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[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

New thread ladies

Just going to put DS to bed and then I'll be back with my list.

Make Beds DONE
Tidy Round Rooms DONE
Clean out bath DONE
Sitting Room

Morning CC :)

Anon - that is so crap, i feel for you. and hope you can sort out the mess.

Ok Royal Mail weirdness:

yesterday; no doorbell attempt, just card through door

today; 2 doorbells goes, and leave 'signed for' parcel in porch (i was in the bath)

different parcels i think and admittedly i think yesterday's one is the Time Capsule, expensive & nickable, today's was some leggings for me, but still!

Leftover:

• see if Fri sitter can change to Thurs
• book restaurant for Thurs if poss

Today:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to sch DONE
• DS2 to pre-sch DONE
• ME TIME!!! Doing
• bath with book DONE

• clarinet practice (concerts coming up and i'm not ready)
• poss ebay stuff?
• lunch & tidy up
• poss DS2 nap/poss SN playgroup
• poss try and collect parcel from Royal Mail
• collect DS1
• chill out time
• tea x 3 (fish finger day)
• boys to bed
• early & quiet night for me

Longer term:

• Find new dentist that is taking on NHS patients; have looked up some to ring
• Photos: a) move all photos from DH's PC onto time capsule, b) link up my laptop with time capsule so all photos from here go on it, c) upload photos of DC to Snapfish & order
• order door curtain for front door; need to email seller about sizes (got measurements); Bought pole
• clean kitchen cupboard doors
• research backing up hardware for computers; Bought Time Capsule
• make up basket of toys & pictures for DS2; need basket; Got Basket
• pictures to label 'animals' & 'people' & 'cars' boxes
• pile of blankets to homeless centre (some basic shopping first & go through bedding/towels too; Started)
• DS2's new DLA forms; ask on MN, get HV to help, questions for friend with NT 3yr old, etc.
• photos of bits for eBay; Take Photos DONE; Prices from RM DONE; Upload Photos; list on eBay

Good luck Plum, sorry slightly belated, you are probably there now....

JKS - just been to see her and although she hasn't really backed down/acknowledged her mistake, we are being civil and both much calmer and life goes on reasonably normally..... she is going to try and do something to put it right, though doesn't acknowledge that she cocked up in the first place (IYSWIM!!!!).

Anyway, I do not want to fall out so some compromise has to be made, and some pride swallowed in the interests of the ongoing (mostly good) relationship we have with PIL's.

I already know I'll sleep better tonight!

Morning everyone :)

Just checking in quickly from parents to see whether Comtessa has had her baby - but I see you are still here! All sounds v.promising

Freak - angry is definitely better than sad :)

Anon - eek at house, and gggrrrrr at MIL! Hope you can get it sorted.

Plum - I hope the meeting with your Dad is going ok (((hugs)))

I'm going to try and get some Christmas planning done while I'm here and haven't got other jobs to do. Going shopping to Chichester tomorrow with Mum so should be able to get a few nice things and get some presents ticked off.

x-posts - well done Anon.

I have come to the conclusion that I have the messiest dirty children ever, just constantly throw things at their arses. Apology rant over but it really gets to me!!

Make Beds DONE
Tidy Round Rooms DONE
Clean out bath DONE
Sitting Room DONE
Dining Area
Kitchen
Washing
Collect DD3
Make LUnch
Tidy over after it
Downtown

CC - i'm sure my DS1 could give them a tough competition!!

