Villa split between childfree couples and families

[Adrianne1234]

Trying to organise a long weekend away (2 nights) with a group of friends for autumn and this is the group split:

Family 1: 2 adults & 2 kids
Family 2: 2 adults & 2 kids
Family 3: 2 adults & 1 kid
Family 4: 2 adults
Family 5: 2 adults

We don't seem to agree on how the total price would be split. The house has 6 bedrooms. 3 family rooms (king beds + single beds) with ensuite bathrooms, 2 standard double rooms and 1 room with 2 single beds for "extra space" (6th room is not claimed by anyone but deemed necessary by the parents to have additional space).

2/3 families seem to think the total bill should be split by couple, without considering the kids.
1/3 families and the 2 adults families think that the families should pay more because despite everyone technically occupying 1 room, some rooms are family rooms.

To state the significance of this, if we wanted to find accommodation for 10 adults, the price per couple would be around half the one we are paying to have a place that can accomodate all the kids/has the right sort of family rooms.

If it was to be split by couple, price would be £550 per couple, which seems pretty steep for families without kids (that also end up getting the crappier rooms).

Food bills will be split amongst adults so kids won't pay for that which has been agreed by everyone.

Thoughts?

Your friends are batshit crazy (and I have children). I would be really upset and disappointed if I were you. Sorry OP.

I’m afraid I would just be very blunt and say you don’t feel comfortable paying the same as a family of 4 and for an
extra room you don’t need and won’t use, plus having a lesser room!!
I would just say you’re sorry but you can’t afford/justify spending that money for a weekend plus food!
I think these ‘friends’ are CF’s and I’d reevaluate the friendship

Find a smaller accommodation without the extra room and show them that and say ‘we don’t need an extra room’ if they insist they do tell them they need to decide the extra cost of the room between the families that want it!!
sorry but I’d make my excuses and drop out… meet up with just the other childless couple!

But they are not just being asked to pay towards an extra room that the “non children families” don’t need and won’t use, they are also being asked to subsidise the cost of the larger family rooms, which include extra beds for the children.
Family rooms cost more than double rooms because they accommodate more people.
Look for accommodation that just sleeps 10 adults - show families how much cheaper it would be without having to pay extra for children’s beds/ larger family rooms.
I cannot fathom how they don’t understand that children’s holiday accommodation is not free nor should they expect others to have to pay towards the cost of their children’s accommodation.

You are being told to subsidise them having a spare room to house their stuff and kids, a better room than you, a bigger bed than you, an en suite bathroom that you don’t have and feeding their kids.

Are these people actually your friends? Friend don’t treat each other like this. Well, mine don’t. How do you know them??

The couples are already generous with food and actually by tolerating other peoples kids on their holiday already! The families definitely pay more- it's not just the physical space but the mental/auditory space they'll be occupying!
I'd be offering to pay more to start with partly to ensure the couples had no reason to resent my kids before they'd even started being their scampish selves - the kids will be a significant distraction for all the adults so their parents need to pay their share given they won't be able to be fully present like the couples will.

That's what we proposed also but the families said it wouldn't be good value for money due to the size of the house they'd need (they don't seem to understand the value for money would worsen because we wouldn't be paying for them anymore and think it's to do with home size)
They really are CF aren't they.

Any news OP?

Was it resolved @Adrianne1234 x