How often do you speak to and/or your university student

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Please also mention gender. Prompted by 'the Facebook page'.

M first year. Text every two or three days. Mainly about his sports. Spoken to him a couple of times in a month.

This.

Dd in final year

We text either individually or in the family account once or twice a day minimum about random stuff.

She rings me in her walk home from lectures often so once or twice a week. Dh will call her at least once a week on his way home from work in the car. We will FaceTime every so often.

So we are in touch fairly often and it's two way. It's nice.

She is currently on holiday with us for a few days which is even nicer for us as lots of catch up time.

Dd is in first year, she messages me every night. Sometimes she’ll message during the day to either me or our family group chat to tell us things or ask questions or reply to posts the rest of us maybe put in. Some days she sends photos of her dinner. She’s been home most weekends as she has a hobby here at home that she still does.

Interesting thread.

DD at university. Text every single day. Maybe an exchange of 5-10 messages.

We don’t speak on the phone.

I have a picture of her timetable. I like to know what lecture she’s in. Sometime I’ll text and ask “How was X”?

I text DD something of interest most days - but she only responds or acknowledges it about half the time! !
The only time she proactively contacts us is if she wants help or advice or more money!

DS went to Uni first and we had a FaceTime most Sunday evenings as he sorted his washing and ate dinner.

Post lockdown it's about every week to 10 days depending on how busy he is.

He responds to family WhatsApp about a day or so late.

DD went last year. We FaceTime most weekends or a Monday and I get messages in between.

She's phones me once and texts me something daily but it's not a proper conversation iyswim. For example the other day she asked if there was lightning here because her city had lightning.

When her older brother went he texted once a month but he's not as chatty anyway .

Son is half way through his first term.
In the last 6 weeks we have spoken once on the phone.
We exchange brief messages on WhatsApp once or twice a week, usually initiated by me.

DD and I talk on the phone more often now that she has left university. She usually rings me when she has missed the metro on her way home from work.

She likes to tell me about her day.

Ds 1st year perhaps once a week I don't want to be overbearing and am really aware of not wanting to make him homesick either it's a very fine line, I have the temptation to ring him everyday if I could but I am thinking of him.

DD, 7 weeks into her 1st year. Phone call once every couple of weeks so far, family WhatsApp daily. She sends us pics of her coursework, which is lovely given that she's at art school.

DS in first year.
I have emailed twice a week, sent two parcels and rang him twice. He answered both times and sent 5 emails in total. Mostly to tell me he never received the first parcel (turns out there are two places you collect post).
I don’t think DS has actually done anything to tell me about judging from his emails. He’s not a party person and doesn’t drink or socialise much at home. This weekend he’s off to see his old friends who live in another part of the country with a friend from a different uni. So not particularly embracing Uni life yet.

Female. Speak every week to two weeks. WhatsApp now and again.

Text ds every day. Speak briefly most days.

Dd1 is at uni now.
We don’t speak on the phone, she FaceTimed me on my birthday and we exchange texts most days, usually when she wants to show me something she’s cooked or when she’s found a new bar/pub/place of interest for us to check out when we go down.
she’s been home once a couple of weekends ago (she had a driving test booked in so had to come back otherwise she wouldn’t have been back yet).
It’s a fine line, she’s been a bit homesick once the initial excitement wore off and the reality of living with difficult characters set in, I didn’t want to remind her too much of what she was missing but I also didn’t want her to feel totally alone. Dh has been texting her too, probably once or twice a week. I know he’s called her a couple of times too, for practical reasons.

1 x DD & 1 x DS:

Averages to about 2 communications a week, but can be 10 in 8 hours or 4 week gap with nothing. Mostly via Fbk Messenger, some video calls. DD does freelance work for DH's company so they chat more often, I am trying to get her some temp work for my employer.

DD is six weeks into her first year. Zipping through WhatsApp I’m surprised there are only eight days we didn’t chat at least a bit. Three of those were last week and she came home on Friday so I clearly didn’t feel quite such a need to bother her 😂 We’ve FaceTimed each Saturday we’ve been apart (we went up three weeks ago, and she’s home now).

She also replies to WhatsApp more than I thought. Apparently I’m just a bit needy!

One ds in his third year.. WhatsApp most days, speak once or twice a week, see every week or two, but we do live in the same city.

Message daily, some days he has quite a conversation, others I'm lucky to hear anything at all. I'm happy with that, he knows where we are and I'm pleased he's made some nice friends so doesn't feel desperate to always have contact with us

DS 21 - final year - we have an old fashioned phone call for about 40 minutes once a week .. and WhatsApp messages most days ..just quick 'what are you up to?' Or 'goodnight' messages. Just had a lovely 24 hr visit to take my 90 year old DM (his Grandma) to meet him in his Uni city and see his student flat .

Male -3rd year, usually twice a week, occasional texts in between

DS first year 400 miles away

text every few days. Idle chit chat, updates, pics of cat from us and pics of his cooking

FaceTime about once every 7-10 days

collected him from airport last night, home for a few days. Heart is full ❤️❤️❤️

I use this approach too, but it seems to be unusual.

Text every 2-3 days. FaceTime once a week.
She’s in her second year