Leftover:

• see if Fri sitter can change to Thurs
• book restaurant for Thurs if poss

Today:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to sch DONE
• DS2 to pre-sch DONE
• ME TIME!!! Doing
• bath with book DONE
• clarinet practice DONE
• secret santa present wrapped & ready DONE
• poss ebay stuff? need DH to check stuff first
• lunch & tidy up
• poss DS2 nap/poss SN playgroup
• poss try and collect parcel from Royal Mail
• collect DS1
• chill out time
• tea x 3 (fish finger day)
• boys to bed
• early & quiet night for me

Longer term:

• Find new dentist that is taking on NHS patients; have looked up some to ring
• Photos: a) move all photos from DH's PC onto time capsule, b) link up my laptop with time capsule so all photos from here go on it, c) upload photos of DC to Snapfish & order
• order door curtain for front door; need to email seller about sizes (got measurements); Bought pole
• clean kitchen cupboard doors
• research backing up hardware for computers; Bought Time Capsule
• make up basket of toys & pictures for DS2; need basket; Got Basket
• pictures to label 'animals' & 'people' & 'cars' boxes
• pile of blankets to homeless centre (some basic shopping first & go through bedding/towels too; Started)
• DS2's new DLA forms; ask on MN, get HV to help, questions for friend with NT 3yr old, etc.
• photos of bits for eBay; Take Photos DONE; Prices from RM DONE; Upload Photos; list on eBay

Morning all,

Quiet night last night - contractions-wise - getting a few twinges this morning but not a whole lot so off to town with PILs for lunch and Christmas shopping. MIL does a great hard stare and so will defend me from all well-meaning shop assistants asking me baby-related questions.

Hope this morning goes/went well for you Plum, thinking of you (sends post-meeting chocolate cake).

Well done Anon for getting things straighter with MIL - situation sounds exasperating. It's after midday now so you can totally have a glass of wine. Over the yard arm, and all that .

Today
Make shopping list
Town
Washing up
Choose chest of drawers for LOs room
Email E
Call H and H
Birthing ball from Argos?
Dinner for next couple of nights

Eek Plum hope it goes/went well.

Anon glad mil is going to try to put it right but very annoying, especially if she isn't admitting fault.

CC I'm not sure, mine are very messy but maybe you having 4 means twice the mess than my two...

Comtessa I am ok thanks, rock in stomach feeling less heavy now! Have had a few wobbles, such as last night when I realised it was a week since we spent a lovely evening together, today when ds asked if wc was coming over, and also when I saw it was raining I thought of him cos he would quite often come over when he couldn't work due to weather. Then I remembered it was his gf's birthday today so I wouldn't have heard from him anyway and that helped me get back to angry rather than sad!

Any sign of that baby??

All up, dressed, breakfasted - DONE
Washing up - DONE
Wipe kitchen sides and dining table ? DONE
Load of washing on ? DONE
Load of washing out - DONE
DD to school - DONE
Tidy sitting room ? DONE
Hoover downstairs ? DONE AND DONE AGAIN
Hoover upstairs ?

Mop downstairs ?
Clothes off airers and put away ? DONE
Clean loo ? DONE
wipe sink- DONE
Tidy dc room? DONE
Retrieve recycling from all over garden - DONE
Go to supermarket - DONE
Lunch ? DONE
IRONING ?
Pick up dd ?
DD to dance-
Pay dance fees ?
Bake cookies -
Cook dinner ?

Wash up -
Bath and bed dc-
Tidy kitchen and sitting room ?

Hmm haven't done a lot have I?? Wonder what I have been doing cos the time has just gone!

Ah cross posted comtessa

Have nice time in town

Thanks Freaki. Glad to hear you're getting through to the angry stage still. It can be a long old road. (sends cherry pie)

Well I'm back and tbh really don't know how I feel, will probably no better when dh cames home and I start talking to him,

but he basically wanted to not go over anything and not apologise and just start acting like a family again, so I think the decision is up to me now wiehter I want a distanced relationship(which I would prefer or go back to no relationship)
BUT he said himself that if he feels somebody is never going to change he walks away from the situation and in the same breath tells me can't change/ people don't change??WTF
Any time I tried to bring up something he said he didn't want to pick the bones out anything, he dosen't do well with analysing things,
so now I'm left with, I don't know what I'm left with tbh,
thank you all for your well wishes going to go now as I can feel the tears building

All good work undone.
MIL spoke to DH and is demanding (yes, demanding) an unconditional apology from us TO HER, but is refusing to acknowledge anything is due in the opposite direction. Back to square one.

Oh well. She is prone to the histrionics, but this is worse than usual...

