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To ask what you think when you hear a child is home educated

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turquoiseamethyst · 15/03/2015 23:19

I suppose I am trying to gauge a range of opinions.

I am seriously - possibly definitely (definitely maybe?) going to be home schooling my 8 year old for a period of time.

I don't know why I'm worried; perhaps because it's so beyond the norm of what we have experienced before. I don't know anyone who home educates; I wasn't educated at home myself and I think I have known rather a lot of people who are very much of the view that school is all important. I've never particularly subscribed to that view but I've always wanted my children to have a 'normal' upbringing and going to school seems very much a part of that?

Does anyone have any views? As I'm going to possibly be de registering him tomorrow?

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HamishBamish · 16/03/2015 15:50

Personally, I'd be curious. I don't know anyone who home educates and I've always thought it would be a very challenging thing to do.

From the child's point of view I would assume that the option of traditional schooling didn't suit them for one reason or another or that they had had a bad experience in school and their parents had taken the option of home educating.

Charley50 · 16/03/2015 15:51

Sally; it was the OP who said it would be better for her DS to be at home doing NOTHING than being at school. Is that the right framework within which to plan to home school?

noddyholder · 16/03/2015 15:52

Life is not one size fits all.

Hakluyt · 16/03/2015 15:53

"jemima did you know Beatrix Potter was home educated?"

Jemima- had you ever considered not being an offensive idiot? Thought not...........

morethanpotatoprints · 16/03/2015 15:55

Charley

My dd did nothing structural in terms of learning when she first left school.
Many children do this for a while and some parents have this as a philosophy.
it doesn't mean they aren't learning anything.
Then, when they are ready they learn what they want to at their own pace and level.

jemimapuddleduck208 · 16/03/2015 15:59

Hakluyt, did you ever consider minding your own fucking business?

Learning what they want at their own pace and level?! Good luck passing GCSEs with that attitude. We're breeding a nation of special snowflakes. It's pathetic.

NickiFury · 16/03/2015 16:00

JEMIMA, I went back through my posts and saw that I did manage to spell your name right so I must have the adequate reading, spelling and comprehension skills in order to be able to educate my child! Phew I was worried there for a moment.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 16/03/2015 16:01

jemima any reasonable point you might be trying to make is lost in your expletive-filled ranting.

Your inexplicable raging is quite disproportionate, and at odds with the calm, generally respectful discussion which is going on.

If you are a product of 'fucking school' then I'm sorry that your education didn't equip you with any debating skills beyond swearing and insults.

Please try to be a little more civilised.

noddyholder · 16/03/2015 16:01

You sound deranged

Tapwater · 16/03/2015 16:01

Jemima, where is all that anger coming from?

NickiFury · 16/03/2015 16:03

Are you seriously telling posters to mind their own business, on a public forum, where everyone has been asked for their opinion?

You don't sound very bright, not to mention your limited language skills. And all that after a mainstream school education ?

SallyMcgally · 16/03/2015 16:03

www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/seven-year-old-thomas-barnes-youngest-student-7668555

Here you are jemima - a HE 7 year old with an A* at Maths GCSE, because he was allowed to learn at his own pace and level.

jemimapuddleduck208 · 16/03/2015 16:04

Beatrix Potter, by the way, was home-educated by three trained tutors. Not by one parent who didn't know her arse from her elbow. What's your point, exactly?

UndecidedNow · 16/03/2015 16:06

stly, I'm a bit surprised by some of the views here, especially the idea that a parent isn't a teacher and can not teach.

I have one dc who is miles ahead and I've ended up teaching a lot of the maths curriculum (at his insistence!).And then I have onedc who struggled a lot with reading/writting so again I've done a lot of work/teaching with him too.
Oh and they are both bilinguals so I'm teaching them both the write and read in a different language, incl grammar that isn't done over here (because it's not needed).

Parents CAN and DO teach!

I do agree though that it can add some stress and conflict, but I found it easier to handle than I though it woulde be.

