How often do you speak to and/or your university student

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Please also mention gender. Prompted by 'the Facebook page'.

Son 21 in 4th year, WhatsApp about 3 times a week. Son 19 in 1st year, started with WhatsApp everyday, less now, often of photos of his evening meal, he is eating better than we are. No actual phone calls with either of them

A text every couple of days. She's been home for one weekend and we've been though twice to take her for lunch.

Yes that's fine sorry only just saw your message.

Late to the party, but...
DD, 3rd year (of 4). Zoom once a week, scheduled. (She's abroad: time zones) Occasional e-mails from her to deal with issues such as tax/strange questionnaires, less than once every 3 weeks. If there's something really cute I send her a pic.

Very late to this.

DD1 - 2nd yr PhD, we chat over FaceTime around once per month. The odd text/WhatsApp. She has spent 5 nights at our home in 2022.

DD2 - 3rd year of 4, 21yo, we exchange texts most days. She normally sends me a Pokemon Go gift each day so I know she's alive. We visited her last week as DH hadn't seen her accommodation.

We have a couple of family WhatsApp groups and they are really busy when Bake Off is on. I saw some of their friends on Saturday evening so messaged the DDs and they both replied yesterday.

DS1 - 2nd year. Rarely speak on the phone but he messages every day or two. See him in person most weekends as he isn't far away so comes home for Sunday lunch.

DS2 - 1st year. Rarely speak on the phone but he messages most days. Have seen him twice since the start of term - I visited him one weekend to see how he was settling in and he came back this weekend as he has reading week.

My DS hardly ever replies to texts, I only see him at the three holidays.

I have this, mine deferred for a year and has put a bit of weight on so I'm getting pictures of healthy meals

And pictures of brownies one of his flat mates keeps making 🤣

He FaceTimes once, sometimes twice a week. A few texts too.
Male.

Rarely speak to either ds, WhatsApp reasonably regularly, once or twice a week.

DS1 who is 2nd year, I tend to only hear from if things are going badly. He isn’t very responsive so I might get a reply a couple of days after sending a message and we will have a little text chat.

Fresher Ds2, I message normally a couple of times a week. I don’t get much by phone and I know he prefers messages so that’s what we do.

We haven’t seen either ds yet since they went to Uni but will visit both in November. Take them for lunch probably and buy them any bits they need.

DD22 p/call 1-2 times a week. 1 face time a week to watch shared tv show. Texts as and when usually every couple days. Comes home around once a month. Uni is 2.5 hrs away

DD20 p/cal 3-4 times a week. Texts most days. Comes home 1-2 times a month. Uni is 1 hr away.

Both have local bf so prob visit more to see them.

What’s app every other day or so. Didn’t have a video or phone call the first 4wks he was away. Seen him a few days ago and will see him again at the weekend. Was surprised to hear he had been sick for 3wks with freshers flu, but he hadn’t said! He’s having a ball, joined everything going, so I do leave contact up to him.

Both DDs away at university. Communication is very fluid, some days we might exchange a dozen messages we can easily go 2-3 days not communicating at all. I miss them very much but very pleased that they're so busy and happy.

Female. Video chat once a week.

DH and I work on the principle that no news is good news as DS always gets in touch (whatever time of day or night!) if he needs something. We message as and when on Insta (DS says he often silences What's App as he's in so many groups). Usually just silly things or when the football is on. I actually phoned him the other week as I just wanted to hear his voice, he answered the phone anxiously with the words "What's happened? Is everything alright?" It feels very different from when I was at uni and we had to queue up to use the payphone - we don't talk much, but knowing we can and the possibility to exchange photos and jokes is very comforting.

Well I started a new job working on the same team as mine so I've had 2 team meetings with him today . First time I've seen his face since he left

My DD calls/face times most days when she is either walking home and it is dark, or 'I'm going out what top looks best' type things.

Year 2 is full on so occasionally we go three days without talking but then have a proper catch up. I love hearing her news but she knows that she can call anytime but I don't pester her.

Ditto @Dobbyismyabsolutefav call most days .. to and from uni and I'm guilty of insta spamming too

I send dd a letter once a week and text twice a week .