Flinging our way through the chaos: February’s Fledgling Flyers

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Welcome to the February edition of the Fledgling Flyers' thread.

If you're living in CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome), this is the thread for you! We follow the tips on the FlyLady website in an attempt to restore order to our homes, but advise against signing up for the e-mails; all the information you need is on this thread.

Each day, I'll be posting the links that will enable you to do any of the following:

• start or repeat babysteps

• repeat babysteps and do 15 minutes a day decluttering in the current zone

or

• reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

More information about the babysteps is here.

So please join us - there's always plenty of chat, , cake, encouragement and the occasional to help us on our way!

linzer how annoying to have to prepare for lesson! Speaking of which I must work out what to do with catechism...

Ooh, is M&S definitely coming then, Neenook? My parents seemed fairly certain that Tesco was on its way and that was exciting enough. I was also ridiculously excited about Next - when I was at school, we had a choice between Dorothy Perkins and Evans Outsize (can it actually have been called Evans Outsize?). Oh, and Peacocks - I remember learning in geography that Peacocks only opened shops in deprived areas.

Apologies for the hijack - I am severaly deprived of decent shops here; even shopping in Aber is bliss in comparison.

Ds is likely to be home today. Bonus of a party at home is that no costs were lost just time and effort. So can be rearranged. unfortunately he has been told he has a minimum of 3 month recover, yep he did it that well. Isnt getting a hard cast until next wk and is gutted as it means no more training until sept. The scooter has been hidden. other then that he has adjusted really well and the only thing he has left to try himself is the wipe his bum. He is also gutted as he can't play on his ds as he needs two hands for that. Promised him we'd go pick a film up from tesco's on the way home.

Right going to grab an hours kip before back to the hospital. Can't bare to be in the same room as ds' dad, it's going to be a difficult wkend. Thanks for all the thoughts and well wishes.

swan Well, I didn't actually use the lesson I'd planned - and two of the mothers insisted on paying, so I got paid ?10 for doing little more than chauffeuring and supervising (and providing two Milchbrötchen). Although on balance, I think I'd have preferred the extra 1.5 hours.

Glad ds is coming home bitchy

Had a hallelujah moment with DP AT LAST!! I have been nagging him our whole relationship about putting dirty clothes in the wash basket, whilst picking up after him etc. following our row last week I just stopped, haven't nagged but haven't picked up after him either. Just washed what was in wash basket and tried my very best to ignore all his clothes all over the bedroom floor. He went to work in football shorts this morning as he has no clean trousers went to get the wash basket and he's put all his dirty clothes in!! Here's hoping hes realised!!!

Good news that your DS will be home soon, Bitchy.

at your DH in his football shorts, lauren. I can't imagine it's very warm where you are, so hopefully it will have taught him a lesson!

Sorry to hear about your DS arm Bitchy. How old is he? Two girls in DD class yr3 have broken their arm this term. Shame about his party - DD was ill one year and I had to cancel her party, thankfully at home, within a few hours of it starting as Dr said it would be best. I froze her cake which defrosted beautifully a week later.

Have been beavering away today:

Cleaned lounge windows (don't have any in dining room as it's a through room with the lounge)
Hoovered all downstairs
Washed all floors downstairs
Cleaned both bathrooms and loos
Changed beds
Washing done
Dusted lounge
Waited in for a friend who now isn't coming, so i'm off to the gym before school pickup.

Sorry I haven't been around much this last few days. All the family have a vile sickness bug, me included (thanks dd1 )

Feel awful so no flying tonight, or probably this weekend.

Will pop in once the sick bowls have ceased being passed around....

Ds is in year 2. this is the second year running his party has been cancelled. last year never ended up being rescheduled as he has a stupid busy routine. However, i can see there being a possibility of another time simply because he has to stop doing loads of stuff to heal.

We are now home and the to do list for today looks like this:

training
pick up eggs
put up birthday banners and get balloons blown up and up
make sure all birthday presents wrapped (there is one that i know needs doing)
sleep
make sure alarm is set for early for doing birthday breakfast.
Put candles onto birthday cake.

School run
Loaded car for dump
DH has gone to dump
Two more bags ready for charity
Two bags ready to donate to friend
Made beds
Load of washing
Hung washing
Empty dw and reloaded
Dinner

Tomorrow's list

Wash uniforms
Sort books in ds's room
De-hair my carpet
Hoover upstairs
Visit charity shop
Drop birthday card to cousin
Declutter toiletries
Mop kitchen and bathroom floors
All clean clothes away

Sorry for lack of personals but I am reading the thread. Work is crazy at the moment so lots of plate spinning is going in and I am afraid something will go soon.

