On cruise and kids so ungrateful and bored

[Fishnchips22]

On our first ever week long cruise, ship is amazing, loads to do. Family of four, kids are 19 and 12. They’ve enjoyed some
of it but now can’t be bothered to get up in the morning, spend loads of time on phones, haven’t done the pool/slides etc. DH pretty lazy too, so unless I organise stuff we don’t do anything. I’m so frustrated, last day today and I’m off doing my own thing cos they can’t be bothered. I’m just so fed up, it was a very expensive holiday and I’ve had a crap year with losing a parent and just wanted some lovely family time. My 12 year old DD just can’t be bothered, despite being blown away by the ship when we first boarded. I went to a show last night on my own as none of them fancied it. And just had lunch on my own as they were still in bFeel like holidaying on my own in future and saving my money! I just feel they’re so ungrateful. Does anyone else have this?

What a daft comment!
People of all ages go on cruises these days, it's a very popular family holiday choice.

I really couldn’t care less what you do for holidays. However your ‘oh we laugh at people who do cruises’ attitude is really unpleasant.

I wouldn’t dream of laughing at what anyone does for leisure or with their hard earned cash, whether it’s my bag or not. Especially if I’ve never tried the thing to be able to actually pass judgement.

You might want to keep that side of your personality to yourself in future.

You sound pleasant 🙄

I am, thank you. 😄

What cruise was this?

As a family, we love going on cruises. We go Royal Caribbean and it’s great fun, loads to do, plenty of opportunities to relax or be entertained. Kids club is great and they’re brilliant with AuDHD DS. And definitely not full of oldies!!

but, just because all that stuff is on offer, it doesn’t mean we always use it. Sometimes one or more of us just want to chill in our cabin and do nothing!

it can be quiet overwhelming if you’re on the go nonstop and holidays are about resting too. Try not to take it personally.

I disagree with all these posts blaming the Mum.
I have the same challenges with mine looking bored, being on phones all of the time.
Doesn't matter what activity or type of holiday.
Yes I try to limit the screen time but it’s just so hard and always ends up in a disagreement.
it must be the day in age?

Exactly!

The sheer audacity of mum saving up and paying money to take her family (including 19 year old adult child) on holiday after a tough year and bereavement.
Wanting to spend quality time with them all, likely buying them new holiday clothes, packing for them, giving them spenders, multiple activities on offer all paid for, visiting numerous countries, offering countless new experiences and they can't even be bothered to sit with her for lunch.... instead playing for hours on their phones which mum likely bought for them with the WiFi she paid for!

Yeah it's the expectations of mum that are so out of order here!

Honestly, I despair.

Bit late now because you are obviously home but for future...I think you need to have a plan and compromise. Maybe port days you all get off and do something together but sea days they can relax more. Or everyone can do what they want for lunch, but comes together for afternoon activities and evening meals? Whatever works. Mine were slightly younger when we went and also threw in fighting with each other, but overall had a fab time. There were moments when I thought "why is my teen, sitting in the shade playing cards when there is so much to do!" But at that age I don't think 24/7 activities work and he would come back after an hour of peace and we would all have fun together again but we didn't pay for WiFi for them, otherwise that hour would have turned in to all day!! Hope that helps...don't give up!