Where can I find an EXPERIENCED travel nanny to fly London - Sydney - London?????????????????

[Georgiaplus1]

I'd rather not pay a recruitment agents fee, I've searched google, and still nothing......

I need an experience nanny who has the experience of entertaining my 2 year old son for the flight from London to Hong Kong (stay over night) then Hong Kong to Sydney - stay in Sydney for a month then back again. I'm a nervous wreck! I'll be on the flight too but can't stand the thought of my son not being happy or being able to run around.

I'll of course pay for the nanny's flight etc, does anyone know where I can find someone with experience without paying a recruitment fee?????

Thanks

Just because they are 'our' kids, doesn't mean you have to do everything on your own

I'm not going to be a martyr for them if I can get someone to take the slack sometimes (i'm a single sahm btw) I have had mother's helps and au pairs

I would take someone, if I had the money and tbh the thought of going 1st class and leaving kids in economy or at home sounds like heaven!

i just cant understand why you would not want to spend as much time with your dcs as possible, we all work hard and should treasure the time we spend with dcs, noy always possible cause they do get on my tits at times but would hate to see a nanny taking over on something that should be a new experience for them

I do spend majority of my time with my kids (3 out of 4 has sn) but why be run ragged when you can have help?

Do you also look down on working mothers who have help?

I was a nanny before kids so I see both sides

Having nannies, mothers helps, aupair or even a grandparent on hand doesn't make you a lesser parent, imo it makes you a more sane, rested one.

I also have carers coming in, do you look down on that too?

How on earth do you know what her situaiton is though? DS1 needs 2 adults with him to be safe on a ferry. You may think that's pathetic- more likely that you have no concept of what travelling with a child like ds1 involves. With him taking up 2 adults we need someone to care for ds2 and ds3 (aged 5 and 2) hence we don't go unless we have someone else with us. That's not shirking or parenting in absentia it's just our reality.

Who knows why the OP wants someone to help her on a flight? Maybe she's terrified of flying, maybe she has a disability, maybe she has anxiety problems.

She's not asking you for money, and surely its up to her to spend it how she sees fit.

the idea that says you can't be a good parent if you don't look after your children without help is absolute bullshit, btw.

Agree minorityrules. We have an army paid for by social services. Without their help we'd be housebound the whole time. Don't see how that benefits anyone.

Did somebody say further down that there were no judgements on this thread, that no-one was saying it was wrong?

Wouldn't be my choice but heck so what? If you can afford it, why the heck not?

Is there really that much difference btwn this and say oooo putting your kids in childcare whilst on holiday in a sort of Mark Warner/CentreParcs stylee. I bet theres loads do that and don't bat an eye.

Don't quite know why everyone is getting so judgy about it.

Oh ffs keryymum - I'll said a child like ds1 - you have no idea what it is like to deal with a non-verbal 8 year old with no concept of queueing - who attacks when asked to queue, who has no concept of safety- i.e. hanging over the rail of a boat is not safe, who has obsessions about doors being open and shut and who will refuse point blank to stay in a cabin.

I don't pretend to know what its like to deal with a kid with CP- I can't imagine the issues with lifts etc in a crowded ferry. If soneone told me they needed extra help to deal with those issues I'd believe them.

Coolmama-so very well put!

So those who criticise have never used a grandparent,babysitter,nursery or school for a few hours break?

BTW - did the OP actually say that the nanny and child would be in cattle class while she was lapping up the luxury up front?

I don't think she did tellusmater. She may just be committing the extraordinary sin of getting fully involved with an extra pair of hands (gasp).

I think the OP got very unfairly treated - maybe she did not have an idea of the reaction to this thread, but a number of assumptions have been made about her that may or may not be correct. I fly with a nanny and we share the care and entertainment of DS - I do not swan around with a glass of champagne and an eye mask.

And really - why does it matter what the OP's reasons are anyway? Her life, her choices, her child, her money.

Agree hula and coolmama. I've employed people (via social services) for 2 years now. In that time I've had 1 afternoon off with no children (and now work) when they were in the SS employed carers care. The rest of the time I do as much as any of the carers. I had a cup of coffee that afternoon. IN a coffee shop. So shoot me.

Yup, I hope she pops back to see that some supported her, or at least her decision.

I must admit the 'pile in, ram the point home with a great big hammer, and do it again and again and again' really f* me off about MN sometimes.

I think she got the point after about 4 or so posts.

I gave up on martyrdom a few years ago. It makes life much more enjoyable. I hope she has a good trip. Personally I'd try gumtree or search for an Aussie/kiwi who fancies a trip back home for a month.

some people were v harsh though and judged without knowing her reasons.

I am so happy to revisit this thread and see that there is some support for the OP (other than from me and the meagre handful to start with) and not just ridicule. The world makes sense again. And I can go and eat dinner safe in the knowledge that it IS possible to get childcare without being a neglectful parent for admitting you need help.

But MaryBleedinPoppins, that says to me that this is an individual that needs support not ridicule.

Well its a circular argument innit?

Of course you can judge. Judge away. I judge, we judge, we all judge.

But others can say we don't see why your'e getting so judgemental - it doesn't signify as much to some as maybe it does to you.

And there is so much an element of piling it and virtually stoning the women - she was given a rough ride.

Its only the equivalent of putting in childcare whilst on holiday. Is that so bad? Its not what I would do, but is it really that bad?

You'll never take away the judging - thats mumsnet. But you'll also never take away pple who say that judgement is too harsh.

Kerry, a child with a sever allergy isn't in the same league as a child with ASD or cerebral palsy (not that it is a competition) I have one wheelchair user, one sever dyspraxic with mild asd tendancies and one mild dyspraxic

I would have taken help on a long haul filght with the 'normal' 2 year old, toddlers are hard work on a flight

Motherhood isn't a competition, you don't have to be a martyr to it! I like having help, it makes me a better mum (not so much now, but when they were smaller it kept me sane)

Just because you can do it, doesn't mean everyone else should

I think the op has come up with a very good idea and hopefully has got some good ideas on how to put it into practice (in between all the judging)