Fledglings step their way through June; yikes we'll be Flying in to summer soon!

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Welcome to the thread where we (loosely) follow the Flylady housekeeping system here to combat CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome) with a load of , chat and mutual support along the way. Quite a few of us have been on here for a while, so for that reason, we may seem cliquey, but we really aren't, and all newcomers, lurkers, returnees, regulars, and intermittent regulars are very welcome!

Every day I will post a link to the activities for "Today" which summarises everything you need on a daily basis if you want to follow the system strictly, but we tend to adapt it to suit our individual circumstances, homes and energy-levels!

Please note that, although Flylady is keen for us to check in to the website, we've recently had a few concerns wrt security, so although there is lots of useful info on the site, it's best not download it or put any of your personal details into the website for now.

More information on getting started available:
here (containing baby-steps!) but please don't hesitate to ask if you have any further qs.

There are 4 levels for Flying:
-Baby steps - good for starting a routine and overcoming the perfection crippling effect
-Baby steps and missions - basic routine + more in depth tasks
-Baby steps, missions, and deep cleaning (if you are at that stage).
You can't clean clutter so don't consider this one if you need the next level.
-Flying combined with a decluttering system (kondo/unfuck etc etc) let's be honest fly lady is good for routine but not so quick with the decluttering results sometimes.

There is NO wrong or right way of doing this, it is about adapting the system to suit your life circumstances, which will be different from someone else's, and don't be put off by the barftastically twee nature of the Flylady site, the underlying system is sound. Feel free to ignore any step or routine that doesn't suit you or your home! No perfectionism allowed!

And when it all gets too much: come and take a seat by the fire in our specially adapted "naughty" corner where you can enjoy virtual and and lots of support from fellow fledglings.

More info follows ( but again, please note we advise only looking at the pdfs and not downloading them ):

** launch pad (general info) here

** daily babysteps pdf (ignore the ones that don't suit you or your home) here

** week day missions (some fledglings find it easier to do them at weekends) here

** info about zones (explanation of how zones work) [[http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2017/06/11/please-explain-the-zones-6/
here]]

** weekly zones (a rough weekly guide to which area of the house we are tackling currently, again adapt to suit yourself) here

** daily focus (helpful guide to allocate a certain day for a certain task) here

** deep cleaning lists pdf (only attempt when you have decluttered as you can't clean clutter!) here

Oh and not forgetting "habit of the month" which for June is : drinking water!

Good luck and happy Flying one and all!

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zoo I have a difficult family and am NC with them (technically they flounced out of my life but I didn't chase them to get them back). I do understand how difficult it can be and somehow I've made some peace with my own situation.

Clearly scoutcat has done you a huge financial favour!

Oh big hugs zoo :(

Well done kitty cat 🥇🏆 < bravery award

I am making a French matching activity for later

Lisette I've struggled to make friendships and feel quite lonely a lot,this just reminds me of how on my own I really am...

Anyhoo
Tada
Fed D's and dp
Wash up
Put rest shop away
Washing in drier
Sweep floors
S+s bathroom

DS has an asthma check at 2,so think will distract myself by walking him over even tho I have the "luxury" option of going in dp car- it's not an unpleasant walk of 45 mins each wayit's cloudy,but not rain yet
I will kick myself up pants before returning and stop being such a pathetic mess!!

I've struggled a bit too with friendships zoo. We moved to the UK over 10 years ago for Dh's job and my parents and sister moved to Australia anyway. I feel a bit out of context and had to leave my small friendship network and longstanding job. I often joke to DH that it feels like I'm part of a witness protection programme. I actually haven't been home for over ten years. There is no 'home' really except for the one I've built here.

I'm a bit solitary anyway so I've tried to make some meaning through doing stuff - going to museums etc and meeting a few people for coffee occasionally. Periodically I attend church too so there's a little community there. I'm trying to be more outward facing .

I drifted away from most of my friends when i had two dc by the time i was 21. My "friends" now consist of colleagues who arent really friends, and the odd couple of people i keep in touch with via text but rarely see

I think parenthood does that. I'm now 'friends' with people who are the parents of my son's friends - they are lovely but basically we have the school in common. I see all these Instagram and Facebook pictures of people out with their 'besties' and it's like another world!

Okay, flying:

Kitchen tidied. Dinner sorted. School run beckons.

Then ironing. Evening routine.

The washing machine is my friend ...

Ditto,plus tumble drier is mine I've

Asthma check done
Dp picking up lil zoo so I'm go try eat a bananathen dp and I taking dd2 to Primark for cheap shoe/trainer to see her to the end of term whilst lil zoo plays Xbox with D's!

Phew group learning done. 4 distractible kids that was bloody hard work 😂 annoyingly the printer didn’t work so I had to adapt the French but it went well considering. Also found out one friend is starting biology with her DD so hoping to team up with it.

Quiet time with Cagletini now while everyone is at tap

If I'm ghosted by the washing machine, I'm in trouble 😂

Currently organising household admin using onenote.