Waves and to all!!

Hello. After a hectic week at work, I am finally here!

Hello everyone.

My DH for those that remember him (depression) is going away tomorrow and I will be in my own. It's going to be hard but I am just hoping he has some recovery. Hoping too that our two daughters are good to me! That I am not too shattered!

Evening all x

Lauren, also laughing at football shorts. My husband is a slob,took a few screaming arguments to get the message through. I'm not your maid i'm not your maid...like a broken record!!

Not a great deal done as out almost entire day.
Dw done
Wm on and hung.
Downstairs hoovered
Food shop done and away
Sink shiny
Dw on kitchen cleaned

Nght all

Bitchy - Hope DS's birthday goes well, in spite of the cancelled party. The birthday breakfast sounds lovely!

Cristiane - so sorry you are going to be without DH for a while. Maybe it will be good for you to have a break from caring though. Can you make plans of fun things to do with your DC to distract you and keep you all busy? When DH was working long hours and I was looking after young DC on my own non-stop (and childminding - glutton for punishment!), I planned every day like a military operation - it was the only way I could cope. Good luck - and remember that we are all here for support whenever you need us.

NickNacks - sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. Any chance of a break at the weekend (not much, from the look of that list)?

FlyingLugholes - Will never forget our family's sickness bug and accompanying buckets and bowls from last year. Truly vile. I hope you all recover swiftly.

Linzer - that's so annoying for you to lose that precious time, even if you did get paid for it!

Sorry, no more time for personals as I'm late getting DS2 to bed. DS1 has been very difficult today, which is probably because he's bored being at home all day and frustrated because he's too anxious to go out. He has been invited to his best friend's house tomorrow and I so want him to go. Am planning to spend some time with DS2 tomorrow - swimming, followed by hot chocolate and cakes in a local cafe.

Really want DS1 to go back to school, but I know it's not going to be a quick or easy process. Ellie - do you have any experience of school-phobic children? I would love to hear some success stories!

Must go. Night all.

Evening all,

Toffee Sorry to hear your DS has been difficult today; I hope he manages to get out tomorrow. I can see us all getting cabin fever next week (semester break, and DH away the first half of the week too) as this cold weather isn't very conducive to getting out, but I really will have to make the effort.

Cristiane Do you know how long your DH will be away for? It must be hard for you, even though you know it's going to help him so is for the best for everyone in the long term. As Toffee said, you can always pop in here for support or just whenever you need it.

Bitchy Good to hear DS is home in time for his birthday; hope he has a lovely day tomorrow.

Flying Get well soon. Sickness bugs are just horrible.

swan Hope you managed to come up with some ideas for catechism. I'm enjoying having a week off from lesson planning now that the last lesson-that-wasn't-actually-a-lesson is out of the way (and has put me back in a I-can't-be-bothered-with-teaching mood ).

Waves to Chickens, Nick, Lady and anyone else around/who I've missed.

Saturday's links

The babystep today is to write down the things that we're already doing - basically, shining our sinks and getting dressed to lace-up shoes (or otherwise) - on post-it notes and stick them in visible places so that friends and family may wonder about our sanity. It is important to start writing down your routines as it forms the basis of your control journal, but you may choose to do so more discreetly. IIRC I used a small notebook initially.

There's no mission today as it's the weekend. Saturday is Family Fun Day. Here are the reminders for Saturday, although you don't need to worry about most of them if you've only just started with the babysteps.

Thanks Linzer

It's hard because I work full time and very full days. I can't believe I'm going to manage to have the energy to keep the house nice on top of everything else. It is going to be hard.

For example, I have to shine the sink but I am so tired! And tomorrow there will be no one else to help and so I really just have to do it but all I want to do is sleep!

DH initially away for two Weeks but I think it may well be more than that and he has a changeable return ticket, he is going to stay with his father and see new doctors, therapist, psychiatrists etc. I just want him to get better no matter how long it takes. But i am scared. My DH has been so down, suicidal in the past, and I am always terrified of something awful happening.

toffee I remember when I was young I desperately wanted to be home schooled. I used to nag and nag. His your son experienced bullying? Does he have special needs that are not being attended to? Am so sorry if I have have missed this. You have given me so much support and I have been rubbish in return.

