The Hoarders Anonymous Thread Part Two...Still Sorting It Out ~ Together!

[Solo]

Sorting out the home when you're a hoarder (big or small) is never going to be easy and we should know! but having someone else to support you, talk about it with you and make you feel much less of a freak of mother nature makes a huge difference!

If you are any of the following:
A hoarder. In a mess. Untidy. Disorganised. Lazy with housework that has lead to something that you now feel unable to deal with. If you are ill and not coping with the housework. If you are emotionally attached to items for whatever reason. If you have a combination of any or all of these things or something completely different, please join us. No one here will judge you. We have something in common and we have a common goal. We share our ideas and we share our disappointments no matter how big and our celebrations no matter how small.

Welcome to thread number 2! :)

Sorry to hear about the new job, Solo Sending hugs...I hope the anxiety levels decrease soon.

I have again been out as it is DD2's birthday..so birthday lunch out and softplay....followed by sand and water play in the back garden with new trampoline.

Tomorrow will be a house/garden day :)

I'm still at the messy stage. I have decided to head out in caravan for weekend so will ignore the mess I have left behind until Sunday night panick sets in.

Aw, thanks for the hugs and support . It's just an admin position for an estate agent, but there is so much to remember, so many calls to answer, questions, paperwork and more besides...Argh!!!
I will get there, but it's so different from anything I've ever done before.
2boys I also took extended mat leave, plus over 5 years of career break, before returning and being assaulted. I took voluntary redundancy and lost all my confidence; the assault took so much away from me and I didn't even realise for nearly 2 years! in the meantime, my house has become a complete and utter mess and I can't seem to fight my way out.

Starting next week, I'm going to try to do 2 hours on the house each day before going to work and possibly more after work. Dd will be at my Mums all week, so I won't have her as a distraction. We will see!!

You do all sound great :) well done!!

RIGHT!

I need to sort my house out!

We moved here in March and I'm still really struggling to tidy up after the big unpack. Our old flat was very tiny so we had to be really organised and tidy - everything had its place and was put away as soon as we'd finished with it because there really wasn't the space to have anything lying around.

The new house is lovely and we do have the space to store everything but we had to unpack very quickly so there wasn't really time to think about what we wanted where. As a result, we have lots of 'stuff' in random locations (e.g. nail varnishes in the living room) and piled up on the floor.

It didn't help that my in-laws brought a van containing everything that dh had EVER put in their attic. A week after we moved in. Thanks.

I have slight hoarding tendencies but DH is much worse.

How on earth do I even begin getting rid of stuff and then putting the rest of it where I want it to be?

Have a little catching up to do, have stalled this week although made little bits of progress here and there.

Going back to work Monday. Possibly against my better judgement, but we'll see how it goes.

So I'm not expecting to achieve much in the next week or so, anyway! But will try and do little things when I think of it.

How is everyone? Solo I hope the anxiety is healing, it's horrible trying to keep on top of everything isn't it, when you have customers. My brain fog has increased lately and I keep making mistakes - am learning to write EVERYTHING down and not just the stuff I think I'll forget!

Babies wow that crafty stuff sounds cool! Can I ask, how do you inform HMRC and so on about it? I have started teaching piano and stuff, like you I am not going to be earning enough to pay tax anyway (earn 5k from my PT job so nowhere near the limit) but do want to do it properly. I've been keeping a cash book record of my fees.

Anyway, I have made no progress, I burned out of course, and then went back to work having had a month off, and the day after I was diagnosed with labyrinthitis! It's so ridiculous it's almost funny . Feeling ridiculously dizzy and sick. Trying to console myself by remembering what we HAVE achieved in the last few weeks, but it's hard when I see the living room back to its old state.

Hello again folks. Been a rough few weeks here, illness and major stress. Think I've sorted the stresses out but recovering from the number of phone calls I have had to make recently will take a while.

House stuff hasn't completely ground to a halt, but is going slowly. I have set the oven shelves to soaking in a bag of chemicals and will be setting the oven itself to clean with goop overnight. So much still to do. School holidays over in three weeks so will have two days a week to myself to get cracking, hope to make some good progress then.

Hugs to all the ill people.

Fuzzpig, I am only setting up atm but yes now I have a craft fair date and bought my craft insurance, the next step is to offically tell the tax office.

I did speak to the tax office on the phone a few years back, when I was thinking of starting a hobby business. They told me everyone has too register with them, even if you only make £10 but they only want to have three figures money spent, money made and the profit/loss amount.

So when the kids go back to school, I will ring again and find out the correct way to register...my fair is not until October, so I am not in to much of a rush :)

Of course if you earn loads over £5 or £8k a year...There is NI and proper tax forms to fill in but I would never approach that level.