As far as i can see, the OP's ds si a very anxious child that needs to 'come back home' for a bit. Ensure that mum is here for him and have a break until he can handle the anxiety/stress of being at school.
Tbh, I'm not surprised of the OP's reaction. If the only answer from the school is 'just take him, kicking and screaming if need be', I would be reacting like her tbh. Where are ther actions in place to support him? Work with the parent to find a solution for the child?
Or (and I wuldn't surprised), is it an issue trhat the OP sees all the anxiety and the 'No I'm not ging' whereas the school only sees a child a bit relunctant that is then all quiet for the day (and then kicks off when athome again). So they assume there is no issue??

OP, there has been a lot of suggestions on this thread and yes going to see CAMHS or a child psychologist is one thing to consider.
I would also look at other ways to help him deal with his anxieties. Have a look thereis plenty around, from doing some meditations to sport or finding a charuty supporting children in your ds situation. Don't wait for your GP/CAMHS to find a solution.

jemimapuddleduck208 · 16/03/2015 16:07

You have no idea how bright I am or not, NickiFury, and you have no idea of my level of education. Kindly do not presume to. Probably a damn site brighter than you; you're all the ones doing bugger all with their lives except "parenting", after all.

GratefulHead · 16/03/2015 16:08

Jemima, have you considered that the child too anxious to go to school might have an undiagnosed special need?

No!

Thought not.

You cannot judge someone's parenting from an Internet thread. The anxious child will possibly learn nothing in school bit do well at home. Current statistics show little difference in exam outcomes.

It's not for everybody and it's the last thing I want to do. If things continue as they are for my DS though I won't hesitate to pull him out and teach him myself. He is autistic and the education he needs is not out there. It's mainstream or lump it here.

noddyholder · 16/03/2015 16:08

Google?

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turquoiseamethyst · 16/03/2015 16:08

Jemima I did spell your name wrong, or rather my iPad did. Apologies.

The rest - well.

I think many of you have raised interesting points; my main concern is going back to school then a new school is too much.

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GratefulHead · 16/03/2015 16:11

Ooh bit nasty Jemima. Dismissing people as doing nothing with their lives except "parenting". Not very nice at all.

UndecidedNow · 16/03/2015 16:11

jemina if dc1 had been left to work at his own pace, he would be several year aheadin maths and science.
Well actually in some ways he is already because he has been 'taught' at home whilst being 'bored' at school....

dc2 has also gone to his own pace to learn to read. It took him more time and more effort but he got there and had he not being in a classroom environment, would have never thought he was 'bad at english' which he still believes in even though he has now caught up.

It's not because you follow their pace that children don't learn. Especially at that age, learning doesn't have to be an experienbce of constant hardship.

NickiFury · 16/03/2015 16:11

You're right I don't have any idea about your level of education, however I can surmise from your aggressive language and inability to discuss the subject matter without becoming aggressive that you lack critical thinking skills and find it difficult to assimilate information when forming opinions.

And by that token you can have no idea whatsoever of the level of education and abilities of those who choose to HE their children yet have strenuous opinions that you share aggressively anyway.

In lay mans terms. You sound really thick.

TheWordFactory · 16/03/2015 16:12

Jemima Beatrix Potter did not have three trained tutors.

She had, at times, a governess. A governess cannot be considered a trained tutor. In fact, BP's last governess was only three years older than BP and remained as her companion.

noddyholder · 16/03/2015 16:14

Jemima do you have children?

UndecidedNow · 16/03/2015 16:14

turquoise what you need is to ascertain the support you might get from the school.
I suspect you won't get a lot from the current school if they know he is ging to leave in a few months anyway.

What you need is the suport from the new school in September so that the transition is happening as smoothly as possible.

Hakluyt · 16/03/2015 16:16

And according to my dp's grandad- she was "a mardy old woman who hated children". Probably because she threatened him with her stick when she found him trespassing in her garden.....

Maybe Jemima is channelling her?

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