around any time and sort him out for you?

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Stilllivinginazoo · 15/03/2020 09:19

that I have an excellent chocolate cake recipe that needs no eggs and oil not butter so we would be ok,no starvation rationsGrin

I am pathetically excited that I walked near an hour search pasta/milk for food bank and I've secured 2bags pasta and a uht skim milk!!I asked I might take 3pasta from a distant co op and they were fine.there were 8left but I still felt bad taking so many but staff were lovely.i also got a bag bread flour as lil zoo has always wanted a go and in coming weeks if we get bored we can have a go(or I may decompress bashing/kneading and filling house lovely smells) either way it's a win!!
Going for one last attempt secure loo roll for the food bank shortly then ready to do the drop at church 1110.wish me luck!!

Sizeablecontours · 15/03/2020 09:21

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So sorry I managed to leave you off the wave list We3kings (please don't take this personally as my ailing menopausal brain always leaves someone off these days Smile!) Wishing you courage for the supermarket run!

Toostressy I was wondering how you were getting on. I imagine it is "all systems go and then some" at work so hope you can rest up today Flowers

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Sizeablecontours · 15/03/2020 09:24

Zoo I think you can safely join our happy band of kneading, sewing, crafty introverts! Grin Top marks for foraging too! Grin

Hopefully, tomorrow I will be able to come up with a positive suggestion/distraction/inspiration for those of you with a tendency to suffer cabin fever ... please let me know if you have any ideas!

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IWillWearTheGreenWillow · 15/03/2020 09:31

Thanks SC! You're right, we need to care for ourselves too. I'm staying off the news / twitter / MN except this thread and my decluttering thread today, as I got myself in a right tangle last night and it's not good for me or the DC. Incidentally, the article about talking to anxious DC about Covid-19 was good - the key point was that we all need to learn to live with unpredictability and model not trying to control everything, and let them express and own their feelings rather than shutting them down in the old-fashioned manner. Good for me too!

Rather a busy and difficult night - the steroids let go at about 1am, but then DS2 appeared at our bedroom door at 2am, worried about his girlfriend who had had rather too much to drink. He looked after her well, but was asleep standing up by that point, so I took over for half an hour until we could get her to bed. Poor thing, she's going to feel awful this morning!

That, sorry the Manshape is being useless and you're in pain. Sending Brew. Zoo hope you have a good day. ED, hurrah for nailing the Pip application, hope you get your run. KT, Stressy, We3, foxes, Lane, Chic, Cineraria, Hazel, everyone else 🍒🙋.

Plans for today
🔳 Boring base-level flying
🔳 Next bit of DD's room
🔳 Get the furniture out of DS1's room
🔳 Lego! Need to decide what to do with the second lego police station - take it to bits and sell / donate it, or accept DS3's room is in fact Scotland Yard.
🔳 Read my book. A pleasant locked-room type murder set in 1930s Cheltenham, where no-one had any nasty diseases or rolling news!
🔳 Start a new jigsaw
🔳 Part-baked rolls and soup for lunch
🔳 Roast lamb for tea

Sizeablecontours · 15/03/2020 09:32

Willow I forgot to say that I am very sorry that your Aunt and Uncle's diamond wedding party looks like it may have to be cancelled. Those events are very special and tend to be the rare occasions when the entire family congregates together, which makes it all the more sad it is under threat.

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Sizeablecontours · 15/03/2020 09:36

x post Willow that "talking to dc advice" sounds excellent. Please don't hesitate to link if you have the time. And good luck with hung over gf! Think you are very caring given everything else you have to contend with! Star

Must go and tend to furries. They are trying to nudge my hands off the keyboard as they want to go for a walk Grin

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IWillWearTheGreenWillow · 15/03/2020 09:39

Goodness, massive posting while I was writing my epic!

SC, love the idea of TKCC. Thanks for letting my "find" be the first link! I'm thinking of broadly planning a daily structure with study, exercise (even if it's only Just Dance on the xbox or a Virtual Walk on you tube!) and entertainment in it.

LaneBoy · 15/03/2020 09:42

Not quite caught up yet but willow total sympathies with your DD re decluttering emotions. Looking at all your stuff, coupled with the pressure of having to make choices about everything (decision fatigue is a thing) is just a lot to take. For me it’s usually the lost opportunities that are the worst - all the things I was meant to do but didn’t (this was a particular issue when decluttering home ed stuff, coming to terms with DD’s SEN in particular etc)

Expletive ditto huge empathy for the PIP form 😭 I too would love doing that stuff for others. I would actually be pretty good at the job my FSW does for example... when it’s other people’s stuff, and in the boundaries of the working day, cool. Easy. Fun! But my own stuff? No. Said FSW came to visit us specifically to help me get some forms done that I’ve procrastinated over for months. She actually wrote my answers for me so I was free to just answer verbally. (I really can’t say enough how lovely she is.) And the funny thing is, she even said herself that she’s just the same, totally together in a work sense, but her own head is a mess - we established it is rather like Monica Geller’s Cupboard of Shame! 😅

TooStressyTooMessy · 15/03/2020 09:59

Hi everyone. At the moment things at work are actually fine (well, as fine as the NHS gets so not fine until he true sense of the word Grin) but there is a lot of planning and preparation taking place as you can imagine. I failed the fit testing for the masks so if I do need to wear one it will probably be one of the giant hood things. Joyous Grin. This is what is so irritating about people stealing masks etc. You have to be fitted for the bloody things to see what is the best one for you and to ensure you are as protected as possible. People are trained to do this. It’s not a case of just nicking one off the shelf Angry. Anyway, don’t want to get in too much to discussion about the hospital side of it (absolutely no problem with it being discussed on this thread, just of course I cannot say things in detail iyswim. What is scary is the changes to life as you say in terms of things being cancelled and changed. The prospect of my two with weeks and weeks off school and no activities to burn off energy is terrifying!! Very sad about the diamond party Willow. As SC said, these things are so special.

If we end up isolated for a long period I absolutely plan to make some kind of loose timetable / structure. My two are terrible without structure. I always mean to do it in the summer holidays and don’t get round to it. Which is fine as we are out and about, doing activities and I try to save some money for things eg cinema. But if all that stops I think after a few days of downtime we will need structure. I’ve seen a few good timetables on the Internet that you can print out.

Right, have a bit of time now so am going to do a calendar check. Planned out a few days for next week yesterday and, as always, it made me feel better to see what the week looks like, even if I know some of these things may not go ahead.

Lane, glad to hear no fever with your DD so she can do her rehearsals.

Meant to say SC, the fact that the school is open to do childcare for HCPs will make a huge difference to the hospitals Smile.

Must get on!

Apologies for not catching up with everyone. Hope everyone is as ok as you can be.