House wise, I am floating everywhere except our bedroom. Sigh, I really have a block about this room...I really need to address this.

I could gave a proper craft corner for my craft stuff if I just dealt with it...how can I make myself do this.

I think I am afraid that the only way of clearing this room will result in more clutter in the other rooms

But I will start tomorrow...ten minutes a day in our room until I complete it

Hi Ladies! stress and worry here still too. Sorry about everyone else's ills :( it's horrid isn't it?! I'm really struggling at work and to cap it all, I've done two hours unpaid overtime this week and not done enough work and the boss has booked me in for 'a chat' next week...think I'm in for a "this isn't working out" conversation, which is pretty crap considering I have so much to learn still and no one to teach me one to one now. My ME will kick me, I just know it and I'm tired, so haven't done anything more than the laundry and a little ironing and made sure I've eaten properly in the evenings. Took Dd to swimming club tonight, but had to take her back to my Mums and Dd cried :( she never cries ~ ever!! she misses me, bless her.

I'm sorry for all the moaning etc. I am not coping here.

Keep up your good work my friends; you are keeping me planning at least!

Oh Solo, think positive, maybe the boss wants to help?

My youngest was referred for ASD assessment this week. Was a little crushed in truth, his older brother has AS and I'd hoped it would all be ok. I was going to head to the SEN boards for some company but they've battened down the hatches after all the hack scandal so doubt I'd get much of a welcome.

Been sorting out stuff for start of term this week. Uniforms and coats and making sure computers and laptops are up to speed. Spent about a hundred pounds and don't have much to show for it!

Onwards eh?

:) Hi PG no, I don't think he's that way inclined.

((hugs)) to you re the ASD referral, but at least they are looking after and out for your LO. Why don't you try on the SEN boards? what's the worst they could do? you've been here a while, so they can check you out if they feel the need.

Think I'm for sleep now, but keep your chin up lovely! :)

Oh Solo, screw the knobby boss types :(

I wasn't 'digging' Polter, it's a shitty time of year for lots of SEN families and the hacking is making things ten times worse. I'm in DLA form limbo at the minute with my middle boy's claim I hate the damned form but it needs doing. It's on 'the list' of stuff to do.

Always with the stuff to do >__<

More and is the way forward obviously.

I'm away to find the insomnia fairy and clip her wings!

{{Solo}} I was pushed out of my last two jobs....compliments and promotions for years and then I am in the middle of grievance procedures with no understanding of what I did wrong. (both times )

I would recommend seeking free legal advice and following their advice !

I think I'd better wait and see what he says first!

Hoping you all enjoy your weekend.

(((solo)))

I don't think I'm going to last too much longer in my job either, TBH. I'm starting to feel like it's just not feasible; every time I think I'm all better I get hit by a massive relapse. Started proper absence warning procedures now. Again.

I'm always avoiding doing anything on my days off because of the fear that it'll make me struggle at work, but I've come to realise I can't do that anymore, as it means nothing else in my life happens, and that makes me more ill really. I'm including the state of the house in that, as well as things like cooking healthy food and exercising/getting fresh air. I've got to the stage where if I end up medically retired, I'm just... 'meh, ok then' as while I really enjoy some elements of the job I think overall it might be for the best :(

(Sorry for rant )

Yes do go on the SEN boards. I normally post every day but as it's holidays I go into lala world where I stick my fingers in ears, sing " la la I can't hear you, we are a normal family, NORMAL FAMILY!!!" Before term and tribunals and mud slinging starts.

I have had trouble with work in the past. Partly due to my As love of rules and fair play. It was ok in the end when I read between the lines and kissed up. I don't like it, but I'm not alone, it's playing the game. I'm a woman in mans world at work and I think that's my biggest saviour as I'm the token pt mum.

Been away for a week. My mate came in and sorted out downstairs. She helping me once a week now. Kids and dh was shocked it could love so nice. I'm shocked at how shocked they was! Ds said " oh my god I had no idea it could look like this!"

But true to form I bought my clothes on holiday! A arrghhhh!!!

:(

Ah, 2boys I know what you mean about the AS interfering with work. I was saying to my friend that although I do enjoy the job, it creates a HUGE amount of anxiety because of the way my brain works i.e. differently to everyone else's.

Feeling rather despondent about the house right now, I mean we did so much when I was off sick but now I've been back a week and it happened to be a week where DH was forced to do 6 days instead of 5, so now the house has slipped back again and I am in a lot of pain. It's just like, what exactly IS the point.