February Fabulosity with the fledglings, Flylady Feb 2018 thread

[CotswoldStrife]

Hello all - welcome to our February thread for 2018. Everyone is welcome and it's never too late to join in. We are decluttering our homes and keeping them clean and tidy(ish) as well as having some general chat as well.

We follow the Flylady method, and will post links daily to the missions via the Flylady website. For more information, have a look at www.flylady.net/

Here's to a fun February for all of us (with the occasional prod from the pointy stick of motivation and visits to the naughty corner )

The daily summary for Sunday (also available on the Flylady website at flight plan which should update automatically each day.

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Baby-step no 11 - add an inspiration page to your control journal with your favourite quotes on

No zone work or missions at the weekends – woo hoo, enjoy!

The daily focus for Sunday is: renew your spirit

The monthly habit for February decluttering for 15 minutes a day

daily reminders

cag don't beat yourself up over it.im glad your DH is supportive and backing you up to set boundary's if you help.please be kind to yourself tomorrow/today(DEP how quick I post this as 11.58)promise to rest and do SOMETHING NICE FOR YOURSELF even if it's just a bar of chocolate and a crappy TV show for 20mins.sending big hugs

I am watching the olympics and wondering wtaf I did with the pain killers.

Cag you can only deal with what is not what might be. Deal with the boundaries if it comes up and try not to worry in the mean time DH has a plan and support for you if the time comes. You never know you might be surprised. Also you can't please all of the people all of the time and if you try you will end up pleasing none of the people none of the time. You have got this. It will be ok. allow your thoughts to move on and to think about something else.

Now where are those damn painkillers?

Perhaps it was the walk to the art gallery I was tired when I got home and DH rang me and stopped my nap yesterday but I have slept all night bar the toilet stops!

Cags think about first time mums struggling to find time to shower and wash their hair and then think about how you are managing.

1. You don't have great health therefore not oodles of energy.
2. You have Caglets who although marvellous take up time and energy and like most kids make mess.
3. You home school, a job in itself.
4. The Caglets have lots of activities and you don't drive so need to use buses. This takes time and energy.
5. You have Cagman, well he is a man so won't see half the mess or what needs doing.
6. You have a house that unfortunately doesn't clean itself and I hate to tell you this but you are not Samantha from Bewitched.
7. You have darling Caglitini who takes up time feeding, weeing, pooing and isn't always happy.

You are keeping the house going, feeding the Caglets, getting them to nearly all activities on a bus, doing home school you are doing marvellously and must be exhausted. I wish you were around the corner I would come and give you a hand. If you need to say no to the other family practise.
"I' m sorry that doesn't work for me."
"I'm up to my eyes in work, I can't take on anymore."
"Will you do all my washing and ironing in return." Watch them scarper.
Show them my list.

Wise words fromhills and bower
I am up but I want to be sleeping
DP text he's not coming today-horrible suffering lots panic attacks last few days and is crashing and burning badly.in 15 years we been together I've never known him so bad..but I think as last 2 1/2 years have thrown his world upside down and he never talks about things it's not surprising(lost dad sudden heart attack.argued his dad's partner and end up moving to his mum's.18 month later she starts having bouts illness first time ever.within 6months suddenly very ill and dead from pancreatic cancer in little over 3weeks.himeless and had 2weks to find place to live,organise funeral,clear out her home as sister stuck heading sand and blame left him deal with it citing couldn't leave her DH to run her home and care their child(erm why not?14yo,they own chipshop on southcoast.)I ran myself ragged help him sort everything and keep zoolets on even keel.its first time he's had stand up by himself,live alone,no one to give him money when wants X,y,z.at 50thats a hard lesson to take when you were raised to be given whatever you wanted)
Sorry for dumping it here,no one in RL to drop it off on.he cannot just move in here as he's so used to putting himself first last and always he can be horrible to be around when things aren't going his way.this makes him sound a right twunt,but when he's well he's everything I could ask for.but sadly lately he's not been well....