Comtessa - sounds like your MIL is good to have around right now! Enjoy your time out.

Plum - so sorry, cross post. You don't need to make any decisions straight away, let the dust settle (and have a good cry if you need one, dammit) a bit and maybe in a day or two (or whenever) it will be easier to think it all through??

for you.

Plum, does he not realise that talking it over will help you move on from it? It's a tricky one because obviously he is your dad and you want a relationship with him (and it will make the relationship with yor mum easier too) but you can't just act like nothing's happened. Sorry it didn't go as hoped xxx

Grr anon, how annoying. What does dh say?

Anon is your MIL related to my dad?? I hope everything works out, how does your dh feel about the whole thing?

Freak thats exactly what he wants, his first words were let yesterday stay as yesterday and today be anew day, or something very similar,
I said thats not what I need but tbh he was tu busy telling about how he never expects people to change and how he has never felt like he belonged in this country, he has never wanted to be here and all these fustrations he has.........

dh is absolutely furious he had higher expectations than me, my mum has rang 3 times, as you say I just need to let the dust settle,

everything went the exact opposite to how the 'toxic Parents' person said it should go, according to it as soon as he said I don't want to pick through the bones, I should have said then yournot ready for the conversation I want and left
He denied saying what he said and thinks he just walked out of hospital without saying anything, but if he had have done that then we wouldn't have had this problem in the first place!

Plum & Anon - sorry to hear you're both having crappy days :(

Cold & tired here, bed early i think.

Leftover:

• see if Fri sitter can change to Thurs DONE (he can't)
• book restaurant for Thurs if poss Try Fri

Today:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to sch DONE
• DS2 to pre-sch DONE
• ME TIME!!! Doing
• bath with book DONE
• clarinet practice DONE
• secret santa present wrapped & ready DONE
• poss ebay stuff? need DH to check stuff first
• lunch & tidy up DONE
• SN playgroup DONE
• collect DS1 DONE
• chill out time Doing
• poss try and collect parcel from Royal Mail Tomorrow

• tea x 3 (fish finger day)
• boys to bed
• early & quiet night for me

Longer term:

• Find new dentist that is taking on NHS patients; have looked up some to ring
• Photos: a) move all photos from DH's PC onto time capsule, b) link up my laptop with time capsule so all photos from here go on it, c) upload photos of DC to Snapfish & order
• order door curtain for front door; need to email seller about sizes (got measurements); Bought pole
• clean kitchen cupboard doors
• research backing up hardware for computers; Bought Time Capsule
• make up basket of toys & pictures for DS2; need basket; Got Basket
• pictures to label 'animals' & 'people' & 'cars' boxes
• pile of blankets to homeless centre (some basic shopping first & go through bedding/towels too; Started)
• DS2's new DLA forms; ask on MN, get HV to help, questions for friend with NT 3yr old, etc.
• photos of bits for eBay; Take Photos DONE; Prices from RM DONE; Upload Photos; list on eBay

Hello all. Sorry people are having bad days. I've had a fairly productive couple of days, less so today because my parents have come to stay. So this is what I've achieved yesterday and today:

meeting about new job done
bought ribbon for xmas present wrapping done
bought note pad done
prepared proposal for new working hours done
cleaned oven done
2 loads of washing done
DS's swimming lesson done
Booked babysitter for Sunday night done
checked current account done
Put away washing 1 load done
Clean bathrooms done
Change children's' beds done
Ocado shopping put away done

Still to do today and tomorrow

Meal plan for weekend
Call John Lewis re cancelling order
put away second lot of washing
take DD to ballet
gym
make playlist for gym
post letters
DD"s thank you letters

Christmas list

Wrap presents
Christmas card list
Finish list of presents
Order presents on line
Christmas card list

Sure I am missing quite a lot of stuff but will have to think about it and update.

Oh Plum, I can hear your anguish in your post...

DH is at wits end - he has been here with his mother before, but this time it does seem more absurd and unreasonable damaging than usual....

