September fledgling roll call: Ready, Set, FLY....

[HillsBesideTheSea]

Yes this is the bonkers back to school thread. We welcome you to jump aboard for the ride. We are following the Fly lady system for taming the chaos (can't have anyone over syndrome). We are at various levels and there is NO obligation to follow it to the letter (we've installed a bar in the naughty corner for hanging out and relaxing when needed)

4 levels for flying:
Baby steps - good for finding a routine in the tasks and getting over the perfection crippling effect
Baby steps and missions - yep basic routine and more in depth tasks
Baby steps, missions, and deep cleaning - can't clean clutter so don't consider this one if you need the next level
Flying combined with a decluttering system (kondo/unfuck etc etc) lets be honest fly lady is good for routine but not so quick with the decluttering results sometimes.

So ground rules, yes ground rules it is September:

1. Newbies - we are a long running but friendly bunch. We try not to seem clicky but it doesn't always come across as some of us have known each other on here for a long time, just join the chatter and you'll soon be a fledgling
2. There is NO wrong or right way of doing this, it is about adapting the system to suit your life circumstances, which will be different from someone else's.

Linkies will be posted daily and will appear shortly. Until then, jump on board, enjoy the ride and there are still hammocks, sand, comfy seats, cushions, blankies and a full English on the naughty corner bar it is a Saturday morning, breakfast is earnt

I moved friend to after 2pm rather than after 1pm but no idea of actual time, I am too tired to make the house any less crap anyway, just ugh.

Have told DH I may stay home with baby tonight instead of going to the fundraiser

Cag you are not a crappy human - you are spinning so many plates at same time - and anyway I regularly feel that way! I get stressed by the most ridiculous things nowadays and make heavy weather of stuff everyone else seems to breeze through!

Wishing fortitude to everyone struggling today.

Hate to say it, but just throwing this in to the mix ...to everyone who has smalls currently ...try and fortify yourself mentally because teens have a habit of picking apart, criticising and challenging everything about who you are as a person, what you do, and what you stand for. That is what I am facing today and although it's a natural process and normal and part of working out how they fit in the world, it can really wear you down because of course, as a mother, you are always wrong!

Everything was quite chipper yesterday and we all went out for dinner and celebrated last night as dh has had had a big success at work (something he had been working on for two years) but back to reality today. DH too worn out to want to engage in doing anything much today (unfair of me to say it because he is always very engaged indeed when he has the energy!) but tbh he is worn out most of the time he is at home because he works so hard and he needs (and bloody well deserves) a good rest. But DD I think reacts to that when it's just boring me and her thrown together again for the umpteenth time. Considering taking her out but tbh she was so rude earlier I don't want to reward that (sigh) and thus the negative cycle continues... .

Sorry for yet another Eeyore post

As for Flying ....CBA!!

Thanks Zoo it's really quite hard isn't it?! [Hands over slices of courgette cake.] I know you are right - DH says I need to not take it personally and disengage too - I never drink during the day but could really murder a right now. Perhaps alcohol is the answer ?

Btw, did you bake the squash muffins in the end? If so, how did they turn out?

Still on my to do
It's hard not to take it personally when we eat sleep and breathe their lives until they decide we are embarrassing/imposing/annoying yadder yadder yadder

Absolutely! Whatever we do; it never seems enough somehow. At the same time, I know she is going through a bad time with hormones ATM though.

I didn't get my muffins done either! Will report back once I recover my enthusiasm to do something constructive may be some time.

Ditto SC

Doh well friend can’t come and pick up the stuff after all as her eldest is ill. Ah well it forced me to tidy a bit more so no harm done!

I’m dreading the teen years TBH DD is moody enough already

Another one with a disgruntled teen. I dared to serve the same dish up 3 days in a row Well it wouldn't have been 3 days in a row if he had eaten his normal portion size but apparently I am meant to mind read!
fucking internet might go off later so we can get his room done and then go back on again so we can both sulk in peace and quiet

ta da
Shopping
sort the fish
deal with a few strops from the boy
prepare to through some strops back at him
realise forgot the sodding mushrooms and milk free chocolate and have to go back out to the shops
sort out the base for 2 versions of spag bol (one nightshade free the other with tomatos) - its simmering on the stove atm
handwashing done
1 batch of towel washing done
hair dye patch test in progress finally!
recheck the weather

Dig deep people! Dig deep!

To try and find my patience or to make hole big enough for shallow grave SC

Well we could compromise by burying iPhones, iPads, laptops and any random cables and chargers left all over the place! That would be a start! Although I'm sounding a bit too Hon. Kirsty Allsop now ...

Throw in a couple of swear words SC should sort that right out!

No problem there Hills

Fucking man child is still in bed

It makes me want to set fire to said bed

The others have gone to the fundraiser as I just couldn’t face it in the cold and the dark and the rain with a demanding neverstill baby just NO. So instead I am home with the baby sleeping on the sofa next to me while I watch The Slap with a deliveroo on order 😳

I should be doing housework but no.

Meh cag it's Saturday night.kick your heels back n relax.in my experience chores don't do with still be there tomorrow til the dust fairy finally answers my calls for help

I finally fed lil zoo-meatballs andcouscous with tomatoes and green beans.ds didn't want any so go try tempt him with a cheese sarny in a bit

Hope everyone is having a good evening

ta da
another trip to a different shop to pick up the bits from that shop that I forgot to do whilst out the first time
2 batched of spag bol (normal and tom free) labelled and in the freezer
cottage pie that needed extra mash - finished and in freezer
Mash potato for chicken pie in the frutility room which is cool
meat for gluten and tom free lasagne, and potato free cottage pie in frutility room
fancy tea that never made before - demanded to be on the treat tea list by ds (we'll call it a success)
some more laundry done
plans made with friend
About to go clean and declutter the ds' room because he dropped a glass pyrex bowl and there is glass everywhere.

Agree with zoo cag feet up and relax!

Just seen your post I've so sorry that is shocking
With four kids in the house? I'd be replacing the duvet with a nice warm delivery of horse manure. In fact give me a week and it can be arranged... .

Btw Zoo I made the muffins; don't know why but they taste of soap (yurgh).

Too much bicarb/baking powder SC?

I ordered two separate small things on deliveroo. One didn’t arrive. 😡😡😡

And my last scrappy nursing vest broke. 😡😡😡

Fucksake.