The Hoarders Anonymous Thread Part Two...Still Sorting It Out ~ Together!

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Sorting out the home when you're a hoarder (big or small) is never going to be easy and we should know! but having someone else to support you, talk about it with you and make you feel much less of a freak of mother nature makes a huge difference!

If you are any of the following:
A hoarder. In a mess. Untidy. Disorganised. Lazy with housework that has lead to something that you now feel unable to deal with. If you are ill and not coping with the housework. If you are emotionally attached to items for whatever reason. If you have a combination of any or all of these things or something completely different, please join us. No one here will judge you. We have something in common and we have a common goal. We share our ideas and we share our disappointments no matter how big and our celebrations no matter how small.

Welcome to thread number 2! :)

Hi folks just popping back on, so embarrassed at the state of the house today! Got a new pupil starting tomorrow but I really don't know the family so I've had a mad rush round this evening and will do more tomorrow. I'm horribly aware how futile it all is though because I just shoved stuff in boxes.

On a more positive note SIL visited today for the first time in several months and said it was looking loads better (this was before aforementioned panic tidy) so that was a boost.

We do have a crazy couple of weeks coming up with lots of rushing about so I'm not expecting to get anything useful done in the house. The best I can hope for is not making it worse, but even that is a struggle - clutter just breeds more clutter... almost exponentially! :(

Hi all.

Not much progress at all here, I've run out of space to store the stuff that needs to go to the tip. My parents are going to do a run for us later in the week so that will mean I can sort out some more.

Hope this last week of the summer break treats everyone kindly.

Have been away on holiday for mist of the summer. Back to the messy house tomorrow. Feel like i'm.drowning already

*most not mist!

After having most of the house clean two days ago....it seems like everything needs doing today, sigh.

Going to softplay and get pizza or tea (most shopping DS will tolerate...he is shouting and screaming about the trip out already. Apparantly it is the worse day ever and he would rather die than go shopping...joy.)

Then this afternoon is time to clean, tidy and ironing.

I have been trying to plan for this craft fair that I stupidly signed up for...it is going to take a lot of money and man hours to get ready and what if I sell nothing ! Arghh !

Right, time to dress the kids and get out of the house.

Well lictionary. Try to think about the money spent versus the space you need and cost of not being able to move freely about. I spend too much on clothes my kids don't need. I try to sell on some but thinking how much I spent verses how much more I need space.

Of course it's not that easy!

Four kids going to school / nursery so it's all out the window. Will get going again once they are settled

I used to have too many clothes for my Ds when he was little and I did it with Dd too quite a bit, but I've now started to think about what I have already and how often she wears them as I look at something else. She gets hand me downs from family, so I really don't need to spend so much and I'm getting there!
I did spend £45 on school shoes yesterday though!

Weekly clear out count (I'm at work thur/fri)
2 bin bags of rubbish
2 bin bags of recycling (including glass)
4 boxes of books to charity
2 bags of clothes to charity
1 box of toys & baby items to women's refuge

I seem to have yet more mess to deal with but I think I did ok for a blitz. Now I have to bring all the junk back from my mother's to sort out. I'm not letting myself get distracted by any crafty projects until the house has clear floors.

Solo sympathise with the cost of school shoes, especially as she also needs wellies , plus my 2yo has grown out of her wellies, crocs and shoes. 2boys I'm trying to consider my purchases more carefully from now on! babieseverywhere how did you get on? With the crap weather I've reverted to using my slow cooker again. Also a wave to pg and sleepyelectricsheep

6 bags and 5 boxes?! brilliant! well done

Sleepy have you name changed? or am I going crazy for sure?!

I spent all yesterday shopping for school stuff and trying on and sorting piles of stored school clothes......with three girls we hand down a lot of uniform.

Not sure two sets of shoes fit the right children (ordered online) so need to get shoes measured today.

House doing ok ish. ..no better no worse...ticking over I would say...with most of my time on parenting the children and getting ready for school.
I have to sew in tags and iron a lot of stuff this weekend !

Craft fair wise....I went to my lovely friends house for a brew and a panic....she grabbed a length of wallpaper and drew up a project plan for me. So now I know what I am doing week on week until the fair in mid October ! What a wonderful friend :)

My husband is setting up a website for me. What a wonderful husband :) It will have a shop and everything. Maybe I can bore you ladies with it when it is finished..I would love opinions from people I trust that are not family or RL friends who have to be nice about things :)

I rang HMRC yesterday to try and register as self employed and she said I shouldn't do it until a week before the fair.. I want to do it now and get organized but I shouldn't. She said I could put an eBay auction up without registering too but I feel very uneasy about it all. So I think I will register online at the weekend...so I can relax and not worry about doing/not doing the right thing.

Sounds good Babies! and yes please! I'm very crafty too, so always like to see other peoples craft wares!!!

I've had a little clothes sort today, but not nearly enough to dent it!

Hello, i've been on one of these threads before (new years resolution thread, perhaps?) know a lot of people from elsewhere anyway, being ill and also under investigation for asd (i notice a common theme here)!

Right now i am lying in bed doing bugger all and feeling rough as. But i will make a plan of attack as soon as i feel up to even thinking about it

I had a phone call today from the doctors asking me to come in to see the doctor about my results...abnormal result :( I scared....Googled possibilities (I know) and even the best option is long term issues.