Good evening. Finished for today :)
Cristiane I sympathise with working long days out of the house and trying to keep on top of things as I do the same. I just do what I can in the week and try not to fret about what gets missed. I have found that if I have a break (other than to eat!) I don't get going again so I now do the kitchen - DW, WM, wipe surfaces & shine sink - as soon as we have eaten. Also batch cook so I have healthy meals ready in the freezer. A load in the WM each evening helps as well.
Bedtime here I think. See you tomorrow

morning all! Saturday morning here (v early) so, I am up, not dressed - but I have done dishwasher and kitchen swish and swipe and the bed is made. DH also up early.

Going to get dressed and head over to the tip to get rid of all the rubbish that has been cleared out. Anything recycled has been, charity shop has been donated, everything else needs to go to the tip, so that is this mornings task. Joy.

Morning, Jax. Looks like you are off to a great start this morning!

Well, I went to bed too late (researching school phobia), thinking that DS1's tutor wasn't coming today so we could all sleep in this morning (DS1 has been sleeping in till 10 or 11 whilst off school), but, of course, it didn't work out that way. DS1 got up at 8am, which woke the rest of us (he's not the quietest boy and, unfortunately, one of his OCD habits involves opening and shutting his bedroom door several times till it feels 'right', which drives us all banaaaaanas! Crash, crash, crash). At least this means I can try to get him back into a normal sleep routine. But why did it happen on the one day I could have slept in? (Apologies to those for whom 8am is a lie in - I have been through that but, thank goodness, the boys sleep in longer these days, given the chance).

So, am feeling a bit dopey, but need to pull myself together. List required:

Bath, hair, dress, try to look human
Swish and swipe
Washing on
Unload d/w
Reload d/w with b/fast stuff etc.
Find swimming stuff for me and DS2, plus money
Dispatch DS1 to his friend's house
Take DS2 swimming
Home for lunch

No plans for the afternoon. Quite fancy curling up in front of an open fire with a good book whilst DS2 plays with Lego

Morning all! I am struggling to keep up so I apologise for lack of personals!

To do:
Meet mum to walk dogs and have a catch up
DD at birthday party

• both of these will take me to 3pm so this afternoon I will

Clean round kitchen, put recycling in garage Living room hotspot Clean outdoor rabbit Hoover Planning

BBL

Morning,

Well I am still in the 8 am is a lie-in stage, so yes we were up before then and by 8:30 was dressed (to slippers), sink shined and dw emptied.

Now off to pack a suitcase for my dc's... their dad, my ex-p, lives in America now, and he's coming to visit for the week so they are going to stay with him for a few days. Not looking forward to it, as so unsettling for them, but dd is excited (mainly because Daddy is bringing her presents - his idea of being a good dad ).

Anyway, enjoy your weekends
poeia. PS - linzer thanks for the advice re the soft toy storage.

I remember my Dad bringing me a bagful of presents from Hamlyns after my parents split up, poeia - it is one of my happiest memories!

Lauren - don't worry about personals. I often can't manage them - it takes too long. But I do like reading what everyone is up to.

Only read the last few posts, have not got the mental energy to catch up with everything!
Toffee I know! On New Years Day I offered to take my dad to the airport at 8.00am, knowing it wouldn't matter as dd2 is ALWAYS awake around 6.30.
Well, withouth even having a late night, she managed to sleep and sleep until I had to wake her up at 7.45 in order to take my dad to the airport!!!!

It always happens like that.

Not a great day here. It's dd2's Christening (we left it very late, she's 2!!), I was really looking forward to it, matching outfits for the girls and all, but DD1 is very poorly so I've ended up having to stay home with her while the Christening goes ahead without me.
DH has family from abroad so didn't really feel fair to cancel it.

I didn't think I'd feel so gutted, but I so want to be there! At least for the church part. (never mind that we'd booked a restaurant after that I've been dying to go to for months).

Boo hoo.

Sorry, just thought I'd come here for a whinge, since there is no one else to whinge to at home!

Oh, and I'm stuck at home and we've run out of milk so no coffee...

Will catch up with thread now and get familiar with all the new names!
Happy Saturday everyone!

Justonemore - that is so unfair on you! I'm so sorry you are missing your DD's Christening. Can't anyone else stay with your DD1 just for the Christening bit or is she too poorly to be with anyone but mum?

at your DD sleeping in. How come they wake up at the crack of dawn at weekends and won't wake up for school on weekdays? (Oh no, wait! I think we know the answer to that...).

Am still browsing MN and am meant to be taking DS swimming. Seem to have ground to a halt!