Fledglings cocoon, we're Flying in June ... .

[SansCollier]

Welcome to the June 2017 fledgling Fly thread!

Feel free to park your mops and buckets here from the 1st of the month!

This is where we attempt to declutter our homes and follow the 30-step wisdom of Flylady (minus cutesy barftastic language and a surfeit of e-mails) with lots of chat and support and mutual motivation (and of course) along the way.

More info available here, here and here.

As usual we will be following a three-pronged approach - and don't worry - we are all at different stages. (Some of us are still stuck at the decluttering stage after quite a few years ):

1 - repeat or start baby steps (again!)

2 - repeat baby steps + do 15 mins a day decluttering in the current zone

or

3 - reinforce babysteps and/or do daily missions

And those of you who have decluttered and are really enthusiastic can throw some detailed cleaning in to the mix as well!

The idea is that we focus on short, ring-fenced, daily bursts of activity (steps and routines) that will help our homes run (more or less!) on "automatic pilot" allowing us to do far more interesting things instead!

This is a very long-running thread so we may appear cliquey but we really aren't! All newcomers, long-termers, lurkers and intermittent returnees welcome!

Helpful pointers: No perfectionism allowed! If it took a while to create the current C.H.A.O.S. (can't have anyone over syndrome) in your home, then it will probably take a while to reverse the situation (you can't clean clutter!). Small steps are the key! And you are never behind: just jump in where you are at!

Any questions, don't hesitate to ask!

Good luck!

Oh no Einstein that does sound v stressful indeed. Hope everyone in your household is ok x

Zoo yes, I hope you are feeling as ok as poss this morning x Can you give yourself some time off today?

And I win. Stress. Which is in no way surprising considering everything that has been going on. They have time off work but they are ok.
Now on to normal boring things like packing for ds and laundry and trying to find motivation to get things done hint - not even coffee will help

Gallows humour is now in the building proper. I appologise in advance.

Phew Einstein glad to hear all ok (although I know stress can do horrible things). Hope your day improves!

Must have been scary einstein x

Eeek at wriggly cagletini

Thanks guys.its all a bit crap really. They're saying she has fab relationship current teacher.yes they talk but lil zoo struggles to tell even us if she feels poorly(sets high Barr for herself of what the right thing to do is/not wanting make fuss or sovusl faux pas) and her teacher is very dismissive" I not doctor sit down ".last term she had huge raw patch in face where scratched at it. Turns out skin infection but teacher try make out scratches face all the time and all but called me a liar for saying otherwise. Next year her morning teacher(English and maths) has notorious reputation for throwing things at kids,sit wat sweets n crisps with his feet in table,not marking work the man is Teflon coated,he must be....anyhoo it's my word against theirs.they saying I liability as her attendance is below requirements big chunk if that us not listening to her when isnt well and ends up having longer off to get better(sigh)I would've withdrew her and ds 2summers ago but that was when my lovely friend diagnose brain tumour and I agreed take her son(ds bf) to school.and then she died.... Her son kwft end last year and I felt too disruptive move ds sat year.
I am waffling my troubles (slaps self round face)

Nope, not really. There has been worse medical emergencies. It was really badly timed this morning with everything else going on and just made me cranky rather than sympathetic

ta da
clear the ironing pile ready for laundry to be done
Clear the folding pile ready for laundry to be done
Wash up the crockpot - separate item in the washing up rota of allergies
put first load of washing on
start to empty ds' remaining book case
try to figure out where bookcase and mattress are going this weekend whilst i paint
sort out contact arrangements for ds for this month
Chase up glasses for ds
try to get ds booked in with physio
put emergency supply boxes back into car
15mins decluttering in my room
fall out with my mother

Tadas
Cleaned front room
Fed Scoutcat
Fed kit/litter tray
Fed girls and pack ups
Grab milk/bread in school run
My breakfast
Muck out ds room. As he still only eating tiny amounts and tired/weak he sat in bed,I pass stuff to bin,recycle or charity shop he is hoarder extrodinaire and did fabulously ditch binbag "rubbish" fill charity sack and bin bag paper recycling(old mags and drawings)
S+s bathroom
Bleach lav
Wipe over liv room floor
Wipe surfaces in kitchen
Clean hob
2loads wash done,dry,fold and put away
Dining table clear and clean (necessity-one kits like jumping in it. That's a habit I keen stamp out.meanwhile I don't want then eating out if human bowls/cups not try claw bread out of bag/knock RBC off table.....

zoo we had exactly the same sort of problems with ds' school. His final year teacher actually had the guts to tell me it must be me and the home environment as he has no problems in school. Funny that moving to a new school I no longer have the problems at home and he is no longer refusing school
Stick to your guns and just know you are not alone and it is ok if you need to rant. We understand.

X posts again!!
Dd2 has flourished in secondary so I know it's them not me.seriously gets my goat how they rush cover each others arises rather genuinely sort problems. Too many newly qualified teachers with no kids (current teacher informs me I know how to handle kids,i have 6brothers and sisters.next breath criticizing lil OK attendance.er hold on. Is she struggling?no.which math set she in?top.is she achieving academically all that's req?top 5% of class.get off my chuffing back thenshe would excel but school too busy try cried control and get everyone up half decent standard to push smart ones,esp as so quiet and shy

I need stop ranting,I getting swarm bees back in my bonnet!

each others arises I am sooooo sorry people for my wayward phone, clearly that's arses!
And of course that's crowd not cries control

each others arises I am sooooo sorry people for my wayward phone, clearly that's arses!
And of course that's crowd not cries control

I just deleted my response. Turns out this is still a bit to close and I am very ranty on the topic I do hope you get it sorted.

