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[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

New thread ladies

Just going to put DS to bed and then I'll be back with my list.

Purple, you are so right i know you are. If it was just a case of find a dentist i could probably do that. but..i want one that specialises in caring for 'nervous' patients. and DH has said he will ring his dentist to get the boys on their books so then i only have to worry about me. I'm considering going private...

Wed:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• tea & wake up properly DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to sch DONE
• DS2 to pre-sch DONE
• try out new swimming pool DONE
• home for bath DONE
• jobs if time; Catch up on FB, MN & email & news DONE
• lunch & tidy up DONE
• other jobs; book haircut DONE

wash swimming stuff WM On

• collect DS1 DONE
• poss go straight to Factory Shop with him for sledges, glitter & batteries DONE (except batteries)
• tv time Doing

• tea x 3 (fish fingers)
• boys bath (must do) & bed
• DH home late

Longer term:

• Find new dentist that is taking on NHS patients; have looked up some to ring
• Photos: a) move all photos from DH's PC onto time capsule, b) upload photos of DC to Snapfish & order
• order door curtain for front door; need to email seller about sizes (got measurements); Pole up
• clean kitchen cupboard doors
• set up Time Capsule with DH's laptop (this weekend)
• make up basket of toys & pictures for DS2; Got Basket
• pictures to label 'animals' & 'people' & 'cars' boxes
• pile of blankets to homeless centre (some basic shopping first & go through bedding/towels too; Started)
• DS2's new DLA forms; ask on MN, get HV to help, questions for friend with NT 3yr old, etc.
• photos of bits for eBay; Take Photos DONE; Prices from RM DONE; Upload Photos Done Some; list on eBay
• DS2 Statement forms; Need DH to sign
• haircut Booked for Fri
• buy sleds DONE

Afternoon!

Freak, I think you're just having to go cold turkey on the wc, no contact. It's not fair on either of you, or the girlfriend really.
You deserve better.

My sore shoulder is making me very grumpy.

Had a good start to the day, but am flagging now, so -

• close the curtains, lock the door and turn the heating up
• tea
• wash pots
• tidy up + PUT THE SOFA COVER ON
• DS bath and bed
• Christmas planning - get it all sorted
• knitting

Afternoon everyone :)

Quite a productive day here, and scan went well We don't know what we're having, sonographer couldn't be sure. There weren't any obvious boy bits, but that doesn't mean anything so we are planning for another neutral baby! Rang my Mum, and she said 'well that's not very helpful for knitting!'
Important thing is though that the heart is all fine and baby had grown the requisite amount since a fortnight ago - maybe I will stop worrying now!!!!

Freak - :( :( I feel so bad for you. I know that it will be hard for him too, but don't feel too sorry for him. When he leaves you he goes home to someone else, so he really isn't being fair on you at all, or his girlfriend. He is being very ungentlemanly I think. If I lived nearer I would come and give him a piece of my mind

DONE
All up, showered and dressed
Breakfast
DH into office for the morning
Unload dishwasher and clear up breakfast
Fold washing
Sweep and wash kitchen floor
Tidy downstairs
Hoover downstairs
Wipe over bathroom
De-limescale kitchen taps
Clean kitchen skirtings and cupboard fronts
Walk to Sainsbury's for lunch bits
Friend and DDs coming for lunch
DH home
Scan while friend looks after DS
Clear up kitchen
DS nap
Sit down

TO DO
Put a wash on
Tidy lego
Dinner - sausages

Hey ladies

Ali congrats on neutral baby

Freak you deserve better, and you will find someone perfect

House is an absolute hole atm. Thought i was doing ok catching up after the holiday, but yesterday i was dying had this 12hr gastric flu bug so back to square one again. F feeding fussily, so bit ifficult to do list right now, will be back shortly though (hopefully)

Wasting - curtains shut & heating on here :)

Ali - glad all ok at scan :)

Wed:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• tea & wake up properly DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to sch DONE
• DS2 to pre-sch DONE
• try out new swimming pool DONE
• home for bath DONE
• jobs if time;

