University Offers Coming In 23/4 - part 2!

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Following on from the old thread which was getting full….come and share the highs and lows of the journey that is A Levels and UCAS!

Edinburgh’s our last one too. However, their standard offer is higher than all DD’s other choices, so even if she gets an offer from them, I don’t think it will be a contender.

The offers for all of DDs choices are the same except for Belfast which is lower so wouldn’t make any difference there

@reegee DS submitted in the 2nd week of Jan and has had offers from Bristol and Bath. For politics, not maths. Different departments may be quicker than others?

@UniQuestions7 If reading of others' offers coming in makes you anxious, why do it?

@reegee on offer holder days, there will be plenty between now and the deadline for DCs to choose firm and insurance. DD had all 5 offers in before Christmas, has 3 offer holder days in Feb, one in April and one still be arranged as the uni themselves haven't sorted dates yet. All (apart from Birmingham) gave a range of dates to choose from so your DS will have time to get to the ones he wants to see, and some have offered a virtual option as well if the dates aren't workable. Hope that he gets some more through soon

@TheOnlyMrsW, thank you. DS is my eldest so it's all new to me. Fingers crossed for the offers to come in!

I answered your Q too @reegee , am I not worthy of a thank you also?
You know you can give thanks by just pushing on an icon here, really easy and quick to do, don't even have to make a post to show a bit of common courtesy. Is it because the info I gave you doesn't have a direct bearing on your DC so other's people's time and effort doesn't register because it doesn't benefit you, even if they answered your question?

@UniQuestions7 I saw you on the Politics/International Relations Offer thread where I lurked as it's my DS's subject. You used it to answer your questions about the degree that you could easily have found out yourself. Then complained you felt bad seeing other people's DC get offers for the places your's applied to. But when people kindly offered you support and asked what places your DD applied to so they could tell you how long those offers took to come in, you refused to answer. Said you'd post again when she got offers. Leaving the people who were posting and being really open to probably wonder if they were going to upset you by posting that their child got an offer from a particular place.

Give and take people, give and take. This isn't your personal Google or concierge service. It's a community where other people spend time responding to you and have their own DC who deserve their offers even if yours didn't get one. One only has to look at the Oxbridge threads to see how much self-flagellation some parents whose DC got accepted do to appease those whose DC got rejected.

Jeez Mango, why so snippy?

And even though I haven't asked anything of anyone on this thread, I should walk the talk and say well done to everyone's DC's here on the offers. It's really lovely to see a wide spread of subjects and universities and to think of all the wonderful times they'll hopefully have at university.

Note @UniQuestions7 : congratulating others on their offers and not just focusing on your own DC is a nice thing to do and something to model to our DC.

Hmm. This is why I name change all the time : following people around threads is a bit off. Some people aren’t so comfortable bearing all and I think that should be respected.

It can also be hard to respond to all that have replied so I wouldn’t take that personally. I’m not great with huge amounts of detail and often forget that sort of thing. It’s not intentional or specific and shouldn’t be taken personally.

Finally, I would add that some threads and posters are more supportive than others. Choose the threads that work best for you. But having a go is a bit much here. It’s a stressful time for everyone.

X posts. A fair question! I've been a MNer since almost the beginning. I have a much older DC and was on these boards then, and have only come back fairly recently because of younger DC applying. There is a difference to how things are and I miss the community on these boards of the olden days. A real sense of support and interest in others that went both ways. I know things change and I should suck it up but lack of good manners really grates. I'm autistic and have an overdeveloped sense of justice.

following people around threads is a bit off. Some people aren’t so comfortable bearing all and I think that should be respected.

@TiaSeeya

I'm hardly following someone around threads when it's only one other thread I've seen them on and it's thread specifically for the subject my DS is doing

Yes people not wanting to reveal all should be respected but there's a double standard when they're asking others to reveal all.

@MangoDash Fair enough but the board is way bigger than it used to be (I was also there in the olden days) and people often just miss things, they're not being deliberately rude, they don't see a post or whatever.

To be fair you didn't actually answer @reegee's question on this thread. You replied to her question but it didn't answer it. Also on the other thread that you mention her on she has congratulated those with offers.
For me, your posts are lacking in manners so...
(I haven't come across you or the other posrer before but seems an unwarranted attack, I don't know if there has been a rejection for your DS today that has stung but not fair to be rude and attack another poster because of it)

Yes that's true @Umbilicate My post was only two above the one that got thanked so I assumed it wasn't easy to miss.

You're wrong. I did answer @reegee 's Q. She asked a couple. I answered her Q about whether people's DC had received any offers from a certain set of universities.

It wasn't reegee I was talking about on the other thread. I don't know if she's on it or not, I imagine not as she said her DC is doing maths and the other thread is only about politics.

And no, no rejection for DS today. He didn't apply to Cambridge if that's what you're thinking. Or Oxford.

By “following around threads” I mean commenting on another posters behaviour on a thread that the behaviour isn’t on. That’s not on really. If you have an issue with what happened on that thread, talk about it on that thread. Otherwise it encourages people to go hunting on other threads to see the beef. Which is a bit unpleasant.

It wasn't an unreasonable assumption given you have been commenting on posters from the Oxbridge threads.

This is a supportive thread. I'm reasonably new to Mumsnet and I've found all of the threads, including the Oxbridge one, to be supportive.

@TiaSeeya I understand you now. Fair point. Although that has always happened on MN.

My mistake I meant to say @UniQuestions7 for the other thread so my point still stands.
I still disagree on your other point too as you were clearly complaining they had thanked another poster but not you. Frankly it is absolute madness to get upset if someone on an anonymous forum doesn't press the thanks button. Maybe they didn't find your reply helpful. I have helped many people with answers but don't notice whether I get a thanks or not and before you try and make the ASD point with an overdeveloped sense of justice I am afraid I also have both.

Hi, sorry didn't mean to leave anyone out. Thanks to all those who have replied including @MangoDash.
This is my eldest applying, so all new to me. Really grateful for all the advice on here xx

Lol at them not finding my response helpful. They asked if anyone had received offers from specific universities, I replied that DS had but said it was from a different subject to what their DC is doing and that different departments probably take different times. How is that not helpful?! You're actually making my point for me because if the poster didn't find it helpful, it might be because they're miffed someone else got an offer from a place they're waiting on.

Thank you @reegee

I disagree, you can't possibly make that frankly bizarre assumption considering it isn't even for same subject area. I am now leaving you to stew over whatever it is that has bothered you today as I suspect it wasn't these posters, you just decided to take it out on them.