Chatting and Stepping! Stepping and Chatting! (and the odd rant!)

[carrotsandcelery]

Come inside for a and a and maybe even a if the mood takes you.

A thread for chatter and nonsense

I forgot about peppermint. It is really effective. I hope it passes really quickly Cats.

bessie hurrah about the pipe. Whoever knew we would be delighted about such things? They really do make a difference though.

I am just off out to my beading class. This is the last one

Hmmm....

Forty minutes in I got a bit exasperated and said "If you get out of bed no Ben & Holly (his favorite) for you tomorrow." I heard him get up (but didn't see him) and said "Do you want Ben & Holly?" and he closed the door and hasn't gotten up since (15-20 minutes). I could hear him chattering to Bunny but I hadn't heard him get up. I can cope with chattering. The question is, was the closing the door a "no B&H" infraction?

Hmm - I think it is better to pretend you aren't aware that he got up out of bed again - as he didn't actually leave his room!

I would say yes, but maybe limit it? A sort of 'you did get up, but you didn't come out so you can have B&H, but only x.'

I just him "thunk" onto the floor, which is how I knew he was up.

Part of our problem is that 3/4 of the time he just lingers in his doorway. I've tried to only interfere if I can see him from sitting on my bed (which means he's so far into the doorway he's practically in the hall or in the hall itself). Otherwise it just feels like a game.

I do limit it anyway, but maybe if I only allow one (two tops when I might normally allow three or four spread out over the day) and explain why.

I think you keep it as positive and praiseworthy as you can Scout. If he more or less did what you asked then take the opportunity to go over the top with praise. That is what we have been told to do anyway and it seems to be helping ds.

I've finished painting! It's all done! (until the man comes to move the pipe anyway)

Oh yes, I spent a large part of the day praising him for being so polite (he really was -- it was commented on by loads of people) at the hospital, for being helpful, for going for his nap so nicely, etc. It was a completely tantrum-free, whine-free day.

What I mean is that if he is vaguely staying in his bed you should make a huge fuss about him getting it right and being a big boy etc. (in the morning obviously, not now) so that he gets lots of attention, and positive attention, when he gets it right.

Oh yes, I did that when he got up from his nap. "oh, wasn't it nice to sleep so nicely in your bed? You were very clever for staying in your bed and having your nap." Etc.

Why are you awake?

DD2. Her 4th tooth has just broken through.

Why are you awake?

Have finally got her back into bed asleep.

YAY for BabyBessie's new tooth!

Because TS has been up since 3, out of bed every 30 minutes (approx). More frequently since 5.

I am losing my marbles and the will to live.

I am about to start swearing in a minute (not at Toddler but about him).

I can't even go for a proper toilet break and my insides are twisted from frustration, lack of sleep and the need for the loo.

There's no way we can go swimming and for lunch with my friend.

I wasn't overly excited about lunch but I love our swimming session.

He's STILL at it. Still. I'm so cross and tired and I just want to cry. And I need the loo but when I do try I'm in knots and I get a visitor who should be in bed.

It's a vicious cycle.

Sorry scout I was laying in my bed, failing to get back to sleep. (which is most unlike me)

Is he still just mucking about? Have you heard of a Gro-clock? Do try to get out for some fresh air today, it will make you feel better.

Oh Scout! DOn't know what I can say other than ((((((((hugs)))))))) and that it will get better and be worth it. Remember you are the adult, he is the child. He is pushing every boundary and testing you to see how far he can get. This too will pass. I know it's all crappy platitudes, but I can't really offer anything else! Too early for so maybe a ? Actually, if you've been up all night, it's probably nice and late for a !

I've told him that we'll go have breakfast and then we'll go for a nap. If I can get him to nap we'll so swimming.

It's chucking it outside again and TS doesn't seem to know how to walk in his wellies so going for a puddle splash is out.

I've managed to get his travel blackout blind up a few minutes ago, after he waltzed in and didn't even scurry back to bed (which is how I knew I lost this battle every other time he saw me looking he ran to bed). It's nice and dark in there now might need another one for the hallway/landing window. I have also remade his bed as he had lost all of his sheets & blankets in the scurries, mucking about, etc.

I have lost the will to live, I really have.

I've decided no tv today, no paci except bed (which used to be the case but it seems to keep ending up downstairs as he's trying to cut those last molars) and early bedtime. MrScout's due home tonight -- he can have his microwave dinner from the other night and I'm going to bed when Toddler does. MrScout works locally on Fridays so have also decided he can do any middle-of-the-night visits tonight or I will lose the plot completely.

Sorry to moan. I know every child does it. I'm just tired and about to cry and not having an adult around regularly to talk to means I don't have anywhere else to vent.

scout please feel free to moan away! It will get better. Like camper says, he is testing your boundaries. Can you put a stairgate on his door so you can at least go to the loo in peace?

Wellies or not, I would still drag yourselves outside today. His shoes will dry on the radiator & it might make you feel a bit better (& tire him out a bit? Although he must be as exhausted as you)

I take it there will be no Ben & Holly today, but can you think of a reward (windmill?) for him if he stays in his room for a nap?

Must go, DD2 is redecorating the kitchen with weetabix!