Catch up on FB, MN & email & news DONE

• lunch & tidy up DONE
• other jobs;

book haircut DONE wash swimming stuff WM On

• collect DS1 DONE
• Factory Shop with him for sledges, glitter & batteries DONE (except batteries)
• tv time Doing
• tea x 3 DONE

• boys bath (must do) & bed
• DH home late

Thurs:

• DH up first
• breakfast & tidy up
• all dressed
• DS1 to sch/DH to work
• DS2 to pre-sch
• meet friends for tea & croissant :)
• Matalan/Primark for Christmas concert bits for DS1 (long sleeve white t-shirt & long white trousers) & batteries
• lunch & tidy up
• PIL arriving at some point
• check spare room is ready
• collect DS1 (with PIL)
• leave boys with PIL for scan (15.40)
• tea x 6 (what? lasagne maybe)
• boys to bed
• chilled evening hopefully

Longer term:

• Find new dentist that is taking on NHS patients; have looked up some to ring
• Photos: a) move all photos from DH's PC onto time capsule, b) upload photos of DC to Snapfish & order
• order door curtain for front door; need to email seller about sizes (got measurements); Pole up
• clean kitchen cupboard doors
• set up Time Capsule with DH's laptop (this weekend)
• make up basket of toys & pictures for DS2; Got Basket
• pictures to label 'animals' & 'people' & 'cars' boxes
• pile of blankets to homeless centre (some basic shopping first & go through bedding/towels too; Started)
• DS2's new DLA forms; ask on MN, get HV to help, questions for friend with NT 3yr old, etc.
• photos of bits for eBay; Take Photos DONE; Prices from RM DONE; Upload Photos Done Some; list on eBay
• DS2 Statement forms; Need DH to sign

Great news re scan Ali. Wasting, ice pack shoulder? Freaki am sad for you, you sound so nice. What kind of partner would you really like? make a wish list. If you get really clear about him maybe he'll come along.(sympathetic magic)

Not done a lot really as had to make a 30mile round trip to get flipin printer cartridge. They run out sooo quickly.
List
Print and prep weekend mostly done
tidy up sadly nope
kitchen I tried
dishy done
shopping
sweep floors
washing
make soup started
bring in Olive tree OOO must do
see student done
invoices for DH
Xmas shopping now becoming an area of DOOOM
accreditation stuff
New files/folders for company new year. This can only mean one thing.....Stationary

Thanks again everyone, am a right whinger aren't I??? Wasting yep cold turkey is needed I think, I was doing ok not seeing him even though I was really missing him. At least my windows are sorted for the next few weeks so there is no reason for him to come (apart from ds having invited him to his birthday ). And at least the feeling sad was restricted to a few hours last night, improvement anyway!

Mini I had an ideal man list a few threads back, will see if I can dig it out

Have not done much today but have finished xmas shopping! Just need the xmas pjs and a tin of biscuits or something for my nan. Where's good for cheapish pj's?

dig it out. lets work on it
I love a challenge.

Have had a search but couldn't find it and don't fancy trawling through all our threads! The bits I can remember off the top of my head are:
Nice smile
Friendly
Affectionate
Good with children
Positive thinker

That's not much to ask is it?

Evening all. Welcome to Shaxx!

Well, change of plan for yesterday, hadn't felt LO's movements all day so called hospital, who asked me to come for monitoring. All fine but asked to come back for scan today to be on the safe side.

Went in for scan this morning, all fine and LO back to usual movements (clearly having a sleepy day yesterday). And then I asked the MW what the estimated weight was. 4700g, which didn't sink in until later when I converted it into pounds. 10lbs 5oz. Crikey. Due date Saturday 27th November.

Glad to hear your scan went well too Ali.

Late list following nap:

Today
Washing up
Washing
Pram?
Cook dinner
Run up and down stairs/lunges/squats/seduce DH/anything to help LO along

Glad the scan went well Comtessa and all is ok with baby. Had similar with dd where she stopped moving much and I had to be monitored, think she was just getting ready to come out

Congrats Ali and Comtessa! Exciting baby stuff going on for both of you!

Sorry, Freakoid I don't really know your situation but it sounds like youre getting good advice here. Good luck!