Anyhoo,was ment be doing shopping at further afield places today that's cancelled.day trailing shop to shop and zoolets at church it is then

Tadas
Up
Lil zoo meds
Fed cat/kits
Wash on
Bleach lav

Worry bout dp

That sounded utterly selfish and whiney.sorry guys

zoo Dump away! Must be very difficult to see dp not well and struggling but at same time you are right that if things are so bad its not wise to all live together. Has he had any professional help?

He takes anti D's afresh he convinced himself he deals with it burys head in sand he's a very distrusting person as was his mum so finds difficult telling people things about himself.ive "known him" 15years,but there are many thing u don't know about him iyswim we'd be crap on Mr and mrs

Oh dear i dont know what to suggest then as i assume he wouldnt be up for councelling or anything like that!

Snow has started here this morning. Lots of snow.

cag i think you may just have to be very firm with family member if they need more than you can give re home school. They should understand. If you didnt home school and worked out of the house you would be on maternity leave for several months yet. You already have more on your plate than most mums of small babies.

Very true afresh in fact I am stressing also because my semblance of maternity leave is ending soon as well (ie I am having pupils round. These are the kids of my best mates so not such a big deal as they will happily snuggle Cagletini etc) another reason to try and tidy up. Hopefully once I’ve done the first lesson I’ll get over the Fear. It’s already been delayed a few weeks due to various things. Need the money. What I’m panicking about specifically is the pupils whose parents I’m not quite so close to IYSWIM.

Still well if you’re selfish and whiney then so am I 😂 and I don’t think you are. It sounds a really hard situation, it’s good that you maintain that space from each other but it must be very difficult when you can’t actually make him step up. MH is a [insert expletive of choice]. Especially when you suffer as well and still have to carry on.

Right speaking of carrying on I really need to get up. I don’t want to (apart from wanting breakfast! 😳😋) but DS already said he hardly saw me yesterday 😞 i do feel more human after a lie in (baby didn’t sleep much between 4 and 7). It’s danger point now - if I don’t force myself up today I will stay in this mood and DH is working this afternoon. Also... Sunday. Ugh.

Hopefully with the HE relative I can maintain a friendly distance. Absolutely happy to show her what’s what, introduce her around etc but I am hoping she will find a group of friends that are her own. I do know some people with younger kids like hers so that will probably work better. It’s a very odd situation TBH.

Thank you everyone for being so nice. I will try hard to chivvy myself along today.

Thankfully we do have an actual busy schedule. So that limits me automatically in a way. I need to sit down and plan the next half term really. Seriously struggling to see how we can fit in more actual academic stuff but the Caglets really need it now.

I think my problem is that everything seems to take so long. I don’t know how people just fit things like putting a wash on or doing the washing up or even airing the house into a streamlined daily routine. I have issues with executive function (due to being autistic) and all that stuff just takes so much mental effort and never seems to become an automatic habit. Ever. 🤔😳😞 So I don’t really know how to change it beyond some micromanaged timetable with a huge amount of phone alarm reminders. I may actually have to try that.

Now I really am going to get up.

I am cross....
Nationwide did systems maintained in night.my money goes in on Sundays....
Phone said at 830 it was there.atm says not.grrr.now stick waiting for bloody ATM to come inline my account so I can start shopping.i had planned grab dairy free stuff from Morrison's whilst zoolets at church.they will now all be dragged after if can get it sorted,then sodding Aldi after drop that off.whoop de whoop Da😒😒😒

Tadas
Manage transfer money to pay top up on meters
Wash in dryer,more on
Rant at cash machine
Drop zoolets at church
Complete Menu plan for next week
Complete shop list

Zoolets be back soon,then I need hang around til 1130 then medicate lil zoo.i then have just over an hour before she needs feeding(takes roughly 35mins get Morrison's from mine at brisk walk) today has got to get better,right?!(hopeful)

zoo that is a PITA

Ta da

Half pots washed
Everyone up fed dressed

Meds in lil zoo.moneys FINALLY accessible.time to shop(sobs)

You can do it zoo -->

Aargh so family member’s mum and DC are popping in at 2. Eep. Wasn’t part of the plan. At least it’s spurred me into action I suppose. Thankfully DH did a lot of tidying in the living room this morning, I have the washing up to do. They want to talk home ed among other things so hopefully I can use this to get a better idea of the plan.

zoo good luck with the shopping!