So now I have to get the oldest three to school on Tuesday and go straight to get my offical results and find out what the next step is. Then Wednesday I have my "you are a bad parent" appointment with CAMHS.

All I can think is roll on Thursday.

Babies - so sorry but stay away from Google! My son has duplication on a gene know the cause long qt syndrome. He then he bad chest pains and went to A&E a few times. Dr Google informed me he needed a pacemaker or die at any moment. Cardiologist didn't agree and doesn't really know what's wrong but assures me it's not long qt.

My house is a tip. But I'm back at school which couldn't be more hideous if it tried.

Off to bed with wine, chocolate and pull my crap around close so the world can't get me.

Then try again next week.

Can we order clothes eating moths off eBay? Another person with hand me downs. Honestly that would solve 85% of my problem. Maybe they eat some books and plastic toys too? Mutant moths? That what I need. That bring vodka!

Yes, hopefully there will be another treason for the results...easily treatable that would be ace.

Well hugs from me. We arent supposed to hug on MN ( I mentally picture lots of hairy truckers when I read that!) so you can have a manly punch on the arm, by I'm a hugger

:)

Silly really.....last month I was sad as the first tests came back clear...ie. no clear treatment or cure and now I panic as they are finding put why I have been ill for so long. But whatever will be will be...just feeling down as I couldn't take the kids out to the park earlier as I was too unwell .....I hate letting kids down.

Right, got to carry youngest off to bed now...sleeping on sofa next to me...aww so sweet :)

Sorry, not sure what your symptoms are. I had really bad headaches before Dr suggested a brain tumour ( horrible few months of my life) MRI was clear so I was thinking how as I had a stabbing pain in my head every half hour at least for six years. It was suggested neuralgia, then I saw a migraine speacailist and I tried various drugs including anti depressants and epilepsy drugs to stop the nerve and it went, but I have since development more classic type migraines. I get the same pain in my gall bladder region now. Again years of scans but it's all clear. I think I suffer from random pain and misfiring nerves. It comes and goes. I do worry they have missed something.

Gosh! we're all a bit ill aren't we?! I'm also waiting for MRI results for horrendous headaches...next week if I can get in.

I hope everything is easily treated for whatever is the problem Babies

I'm a hugger too, so lets just all ((hug)) for support. we can look awkward and shuffle our feet afterwards if it makes you feel less than a Mumsnetter.

Hello iam welcome! :) I don't have asd, though it's common in my family, but I do have ocd which I've noticed is getting worse in recent months (I don't clean though).

2boys that's my thing too! pulling the crap around you for protection ~ well, I pull up the drawbridge to keep people away.

Fuzzpig where are you? how are you?

Urgh, not a hugger, i'll just do the awkward shuffling

Clothes eating moths would be amazing. Would have to do something with all the piles of 'thin' clothes i keep, ready for when i finally lose this weight! (Not going anywhere fast)

Babies :( i had one of those phone calls recently. Got in to the doctor after panicking about it and my bloody cholesterol was up. I could have killed them for the worry they caused!! still, hope it is something similar for you, annoying minor concerns causing panic is still better than a bad thing, iykwim

solo i was actually told i have ocd when i attempted ...(oh bloody hell, mind has gone blank. Therapy thingy, whatever its called. Stupid brain) and that is precisely why i am crap at tidying. She said that because i only ever want things to be absolutely perfect, i view at is too big a job to even bother starting.

CBT!!!

I am frequently housebound due to urgency with poo issues...felt better last week but I have been taken off iron tablets and it is not good. The test found blood in my sample and that is not good news....probably need more specific tests to get an answer...I have already been referred to hospital about this issue anyway but the 'new to me' local doctor wanted this last test done.

The 'old' doctor didn't see the need for tests or referral...had to beg for medicine to try...I honestly felt so bad earlier this year...I nearly cancelled my holiday...the meds seemed to work but without iron, things are getting worst and I am feeling tired again all the time.

That sounds horrible babies. I know a few people with very similar symptoms lots of tests but nothing seems wrong.

Let's hope they found a allergie type issue

I need CBT. But afraid doc will brush me off. If I can get my sons asd screening they aren't going to care I live in a tip.

Or will they?

Well, I won't offer you a hug then iam :)

I told you all how I admitted my hoarding to the GP a month or so ago and the anxiety and stress I'm suffering and it (the hoarding) seemed to have escalated back when my Dd's father and I split two timing, double life arse, Dad got cancer and died and 10 other close people in my life died in under a year. The doc seemed to understand the correlation between it all and suggested counselling and said I could self refer at the local MIND. I haven't yet, but will I think. It might be like CBT I suppose and I guess I'll be admitting the ocd then. I was aware of all the counting at age 7 and in the main, I've been able to just ignore it, not think of it, but it's rearing up in a big way atm and it scares me. And I can totally relate to the perfectionism which is such a contradiction when you are a hoarder ~ or so it seems to me!

Babies there is so much in the way of help with these things now, so lets just keep positive with you until you know where you are with it :) and hope it has a simple solution.

I only came onto Mn to check out a cleaning tip I've saved on watched as I'm cleaning the bathroom as it's disgusting!!!

Ok, close your eyes iam...

(((HUGS))) to you all.