Anon - prob not helped with all the house-stress either.

purple - you are getting lots done :)

Leftover:

• book restaurant for Fri

Today:

• poss ebay stuff? need DH to check stuff first
• chill out time DONE
• poss try and collect parcel from Royal Mail Tomorrow
• tea x 3 DONE
• make 2 bday cards DONE
• gather Christmas card stuff, what's left, from last year DONE

• boys to bed
• early & quiet night for me

Thurs:

• all up & breakfasted
• all dressed
• DS1 to sch
• DS2 to pre-sch
• meet friends for coffee (remember bday card)
• maybe go swimming? (new pool opened last week)
• Royal Mail trip
• new mop needed
• lunch & tidy up
• DS2 nap?
• collect DS1
• chill out time
• tea x 2 (what?)
• DH poss home early-ish
• boys bath & bed
• quiet night in

Longer term:

• Find new dentist that is taking on NHS patients; have looked up some to ring
• Photos: a) move all photos from DH's PC onto time capsule, b) link up my laptop with time capsule so all photos from here go on it, c) upload photos of DC to Snapfish & order
• order door curtain for front door; need to email seller about sizes (got measurements); Bought pole
• clean kitchen cupboard doors
• research backing up hardware for computers; Bought Time Capsule
• make up basket of toys & pictures for DS2; need basket; Got Basket
• pictures to label 'animals' & 'people' & 'cars' boxes
• pile of blankets to homeless centre (some basic shopping first & go through bedding/towels too; Started)
• DS2's new DLA forms; ask on MN, get HV to help, questions for friend with NT 3yr old, etc.
• photos of bits for eBay; Take Photos DONE; Prices from RM DONE; Upload Photos; list on eBay
• DS2 Statement forms

No, not helped by everything else, but MIL now using this as her excuse/defence, she keeps saying things like "oh well, it's understandable with you being all tired and all, oh you have so much to think about so I can understand why you got a bit upset". I got upset because you fucked messed something up BIG TIME which was ENTIRELY PREVENTABLE actually. Grrrrr. If only she had stopped to THINK, but even if thinking was too much she only had to ASK and I could have prevented the whole flippin meltdown. And she did neither, but it is "not her fault". And just to show you how ego centric and bonkers she is over this, she is blaming her husband and/or her other son, whichever doesn't mind which, but just keeps saying, well if only DH or DBIL had done something this would never have happened. AGGGGGGGGHHHHHH.

Stressed? Moi? Never! Sorry I am ranting. But the DC won't understand and DH not home for ages this evening, so apologies, apologies. I promise to calm down.

List has gone to pot, but firmly at the top once the DC are in bed at 8 is a

• BIG FAT GLASS OF COLD WINE.

Hoo-bloody- rah to that. Bugger that it is only Wednesday!

And on a much more pleasant and lighter note, is it a special night out on Friday, JKS? Anywhere nice??

Not a special night, we had a quiz night thing planned but that has been cancelled so we thought we might as well keep the sitter and go out, i just can't decide on where!

Sorry to hear about the agro Anon, people should clear up their own mess, and own it. Full marks for the rant.
PLUM, sorry it did not go as you would have wished. Let the tears out, its healing. Bad communication is the cause of a lot of heartache. Hugs

Got some stuff done today.
Accounts started
Vat done again
Friend over for a bit
Drawings 'fixed'
Peace and quiet
DH out this eve. so the remote is mine -hahaha

Too right, JKS - enjoy it, whatever you choose! How fun.

Finding some cracking out of date items in my kitchen cupboards . I barely dare admit! The foulest of all, not necessarily the oldest, a Best Before 2006 Loyd Grossman Tikka Sauce. I mean, what on earth was I thinking?!?!?!!?!?! ha ha. That made me laugh anyway.

MIni - that is it, ownership and owning up - a quick, oh gosh, sorry, never imagined it would cause a problem would have gone a loooooooooooooong way. Hey ho.

Evening!

Sorry for your rough times Plum and Anon.

We've had a busy day, and a late night for DS after a family get together.
He's very sticky so I'm going to have to bath him in the morning.