Well, I didn't progress as much as I wanted to with my list but I had a friend come over in the morning and another friend came in the afternoon with her son.
I also had to go to the supermarket which I forgot to put on my list.

I bought a scented candle and my living room smells wonderful. Its tidy too. Dh is at a Xmas party so I'm going to love chilling out on my own this evening

get up 7.15 - done
put on a wash - done
exercise - done
shower, get dressed and get kids sorted - done
put away the pile of clean clothes
clean and tidy kitchen - done
clean and tidy living room - done
clean bathroom - done
clean kids bedroom
clean our bedroom
hoover whole house
mop everywhere
cook dinner

Comtessa glad all was well but at a 10 pound baby. Both of mine were small, but with DD she was a good half a pound under the estimate from the scan a week before she arrived, so perhaps your baby will be a little bit smaller. Definitely a good size though....

JKS - we also had fish fingers here today. I completely understand where you are coming from re nervous dental patients. I was the same for a long time, but I've got over it a bit now after I had a root canal that went wrong . I had so much stuff done that I kind of got over the fear because none of it was as bad as I thought. That said, I'm still scared of the hygienist and have a bit of a phobia about having my gums touched .

Ali, congratulations on the scan. My DB just had a baby and didn't know the sex and it really interfered with my mum's knitting!!!!! When I had DD, she turned up in advance with two massive bags full of knitted baby girl's clothes

So back to the list.

WEDNESDAY - done
change children's beds done
DS swimming lesson done
check bank account done
moving savings to new account done
make children's beds done twice
look into shred and possibly order ordered
make counselling appointment didn't do it
tidy inside my wardrobe done
put away washing done
meal plan for weekend done
organise ds's hospital stay this weekend
DD ballet lesson done
DD homework done
DD final 3 thank you cards done
Located law firm recommendations for friend done
Sort clothes for charity collection done
Wrap 3 xmas presents

CHRISTMAS
Wrap presents STARTED
Christmas card list
Finish list of presents
Order last presents on line
Meal plan for entertaining between Xmas and New Year DONE
Shopping list for entertaining
Decide which presents to give DS and which to save for birthday

So a good start. I'm staying up to watch the start of the Ashes tonight so might try and prepare tomorrow's list tonight, so I know what needs doing. I am feeling in control now though, which is brilliant.

Comtessa if it helps, when they pulled DS out, the surgeon said "It's a whopper" i think the scans and weight estimation can be a bit hit and miss tbh, I was told F was going to be small side of average and my friend had her baby at 34wks and was shown round the scbu being told that these tiny babies were what to expect, (she was being induced for pre-eclampsia) and her baby was 8lbs something. We could all have a sweepstake if you like i am going for 9lb2oz (because F was and it is a good weight )

Have put toys away and cleared kitchen, dishy on. That is enough for this evening as i still feel poorly.

OK Freaki. its a good start.
Nice smile
Friendly
Affectionate
Good with children
Positive thinker
I would suggest you are more specific.
How about adding: good communicator, genuine, honest, financially solvent, supportive, loving, sexy, intelligent, caring, thoughtful. Would you say no to any of those?
This may seem a fantasy exercise, but will actually help you in defining the kind of person you are willing to share your life with and not fall into the patterns of the past.
Sorry if I am being a bit serious, just trying to help.

Evening all. Hope everyone is doing well.
Alice - hope you are feeling better soon.

Tonight
Do a bit more paperwork
Tidy dining room
Put some clothes away done
Empty and refill dishy
Put wash on
Go to bed early
Start online shop

Today
Take DS to school done
Pick up car, take to garage to get new exhaust. done
Go to work Done
Do food shop done

Ongoing
Take clothes to charity shop
Get some more stuff ready for charity shop
Look through clothes for DD
Put clothes for Dsis in woodshed
Finish xmas present shopping
Plan for xmas

Alice - hope you feel better soon, and you Wasting with your shoulder.

