June know it's the fledgling flyers?

[Stillchuckingit]

A warm welcome to the June Fledgling Flyers' thread.

If the state of your house is getting you down, this is the thread where we follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style ) with lots of chat and support along the way and where lace-up shoes are definitely optional.

A huge thank you to Linzer for keeping us all on track so splendidly during May and thank you to DroitwichMummy for the thread title.

As usual, we will be following the Flylady three-pronged approach:

1. Baby-steps (a daily step to establish routines)
2. Then baby-steps + 15 mins daily decluttering
3. (And once decluttered) babysteps + daily missions

If you are feeling overwhelmed by clutter and mess, you can make a difference, one step at a time.

For more information, have a look here. You don't need to sign up to Flylady e-mails (we advise you not to do so in fact - you will be overwhelmed - all the information you need can be gleaned from this thread).

All long-standing members, intermittent returnees, lurkers and newcomers welcome!!

oh your poor ds Linzer hope he feels better soon. 31° in Vienna??? It's a rainy 19°C here. Hope your dh isn't finding Bxls too depressing. It's not the most beautiful city at the best of times .. even worse in the rain ...

Toffee arf at that thread. "Does he Cillit Bang his Chicken Penang?" is a classic!!

Have olympic ticket Feetheart but well done to you! All this has passed me by rather - intended to apply - and then didn't. Would only really have been interested in seeing the equestrian sports though. Do you not get to choose which event you see then? Surely they want a crowd of ping-pong officionados around the ping-pong and hurling enthusiasts around the hurling though don't they? Or does everyone get a ticket and then madly swap?

Swan I can reliably inform your dh that socks disappear whether you pair them or not!! Good luck wrestling with the Hornby.

[Triple espresso to CBH ]

Huge waves to Scatty (you have your hands full!) and everyone else

I must gird my loins and go and play Playmobil show-jumping

Last thing I feel like currently I must admit

Heigh- ho

actually that should be

neeeigggghhhhh nooooooo!!

[SC tosses mane and canters (slowly) downstairs]

piano practice
email plumber about radiator

SC there you are, SC I am of the mere fact that your dd likes playing with horses, and playmobil. Was reading Black Beauty yesterday in school library, and holding back the tears.

P.S. I think you only apply for the tickets you are interested in, but are obviously more likely to get them if no-one else is

Sorry Flylady. One of my pairs of shoes to go, as per the mission, are the black lace-ups...

arf at Blue and subversive lace-up-shoe-chucking!

Swan yes that makes sense about tickets - it would indeed be horrible to be stuck at a synchronised swimming event without wishing to be there!

I know I should be grateful for dd's horse infatuation which usually allows me all sorts of vicarious pleasure ... just not feeling up to crawling around on the parquet at the moment ... but at least can construct passable water jumps out of Lego ...

[sniff] at Black Beauty

Had a bit of a day here. First, met a dyslexia tutor, who was really nice and very experienced. He can provide advice on managing school, as well as providing private tutoring for DS, which relieves me of some of the burden.

Then, we met the psychiatrist again. This time, she met Toby too. The result is a prescription for Prozac, plus a report on his special needs, which are : social anxiety; dyslexia; OCD; Tourettes Syndrome; and ASD traits.

I know we have been fighting for answers, but I feel shit now. I know it will pass once I've absorbed it all. Am going for a walk now.

Poor you Toffee that is a huge amount to take on board. You are bound to be feeling overwhelmed and worried for your ds. I've no experience of sn so hesitate to comment, but try and hang on the fact that diagnosis (although bound to be hard to listen to) is the first step to treatment. And will (I hope) make your dealings with school a bit easier in that you can actually point to a report (not that you should have to do this to get them to listen!) Very good that you are getting support with private tutoring too. Anyway, didn't mean to come on here like some ignoramus and say "cheer up, everything's hunky dory" just wanted to send you support and positive thoughts through cyberspace. Hope your walk brings you some peace x

Just a flying visit to give Toffee a ((((hug))). (have pm'ed)

Feet how exciting!!! at looking up the volleyball rules!!

Swan and you being glad that you havent got tickets. My Dsis didnt get any and is gutted cos she put in for loads and had to keep loads of money in her account just in case they were all successful.

as I pass by....... I hope to return properly this evening, or if I have not got anything constructive to tick off my invisible list, I will try again tomorrow.

I've also PMed you Toffee (great minds think alike, PA ).

SC Your DD would have loved the horses at Playmobil land; my three spent ages grooming them, and aren't even particularly interested in horses normally.

DS has spent most of the afternoon lying on the sofa and has also had a nap, but seems to be a little brighter now. Luckily a friend was able to take DD2 to and from ballet, so I haven't had to go out since the school run at midday. Am looking forward to DH getting back later this evening; at least we can all relax tomorrow, as it's a bank holiday.

No ta-da list, and I really, really need to tackle the playroom...

