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Combining April showers with Fledgling powers (2016)

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SpareCrust · 31/03/2016 11:05

Humungous thanks to Greymalkin for leading us so professionally and capably through March! Thanks

And thank you in advance to Einstein for covering the first four days of this thread (while I sidle off)!

If you are struggling with C.H.A.O.S. (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome) and S.T.U.F.F. (Something That Undermines Family Fun) then this is the thread where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own unique, relaxed style) with lots of support and chat along the way.

Flylady link here.

Don't let the somewhat sickly and barftastic language of the site put you off: the underlying system is sound!

This little-and-often system is designed so that you can follow a series of steps and routines each day (which gradually become second nature) in zones of the house which are designated weekly; defining and minimising housework; which in theory should leave you with loads more time to do something more interesting instead!

At the same time it is intended to reduce that panicky "rabbit in headlights" feeling when you are overwhelmed and everything needs doing all at once. No problem if you miss a day or two; just jump right back in and it will all come around next month again!

It's up to you, but we advise not signing up to receive the Flylady e-mails as you will be swamped with masses of bumph. All the information you need will be linked here on a daily basis.

From the first of the month, we will be following Flylady's steps and routines using a three-pronged approach (dependent on the stage everyone is at):

  • start or repeat baby steps
  • repeat baby steps + do 15 minutes a day decluttering in the current zone
  • reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

    ** And if you are really enthusiastic and have finished decluttering - you can go on to detailed deep cleaning in each zone.

    There are three key points to keep in mind throughout:

  • No perfectionism allowed - this is harder than you would imagine and many of us on this thread struggle with this one.
  • You are never behind - just start where you are and anything you do is progress.
  • It didn't get into a mess overnight - it won't get tidy over night - accept it will take time to get on top of things.

    If you are new; then trying to spend 15mins decluttering daily and doing the babysteps is a good way to start. Some of us (mentioning no names!) can have scary looking ‘ta-da’ lists but don't let that worry you. Do what you can, anything is better than nothing, and don't judge yourself against others.

    If all else fails, a brew + the power of three technique + a bit of support on here can work wonders!

    Here's the launch pad for more experienced fledglings

    Oh and don’t let it put you off if we appear a bit cliquey, we really aren’t! . Some of us have been on here for years and some of us natter rather a lot – but all lurkers, intermittent returnees, oldies and newcomers are very, very welcome!
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midlifehope · 29/04/2016 23:01

yes it was great.... of course dp messed up the kitchen within about a nanosecond of coming home ;) Bacon in a pan, spillages on the floor lol. Broke one of my nice Moroccan dishes grrrr

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Toffeewhirl · 29/04/2016 23:10

midlife - help is definitely allowed! What a sensible idea. I did the same several years ago when I was too busy with young children to cope with the build-up of housework. It really helped and I often wish I could do it again.

SC - I'm so sorry Plan A hasn't worked out. I hope you can find a good Plan B soon.

Am having a break from work for a few days: much needed. I started crying at work yesterday and had to hide in the loo to pull myself together. I was so overwhelmed by the build up of work and had also just heard that our weekend away had been cancelled (DS1 has had a virus all week and isn't well enough). Am trying to cover for all the staff who have left (three within six weeks) and train a new member of staff and it is just impossible to keep up. I talked to a senior manager about it and he seemed very understanding, but then piled on more work Confused Angry.

Managed to get out for a pub lunch with DH today and am trying to put work stuff out of my mind. Have the joys of a messy house to distrct me over the next few days Hmm.

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SpareCrust · 30/04/2016 19:01

Salut! [I'm an hour ahead here so I think I can permit myself a quick swig from the communal hip flask Wink] [Glugs and hands it around]]. Think Toffee might be in more need than me though by the sound of things!

Had a lovely day today despite crumped back. Cleared up a bit at school (from last night's wonderfully named "fancy fair"), had a hair cut, then watched 2000 Guineas (go Frankie!) from Newmarket, then went to a wine tasting at dh's favourite wine shop [hic] Grin and because we are entertaining tomorrow, I have bought pizzas for this evening. Only downside is that we are having friends over tomorrow and I am hugely behind with housework but might do a bit of tidying up this eve, and then panic tomorrow morning.

Hope you are all enjoying your weekends - I believe it is a long one in UK - profitez everyone!

Toffee that work situation sounds simply awful. Poor you. Can you go above the immediate management? Something needs to be done!! No one can work effectively with that constant level of stress. Thank heavens you have a few day's away from it anyway, and hope your ds1 feels better soon.

Midlife definitely allowed and sounds like a really sensible move to me! Hope it will help you feel more on top of things!

Agree with Knitting that having an outside cleaner can help that "being overwhelmed" feeling and anything that makes one feel a bit more in control of things is good!

Also agree with Knitting that having a cleaner is a bitter sweet experience - I am embarrassed mostly when she is here - but do a little twirl when she has left!

Waves to Honu always great to 'see' you!

Goodness Einstein I hadn't realised the weather was quite that bad where you are! Shock at -2°c! It's getting warmer here atm but still chilly. Glad you made it over them there hills ok.

Big waves to all fledglings! Enjoy the weekend!

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SpareCrust · 30/04/2016 19:02

Was just about to post links and then realised that there aren't any more for this month!

So handing the "official golden feather duster" over to Grey now!

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 30/04/2016 22:06

Just popping by to apologise for lack of posting this month. I'm going to try and do better in May. I keep getting sidetracked by troll threads and other such leeches of time, so I am banning myself from MN until the evening and going to try and restrict myself to my three regular threads. This is necessary in particular because I have my Open Uni exam in the first week of June and I have a LOT of revision to do.

So with that, a big thanks to you SC for this month and see you all in May.

ps, my mum is a big fan of complementary therapies and she recommends Bowen technique too.

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CotswoldStrife · 30/04/2016 22:22

I said I'd do the May thread, so I'll start that one now - will link to it in a minute. Thanks for taking us through April SpareCrust.

Good luck with the exam whoknows, I definitely get more done when I limit my laptop time Blush

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SpareCrust · 30/04/2016 22:35

Cotswold forgive me! Ignore my ramblings. Of course it was you who volunteered, I'm losing my marbles or had too much vino this afternoon!! Really good of you!

Big waves to Whoknows!

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SpareCrust · 30/04/2016 22:37

[Hastily takes away official golden feather duster from Grey and hands it to Cotswold Blush ]

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CotswoldStrife · 30/04/2016 22:54

Grin If Grey wants to do it she certainly can! I am happy to share the duster for May otherwise it will get lonely from disuse

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SpareCrust · 01/05/2016 07:35

Cotswold Ach no Grin it was totally my mistake for stupidly (and for no sensible reason) typing Grey's name instead of yours yesterday, having imbibed a glass of Wine or three - but if you need any help during May don't hesitate to shout! Happy to help!

Good luck with the month ahead! Flowers

We are now here everyone!

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