Comtessa - don't worry, these estimates are notoriously inaccurate. A friend who had an elective due to obstetric cholestasis (sp?) was scanned and told the baby was going to be huge, 9lbs+, and when he came out he was 6lbs12oz. Another friend was told her baby would be small and he was 8lbs13oz.

purple - we are staying up to watch the start of the Ashes too, so exciting! Must not stay up every night though, otherwise I will be a wreck

Freak - it isn't much to ask. May I recommend adding 'sense of humour about self' to that list? Nothing more horrendous to live with than a man who takes himself too seriously
And pjs for who - you or DCs? If you then I recommend Debenhams. They do mix and match tops, bottoms and nightie things which are all nice and cotton and soft and pretty cheap but wash well. I'm still wearing some of my pre-pregnancy ones, but with a nightie over trousers to cover bump IYSWIM?

JKS - hope the scan goes well tomorrow, eek exciting! :)

DONE
All up, showered and dressed
Breakfast
DH into office for the morning
Unload dishwasher and clear up breakfast
Fold washing
Sweep and wash kitchen floor
Tidy downstairs
Hoover downstairs
Wipe over bathroom
De-limescale kitchen taps
Clean kitchen skirtings and cupboard fronts
Walk to Sainsbury's for lunch bits
Friend and DDs coming for lunch
DH home
Scan while friend looks after DS
Clear up kitchen
DS nap
Sit down
Put a wash on
Tidy lego
Dinner - sausages, chips and beans - yum!
Clear up and run DW
DS bed

TO DO
Start meal plan for next week and Ocado order
Watch first half hour of cricket
Sleep

Mini you are very wise, and I completely agree with you. Nothing wrong with being fussy and I agree with all the things on your list.

YES sense of humour essential Ali defo add to list Freaki.
I am getting no further with xmas plans at all.[frustrated emoticon]
maybe next week. If my family will give me a clue. Not you HMHB you're sorted. Also possibly Mr HicCups.

Ooh, good list Mini. In fact I did the same thing on the advice of my former flatmate before I started seeing now-DH.

Other things that may be important to you:
Emotionally intelligent

Also assess how you want he will make you feel when you are with him (good barometer) - a few ideas below:
Cared for
Appreciated
Sexy
Attractive
Intelligent
Relaxed/At peace
Capable
Hopeful

Today
Washing up done
Washing done
Pram?
Cook dinner in progress
Run up and down stairs/lunges/squats/seduce DH/anything to help LO along up and down stairs a lot

Comtessa, that's interesting. Emotional intelligence - my DH is great and has many attributes listed elsewhere but I do think he lacks emotional intelligence and if he had it, it would make my life (and therefore his ) much happier.

Great additions Comtessa. We could add: willingness to change
and also that the relationship works on all levels. Levels being practical, life, home work, money. Emotional, showing empathy and harmony, Mental, spiritual? if you are into that, is he?
And look at what you are willing to compromise on.

Enough from the agony Aunt

Evening All,

I will write a list at some point, I promise.

Have been in London today. Westminster no less. No I wasn't a rioting student, but I did get a bit caught up in it all. Masses of police that had penned in the students... no wonder there is trouble. Massive police horses and helicopters and everything.

I was at a conference that was so boring.. I bunked off early! Well.... I thought a little mose around the National Gallery might be nice :). Amazing how a bit of Monet and Renior in real life, cheers the soul.

mini - bubble bath/ Jamie Oliver 30 minute menu's will do me for Chrimbo. Please don't get stressed about xmas shopping, its not even Dec yet!

Hello HMHB

Welcome to Shaxx

On the man front - I'd add 'willingness to compromise', I think asking for willingness to change is a bit much!!

Right, time to be organised:

Thursday
Birthday gift for W
Final pie-making extravaganza for Saturday afternoon
Clear bedroom
Dismantle clothes rail and take up to spare room
More baby clothes washing (3 - 6 months range, just to be on the safe side)
Parcel up maternity clothes to send to N
Parcel up baby clothes to send to N, A and F (LO not even here yet but have been given so many second-hand ones as well as new ones)

Morning

Lots to do, friends coming over for dinner after school.

DONE
Everyone up
Have shower and wash hair
Get dressed (half of me is done)
Feed and change F

TO DO
Finish getting dressed
Breakfast for everyone
DH park my car
Calpol for F (possibly, is gnawing at his hand and very grumpy - see how we get on)
Empty dishy
Put washload on

Then come back to add to it