I didn’t really know where to post this but figured there may be some in the same boat (in year 11).
DD is turning 18 right at the start of A Levels. She has already missed out on the social aspect of being slightly younger in the year (peers have been going to pubs/clubs for months now but she just stays in as knows she wouldn’t get in without ID - venues are strict around here).
Obviously no one wants to go out in May. I suggested the half term but still some won’t go out as will be hardcore revising. Besides, She says that is too far after her birthday. Everything I suggest (eg we pay for a meal out with a few mates/have people back here in half term) has been met with a big, fat no as it won’t feel like her bday as it’s so far afterwards. She says people won’t bother.
So she basically wants to do nothing.
I just feel so sad about it as I just can’t get my head around it all. Most of us remember what we did to celebrate our 18ths when looking back. I think she doesn’t want to risk organising anything in case she is knocked back. Times have changed apparently and despite me thinking kids need a break, she said many won’t even during half term.
She said she will go out for a meal with us a few days later but that’s it.
I am constantly berated for having my kids at an inconvenient time. We envy those autumn/winter born kids without the time pressures and the freedom to go out sooner! Apologies, I know this is a first world problem.