University Offers Coming In 23/4 - part 2!

[WombatChocolate]

Following on from the old thread which was getting full….come and share the highs and lows of the journey that is A Levels and UCAS!

Not an assumption. I said might be. That's speculative. And an offer is still an offer. As it is, this is all moot, because from ree's gracious response that isn't the case.

You're wrong, it is these posters, and others like them, that have bothered me.

Perhaps - I too, have been on MN about 17 years in various names. It’s more a ranty AIBU thing though and not really something to do on the Education boards, IMO.

I think these threads often move fast. Between being on and asking a Q or answering one, multiple pages of posts can happen. It isn’t always possible to remember who said what and lots of people want general chat rather than 1-2-1 conversation. That’s valid. Some get into long term 1-2-1 chats with others too, which can last for years with lots of interaction on lots of threads …and that’s fine too. Not everyone wants the same thing.

Mostly these threads are for information sharing, discussion and often to provide support to those in similar situations. The exact tone and what might be considered usual polite behaviour might not be exactly what you’d expect or want, compared to real life interactions.

Generally people bear with each other on these kind of education forums. Many are in several which are discussing similar things. Personalised replies don’t always happen. Often people will acknowledge groups of posters who have given advice, or congratulate groups who have received offers. Sometimes they won’t. Some people might be on a thread for hours on end and others pop in once a week or month or year or post or start a thread and never return. It’s all part of MN and there aren’t fixed rules. Not making personal attacks is assumed though.

Hey, we all learn things from these threads and find them useful. Bearing with and recognising not everyone does it in the same way seems a good approach.

No it's wasn't an unreasonable assumption.

I commented on posters from the Oxbridge threads generically once, yes.

Bit ironic of you to say this is a supportive thread when you basically instigated a pile-on earlier, or on the part one of this thread, to a poor poster with cancer who was celebrating her DD's Oxford offer. Posts got deleted because the poster got a hard time.

Did you go back to check what I've posted previously? Bizarre behaviour.

It is interesting that that's your take on it. I have provided that particular poster with support off thread in another area and her posts to Catmom were inappropriate for this thread.

But it does seem you have come over here to cause trouble. I'll leave you to it. I've got no interest in interacting with you.

No I didn't go back to check

I remembered. I remember names as I don't look at that many threads.

@reegee To answer your question, mostly applicants will get offers in time to attend offer-holder days, but no, it’s not a given – some offers won’t come in till May, when they’re practically sitting their A-levels.

Many universities run virtual events that often take place later than in-person ones, or you can arrange to visit privately, although admittedly neither of those options is as useful.

And no @lifeturnsonadime I haven't come on here to cause trouble. That's bizarre, when my very first post was in responding politely in answering someone's Q.

Regardless of whether you think that poster's post(s) on here were inappropriate, and I think you have a point, you can't deny there was a pile-on and MNHQ made deletions. They didn't delete any of the poster's posts.

Shall we simply go back to talking about university offers.

Yes please.

Yes.

I've been on mumsnet for 22 years. I wholeheartedly agree with every word Wombat has said. Threads are so fast moving these days and there are way more posters.

I often have limited time when I read and post these days. When I post, I don't expect to get thanks from anyone, I simply hope that anything I contribute is useful.

some offers won’t come in till May, when they’re practically sitting their A-levels.

@BiancaBlank which is such a strain on applicants. And some offers, especially if you're using extra, won't come in until later.

From UCAS in case anyone finds it useful:

2024 entry applications
If you receive your last decision on or before 16 May 2024, your reply date is 6 June 2024 (except if you're using Extra to find a place).
If you receive your last decision on or before 17 July 2024, your reply date is 24 July 2024 (including Extra choices).

Threads are so fast moving these days and there are way more posters.

Yes @Comefromaway and @WombatChocolate 's point about there often being pages between responses is valid except that as I said above, my reply was only two above the reply being thanked, and very close to the actual question. I wouldn't have said anything otherwise.

Anyway, moving on.

Has anyone seen anything about offer holder days at York? Do they do them? Can't see anything on their website. DS has it as his firm but is denying all knowledge of dates. And I don't want to harass him about it!

Pretty sure we had emails about York offer holder days. Sometimes they aren’t on the general website, but the offer holder gets emailed a link to join some kind of offer holder hub and from there they can book. They don’t want non-offer ho,deer booking-in or Yr12s who really need the general open day going.

@Mytholmroyd DD3 is going to an offer-holder day at York on 14 Feb. She got an email from the university inviting her to book back in November. There was a link to do it and a choice of dates.

I’d get your DS to check his emails! Alternatively, if he’s made an account on You@York, he could probably do it by logging in there too.

Thanks @WombatChocolate and @BiancaBlank He only got his offer a week or so ago as he didn't put his UCAS form in until mid-Jan so will have missed emails last year.

But armed with that info I will gently prod again ...

I’m not sure whether anyone has ever pressed thanks on a post of mine - I presume it notifies you somehow (have also been here since much of this was fields although quite not as long as Comefromaway 😃) Over 20 years though 😊

I can't even see a thanks button to press tbh. Not on the app anyway.

Sorry, Space, I was just trying out the Thanks button because I too have never noticed it before!

@Mytholmroyd There are three dates for York offer holder days. I know there is one in Feb and also March 9 and 16th.

@Mytholmroyd Ah, if he only got the offer a week ago, they probably just haven’t got round to emailing him yet. DD got the offer-holder day email about three weeks after the offer.

I only realised there was a thanks button today