DS could see I was bit upset still.he asked what was wrong and I explained I feel sad my family and I don't get on and I felt left out/lonely as they can be unkind.he replied but you have us,your family and we love you cos you are the bestest mum ever❤️

I always think that about FB / Instagram to be honest - everyone seems to be living very differently to me! 😂 My main excitement yesterday was that the weather was excellent for drying the bedding but I'm not complaining, I feel content and lucky

Well, I'm not in a good mood right now, somebody has complained about me at the company I work for (freelance so I'm not employed by them) they've said some really hurtful things and I'm shocked actually , it's knocked me for six tbh! Dh is fuming on my behalf which is very nice but I need to work out what the hell to do next!

I made a chocolate fudge cake so for the thread. I think we all need it!

zoo just read that about your da, how sweet is that and so true

Bless your ds zoo

I told the dc i didnt feel great after school and one of them asked if i needed chocolate

I wouldnt say no to foxes cake!

Got some info through today on dc1 starting high school in september! I dunno what is more scary, the fact he is that old or the fact him plus dc2 and 3 all go back to school the week baby is due ...

WTF foxes do you have a right to respond at least? That’s so hurtful :(

Awww at your DS zoo

Did a freezer dive for dinner and I have chilli YAY

Re friends, other than one fiercely loyal friend I met age 11, I didn’t really have many until I started home edding, now I have a few really good friends and lots of “mum friends”. I HATED the school gate experience.

I am trying to delay breaking into the Bourbon biscuits as long as possible because once I start I may struggle to stop! #allthecarbs

I've aw,that's cute about chocolate!lil zoo goes secondary sept.im approaching last walk to school after 18years
Foxes

Late starting dinner,mines nearly ready now.ds start super revv up and I can hear him pacing upstairs.scoutcats smoothly on his bed,so hopefully that'll offer him some comfort as he likes to be petted forever and a day!!

Oh foxes , how rubbish about the complaint.

Glad biopsy done ok zoo, must be a stressful wait now.

for all stressed people on here.

Re friends, I must admit I do think / hope that some of the school gate mums are my friends. I often think though that I do a lot of the running in friendships and maybe if I didn’t they would fizzle out . Currently my oldest friend who I see every few months I think doesn’t want to meet up or even message me . But I know she has lots of stuff going on so don’t want to push too much

Luckily we do have 2 couples as friends which is great as kids also get on well.

cag well it's a bit tricky because officially I don't know about the complaint! But I have noticed the person has been very short with me recently like I've offended her in some way so I'm going to ask the person who took me on if there is a problem see if she tells me.

I'm worried they won't use me anymore and it's my main income at the moment.

It's all a bit complicated but I really don't feel I've done anything wrong

Basically they said I'm lazy and make excuses but I agreed to do the work because they said I can do the hours I want but this one person constantly chases me up even though I have never said I could help her with her work, just did it to be nice the first time and then it became every week plus the other work I'm meant to be doing...argh. What a mess!

Sorry, rant over just had to say it I've been talking to dh about it all evening but he has asked me to be quiet for a bit while he studies

Oh that’s awkward :( hopefully if it’s just one person there it won’t drown out all the good work you do which I’m sure the others appreciate!

I’m currently watching DD learn some BTS routines from YouTube. Sigh. But actually it’s quite nice - she does soooo many dance classes and yet usually doesn’t dance in front of us (like if we ask her to show us what she learned) so it’s good to actually see.

I'm gonna join in with you lot. I work full time Monday to Friday and find motivation in the evenings to keep on top of the housework. A list on here may put a rocket up my bum to get a few bits and bobs done in the evenings.

Tonight I have

Made tea
Washed dishes
Put ds to bed
Tidied living room
Took some clothes upstairs and put away

Wow I have just spent an hour reading threads to catch up on your chat.

Bowerbird because I had a jacket with one on( DDLost it) and it collects blue items. Not all my clutter is blue but some is. I spent some time in Australia.
Love the thought behind names. Love yours zoo it makes me smile. Anne was my mum’s favourite book as a girl.
Outnumbered is fantastic. Had me howling with laughter. I once saw a programme about it and it was amazing to find out that most of it especially the kids was ad-libbed 😯

DD introduced me to Raised by Wolves and I wondered how I had never watched it.
Back at work yesterday. Not much done as I am tired. Cleaned bathroom this morning. Some of dining table done but not all.
Plan to do more tomorrow.

Cags sorry to hear that about DH.

I found that Evening Primrose made a big difference to me.

Cold and torrential rain up here.

Welcome laura! :)

I must look up raised by wolves. I’ve enjoyed what I’ve watched of outnumbered over the last two days :o

DH is just ordering the shopping as we did a kitchen inventory earlier and tried to meal plan as much using stuff up as possible.

I don’t really envisage tomorrow being a proper home ed day either. Really don’t know what we will do when we both seriously lack motivation and energy. I’ll start by getting them to do their homework set today though (Vikings for both and English for DD) as at least that’s something that doesn’t require more planning from me.

I still haven’t opened the bourbons.