Toffee
sending lots of sympathy, (and I bet you are exhausted too after last nght). I would feel like, how could she decide all these things about my child, when she's only just met him. But I suppose they are just diagnostic labels, they aren't judgements. From what you describe about ds the whole SS buildup has had a lot to do with his deterioation (sp) over last few weeks, and he was really quite happy before that once you got him away from school problems.

Personally I think we are all disasters waiting to happen - anyway I have to go, everyone here is screaming ...
sorry not being very coherent.
Hope you remember he is still exactly the same child you love, whatever a cold clinical appraisal puts down about him.

Thank you, lovely Flyladies. I knew you'd cheer me up. Swan - you made me laugh with your 'Personally I think we are all disasters waiting to happen' . Yes, I know he is still the same boy I love. But it makes me sad to think of all he has been contending with over the years, whilst all these silly adults, including his parents, try to chivy him along. He was just doing his best.

And Still - on the contrary, what you say is very sensible and very comforting.

Linzer and PA - will go and check my PMs. Thank you.

Had a good long walk. Also stocked up on an awful lot of files and stationary to start the battle to get a statement. Met a friend on the way back and we had a good chat about it (she has watched our struggles with DS over the years and been very supportive about it) until her son, understandably, started asking when I was going home!

DH has poured me a glass of wine. I feel bad for him too. I didn't mention it before, but he has said he doesn't mind me mentioning it on MN because it's anonymous - anyway, the psyc. suggested he be tested for ADHD, which is linked to Tourettes. So he has that to come to terms with too.

Toffee - it is hard getting the diagnosis and the shock does were off eventually and relief set in. in the mean time.

Done too much.
Room emptied
painting done
most of room reconstructed furniture wise
stuff being culled on way back into room]
Got cooked watching swimming lesson
feel ill going to bed.
Night

Thanks, CHB. I cried when I was told DS was dyslexic, but I am so used to that now. So I know I'll get used to this too, in time.

So sorry you are feeling ill. Hope sleep helps.

Have just read your post Toffee I don't have anything else to add that hasn't already been said but i'm sending you a BIG ((hug))

Hi again Toffee Glad your friend was able to offer you some support. Try not to feel guilty about the past - if your posts on here are anything to go by - you couldn't have been a more caring and concerned mother, continually providing and rallying support for your ds. What Swan says about school makes sense too. Sending you and your dh lots of tonight and hope you manage to catch up on some sleep x

Linzer I can see I am going to have to try and get dd to Playmobil land at some point. Where is it exactly please? Glad your ds feeling a bit better tonight and hope he continues to improve.

CHB sorry you are feeling rough. HOpe you can catch up on some sleep tonight.

Huge waves to PA Swan and Pink and everyone else!

If no-one minds I am going to post steps now to avoid falling asleep and having to post in the early hours. (Also - I think I am going to bed down on the sofa for a bit and have a cackle at the Apprentice - the candidates are in Paris tonight apparently)

Apologies! Whatever time I do it - I seem to miss the majority of all your evening posts! It's surprising what a difference just being one hour ahead of UK makes!

Baby-step no. 23 for Thursday 23 June is here and is quite a useful one about establishing an afternoon routine.

Tomorrow, we will still be in Zone 4, the master bedroom here

And the mission for tomorrow will appear here once the Flylady site updates itself. It's time to clean your bedside tables!

For a sneak peak at the week?s missions, look here www.flylady.net/pages/sneak_peek.asp

Thursday is errand day

Reminders here!

See you in the morning!

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evening all
toffee well done on having survived your day. getting a diagnosis is always a blow, even when fully expected, and it seems you have a lot to take in. allow yourself time to let it sink in. And I would agree with others in saying it sounds as if you have done more than your best for ds from your past posts so diefinitely nothing to dwell on there. The good thing about diagnsoses can be that they focus people and enable more appropriate help/support to be put in place which is a good thing. Hope you get some sleep and have a peaceful day tomorrow.

scatty Hi! good to see you're still around!

swan yes, you're right that the main aim of the nanny was to help DS2 be happier about me going to work, and that has worked , so not total failure!

everyone else Hi!

ok, day very hectic (no change there then!) but have survived!
Usual morning routine
Made tuna pasta for dinner before work (good tactic I find!)
remembered to drop DD1 disposable cameras in for developing (from school trip) and collected piccies (happy dd1...phew!)
mad day at work....
home, dealt with poorly ds2
have also managed to fit in 7 mile run.yay!

and my new diary has arrived which I am hopeful will aid somewhat in bringing a tad more organisation to the logistics of co-ordinating the busy lives of 8 people and a dog!

Am now very tired so will be off to bed soon...
tomorrow is my Bday ! so am planning a nice evening of chilling with glass of wine after work...DH and kids are doing dinner...so will take it slightly easier

will try and get on earlier tomorrow and catch up better !