We've been out all morning which was annoying as the weather was nice so could have been gardening. Although we did have a nice time. But it took ages to leave as dc wouldn't get shoes on, got stroppy about leaving etc...anyway finally home, cleaned up ds as he was muddy from playing outside and got him to bed. Waiting for his to settle then we'll get on with stuff. Not sure if I'm going to do housework or help in the garden but need to just make a decision and crack on!

Ta das
Finished work
Dishwasher emptied and reloaded by dh

To do
Finish daily routine
Swish and swipe bathroom
Gardening
Cook dinner later (macaroni cauliflower cheese)

Cross post cag hope it goes well and puts your mind at rest a bit

Well 'd'p seems to have decided hes doing fuck all this weekend because its weekend....

Smashing

Bloody awful night here, fucking boy racers tearing up the streets and carpark. Wind gusting like nobody's business - wheely bins down the road or lids ripped open. And now it is snowing horizontally but it is too warm to stick

cag be firm, be clear, look after your own needs.

zoo well that is a crap situation. Hope it improves

How goes it bower you feeling any better?

foxes gardening weather clearly you are not local to me then!

to do
take light fittings down
more laundry
finish clearing room was working on yesterday
make cake
Early night
Consider lunch for tomo - what is going in my pack up or am I picking it up and getting fresh air during my lunch break

Just drinking my second and last coffee of the day, waiting for pain killers to kick in and lamenting the fact that the pattern I was using has fallen down between bed and wall and to retrieve it I have to disassemble the bed. Not sure I am in that much of a hurry to finish the pattern atm

Thank encouragement guys
We did Morrison's dash back for lil zoo to eat within the necessary window before fast til next dose.was freezing,very busy and very stressful.so got what needed for today as well as the dairy free/stuff can't get at Aldi.cross I spent more money but
Lost will to live shopping.will tackle Aldi tomorrow

Zoolets fed
Shop put away
2nd laid wash in dryer,first away
Third load on..(will it ever end?!)

Slept badly last night.really could do with cheeky nap....

My Dd2 just told me to look at FB.i can't link so will just have type it out

I call it cleaning but it reality it's picking up random bits of crap after partner/husband/kids whilst muttering "inconsiderate aresholes" under my breath

yep that about sums it up.

Definitley

Hi,
Well I was when I got up. I was supposed to be going to a choir comp.

Up, showered, clothes laid out night before re Flylady& shoes.
Lunch in a bag in fridge. Grabbed make up & jewelry.
GP said I could go when spoke to him Friday. Set off at 7:23am needed to be there by 8 and that was doable with about 10 minutes to spare.
I'm at home.
Drove off to find barricades up and road flooded under bridge.
Drove back and went to go past primary road completely flooded and I know this is usually quite deep. Should have tried road past house but much longer road around and usually floods at bridge and further along and at the dip on next road so went up the hill. Used another half ta aced half dirt road and went ok until found it flooded and nearly put car in ditch trying to reverse back as very slippy.
Feet were soaked as I got out and still can't get warm.
Felt really stressed and upset as I missed the opportunity. Bet they win this year, been twice before and not placed. Love the songs we were singing. Bloody rain.
When we first moved here the roads didn't flood. This is third time in the last year we've been flooded. Luckily we live on the top of the hill so house doesn't get flooded. Oh and a tree fell and took out the foot bridge to the woods. Three other trees down ripping up the side of the road. I lost a car a few years ago so paranoid about water now just won't risk it. Bet there was a few more that didn't make it.