Sounds very stressful zoo .

Big wing flaps to all. July's thread is www.mumsnet.com/Talk/housekeeping/2967867-Fledglings-flying-high-in-July-the-Flylady-thread?watched=1. I'll be on tomorrow with links etc. Thanks for all the links this month SC .

Needless to say I am totally sympathetic to the situation' Wow einstein what an awful thing for them to have said to you. It is incredibly common for children to hold everything in at school and release it at home (literally the second they left the school building in our case). It's often because they don't feel SAFE enough to show how they are feeling in school. Gah! This is gonna turn into a rant for me too, I shall stop now :o

Huge achievement here, the Caglets actually sat and did a page each of a workbook. Something they have refused for a good while. Feeling slightly reassured that we can start getting their confidence back up now (it was DD who was refusing, turned out to be mostly down to the bullying and it reminding her of school, but DS was following suit).

Also DH and Caglets cleared the table earlier and the stairs are still empty! Must put a wash on as DD got the most amazing pyjamas for her birthday (dinosaurs), her friend gave her them yesterday and of course she had to put them on instantly and spilled tomato sauce on them!

V impressive lists there Zoo and Einstein!!
School stress is very wearing indeed. Great to hear that your dcs are thriving in secondary!

Never apologise for waffling on here Zoo (I have done my fair share) and it helps to vent a bit. And well done to Lilzoo for being in top sets despite health probs and far from ideal school environment.

Cag Snap, I was just going to say that most children I know hold it in at school and lets it out at home!!
[So sorry you have had that experience Einstein ]

Whey hey to empty stairs Cag and good to hear the Caglets are enjoying their work books.

Thanks for shiny new thread Toostressy!

Decathlon trip has been survived. Now for the actual packing [whimpers]. DD looks very pale/tired and washed out after this week's events. I am not entirely sure she should be going off to camp but hopefully it will do her good.

I think my favourite wtaf moment was when the same teacher was surprised with ds' aspie diagnosis. I swear her brain would have exploded when he got his ADHD diagnosis. Thankfully she never had to know.

It's worrying sometimes how little they seem to know the child.

One of my first thoughts when the Caglets were diagnosed was that I would LOVE to take DS' report and wave it in his old head teacher's face. She hated him.

Wash is on. I am dressed, which considering there are more than 2 hours until we have to leave for ballet is a remarkable achievement.

[SC collapses in heap on floor having seen dd off to school reunion followed by sleepover prior to camp which I not sure is an entirely good idea but she is understandably desperate to have some fun with friends after exams etc. ]

Bloomin 'eck! Feel exhausted (but the weather is very odd here atm, hot and cold at the same time, very clammy indeed!). Still got to iron the last few cherished items of clothing ... and pack the extras ... then deliver them to the camp rally/send off point tomorrow morning.

Then one week without dd which will be very strange indeed!

How's are ballet bun skills developing Cag ?

Bloomin 'eck again! Can't believe it! Camp monitrice has yet sent another e-mail (5.30pm night before day of departure) adding yet more things to the list! I am NOT going back to Decathlon for a third time [SC digs in heels] I am not [stamps foot]. I hope and pray we have a fluo vest, another blow up mattress and another head torch ... [stumps off muttering to self]

Oh that's ridiculous to add on stuff at this late stage!

Ballet bun is super quick now :o not the most dazzlingly neat so will need to up my game if she ever does an exam

Einstein/zoo

One of the things I've taken action on recently is realising how little knowledge childcare providers have of asd. Childcare level three only touches on the basics. I sat down with the kids club that my two go to after school and they're going to do additional training for their staff in sensory processing so they can get a better idea of why my son melts down. They've started giving him more sensory play items as well which is great.

Work day today
It was bedlam utter bedlam

I bought a large bottle of gin!

Mermaids, glad the kids club is going to do the extra training. Gin sounds v sensible after a busy day . SC, how ridiculous to send yet more kit requests . for ballet buns Cag.

Ta da:-
Managed to complete all things on list today plus return library books and we are now on the way to my parents

Really fallen off the decluttering wagon these last couple of days. No option to do any decluttering this weekend but will try to do a bit or organising and email decluttering then must get back on it next weekend.

To do:-
Survive weekend with my parents - got a few tips for what to say from them from the parenting class so will have to see how it goes...

Ah yes indeed, copious quantities of is exactly what is required tonight Mermaids! Hope you can have a relaxing weekend after the bedlam! Cheers! And congrats on introducing additional training; sounds excellent.

Cag have been meaning to say - when you get to the point where you have to use a lot of hairspray frequently for ballet buns (dd's old school were sticklers about sticky up bits) - it is poss to buy some really good, natural, chemical-free brands (used to hate the idea of dd breathing in all that horrible stuff x 4 a week!)

Really hope the weekend goes well with your parents Toostressy! Safe travels!

Right, time for the last-wing flap of the month everyone before I direct you over to the July thread here!

G'night! As always, it's been lovely Flying with you all!

Have a great weekend everybody!

OMG stressy thank you you've reminded me I need to renew my library books online!

Thanks for hairspray tip SC

Gosh, July already WTF