Toffee - hugs from S Beds too. It is so hard to have something in black and white even when you know things aren't right. A friend went through it last year when her DS was finally diagnosed at 13. A loooooong fight but it really upset her to see things written down.
If its any help it was the high school that pushed it all forward for a statement, they seemed much more geared up for it than the primary school.
Walking, wine and chatting are always good for sorting thoughts out, hope it all helped.

SC - we applied for tickets for lots of different events - DC made a list - volleyball was one of the more obscure ones DS decided to put on his list, not even sure he knows what it is

'Ta da' list for today :):

• Visit dentist for check-up, all OK though preventative work planned for Autumn
• Visit friends in flat below mine
• Take picture in to frame (about 6 years late )
• Mooch around shops
• Buy fruit/veg in nice market including gooseberries - yum!
• Pick DS up from school (DD off with SiL) and mooch home

and very, very little Flying.....again. Nice day though and there is always tomorrow!

More hugs for Toffee - sounds like a lot to come to terms with all at once.
Hope you have good nights CHB and SC.

Ta-da!
Music with DS2
Dropped off playgroup form
Quick shopping
Rang wm repairman
cleaned bins
Dusting
Shoe mission (see above )
Work
Made pasta/cauli cheese for the boys
Zumba!
Cleaned kitchen

DH is trying to sort out the utility room ahead of the wm guy coming and has found an infestation of ants behind the washing machine, so ant poison has gone down. :(

To do :
remake beds
finish tidying utility room (if there's time)
get fringe trimmed
hoovering
mop floors
tidy desk
pay CM
Oh yes, and a day's work.

Well done on the tickets feet. I don't think I know anybody else who's got any!

Hope DS is better tomorrow Linzer.

Waves to everyone else. Night all.

So much for a lie-in on the bank holiday; DS woke up about an hour ago. He obviously slept too much during the day yesterday (although I'm sure he needed it). He had quite a high temperature when he went to bed last night, but seems better this morning - although he's lounging on the sofa watching CBeebies at the moment, so it's hard to tell for sure! I'll have to keep a close eye on him to make sure he doesn't wake up DD1 (DD2 stayed overnight at a friend's), as I let her stay up late to see DH when he got back.

Blue Sympathies re the ants; we have infestations in the DDs' room and the bathroom. The ant bait has been fairly effective, but I think we need to put more down.

OFM A new diary always makes me feel organised. Having said that, I've decided that buying the Family Weekly Planner, Pocket Life Book and Family Life Book from Organised Mum was probably overkill and I can do without one of them next year.

SC The Playmobil FunPark is near to Nuremberg; unfortunately their website only appears to be in German. If you want to stay in the Playmobil hotel next door to the park, you'll need to book early; it was fully booked until August (at the weekends/in the summer holidays, at least) when we decided to go a couple of months ago. Let me know if you need any more information!

Toffee Hope things are looking better this morning after a good night's sleep - like OFM and others have said, you really have done everything you can for your DS.

Just flying through.

toffee hope you and your lovely family are feeling ok today.

Quick list:
clean fridge
dust
flip chair cushions
make spare bed
laundry, laundry. laundry

Mother is coming tomorrow!

I feel exhausted this morning after rubbish night's sleep. Now I've lurched from last week's bad cold to AF so lost all motivation and for some reason feeling generally super tense and anxious.

however
today is piano day, so I've done some piano
forced ds1 to do some violin (he is really slacking off - needs exams, new teacher, something...possibly a BAND?)
need to go to school library - worryign about library politics

carpet cleaner coming to steam clean 1 mattress, 5 chairs and a large carpet today
rescue kitchen again
try and get ds1 to do his school project (already worrying about this)
dtwins spellings, check they have them when they come out of school or we'll have another screamign heebyjeebies on Friday morning

Tomorrow is frantically busy with bits and bobs, nothing serious, just a long list of appts, so worrying in advance about that really too, I need a sedative Worried about all the childrens' friends, do they have any? Do I need to start being superproactive and inviting all their friends round....When are we ever going to get to stage of having people round to dinner? Should I make more effort to have supper parties???? SC you are very good at inviting people round and so is Feet...

Alright, going to stop worrying, put plates in dw, and head off to school for some soothing office work. Work is the only answer!

Morning. Slept a lot now feel like death. have choice between feeling sick from the pain from injuries or feeling sick from the pain killers. Over training has seriously caught up with me. Going to go hide under the duvet for a few hours. Need to be functional for later. Just hope ds doesnt go into meltdown mode again tonight. Not sure i could cope with that.

have swept up all the dust under large (ginormous) rug which involved moving loads of furniture
a bit of Schubert - stumped by 6/8 time
rescued kitchen, and found the broom in garden

feel slightly less anxious Still the other half of the playroom furniture to move though and need to bring hoover all the way down from loft [sigh]

CHB fortifying onelselfagainst meltdowns is a good way of preventing them, it's when they catch you offguard Hope you feel better soon.