UEA (2019) Surely 2021 (and getting on for halfway through our DC's degrees) things have got to get better????

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New thread following on from the previous one.

Lots of and into 2021.

@boys3 is that the graduation dates for all courses? Ds had no idea when it will be. I wish he'd start thinking about what to do next. But only one in his house of 6 knows what they are doing next as he's on an internship.

Ds is still on his own in Norwich as no one else is back yet. He came home for a couple of days (after returning to Norwich for clubbing New Year's Eve with a local girl) then told us he'd rather be in Norwich on his own. So he went back. Courses don't start until 17th and online until end of Jan. So I guess they'll be back some time this month.

@icanbewhatiwant ueasavethedate.co.uk/#:~:text=Home%20%7C%20My%20Website,will%20open%20early%20in%202022.

three years' worth as well!

Thanks. That's spread out. Presumably they will know a while before the actual date. If Ds hasn't got a job he will do his usual summer job, that starts early July. At least we are only local to travel back to Norwich.

No actually...I guess it isn't spread out much really, for 3 year groups. I've no idea how much time they usually take up.

My older DS who graduated this year and the year before him are also invited that week - no idea which day though. Hope the two don't clash !

@sluj any idea how many guests are allowed. Thanks for the 'nod' @boys3.

Happy New Year to everyone!

@icanbewhatiwant maybe your DS is relishing in having some personal space? He will be doing everyone a favour by being there if only to warm the house up after being vacant for weeks on end!

Not sure about this year when there will be so many more but a friend who graduated in 2019 from UEA was allowed 2. Surely they would never just specify 1?
You have to buy the tickets. Fingers crossed 🤞

Thanks @sluj. I know when my friend's DD graduated from Bristol (I think it was 2019), she seemed to have five guests!

However, I can see that if there are three years of graduates to get through, they likely won't be wanting huge numbers of guests too (it may also depend on what's going on with the pandemic...).

Was it always a thing that you had to buy tickets?

Happy new year everyone - hopefully taking DS2 back Monday - DS3 has the covid so fingers crossed he hasn't passed it on otherwise we'll have to hold off taking DS2 back. Thanks for the heads up about graduations.

DS2 said he has started applying for jobs but I'm not sure how many and how much effort he's put in so far

It's hard to believe they are nearly at the end of their journey - September 2019 seems such a long time ago now!

Starting to apply for jobs is better than not even having got that far (I'm looking at DS!), so well done to your DS2 @NotSorry. I am getting a bit agitated that he's going to finish at the end of April and not even have a short-term job/internship lined up.

@NewModelArmyMayhem18 mine won't look either. I've sent links to jobs along the line he's thinking but he doesn't take any notice. I think he's planning a long break at our expense. He can work his usual summer job if he wants (mid July to end sept)

@icanbewhatiwant it's frustrating isn't it? At least your DS has the option of going back to his usual summer job though. DS's on-campus one may not be open to him once he's graduated (and anyway this past 'summer' it wasn't as lucrative as the previous one because they were clearly cutting costs by employing the students for a shorter time-frame.

Life post graduation. Have any of your DCs floated the M word yet?

Yes, @boys3, DS definitely has but we've advised him it's only really worth doing if it adds value and puts him on a stronger footing for the world of working. If it requires him to spend a year doing a fill-in job while he gives himself headspace to consider what type of Masters course to do, so be it.

@boys3 I asked DS2 and it was a hard “no”

Hi everyone, have any of your DC got definite graduation dates yet?

@sluj DS2 claimed to still know nothing when I spoke with him at weekend.

@Itscoldouthere how are you getting on? I often wonder how your Ds is. Whether he stayed in Norwich while you went back to Canada. I hope you are all settling into Canadian life and that your ds's here are keeping well. I'm assuming if he stayed here then his housemates will be moving on this summer.

@icanbewhatiwant 👋 I’ve not posted for ages but I’m still around. I’m actually in the UK at the moment, we finally completed on our house purchase in London so I’ve been here moving in, it’s all a bit weird as DH is in Canada with the dog.
We are working on having a blended/2 centre existence, not ideal but it’s where we are, we are currently working on trying to get the dog back to the UK, DH can come and spend time here but he probably can’t come till April.
DS2 is still in Norwich, he’s been down to stay with me but has gone back now. We are working towards him moving here and trying to start working but he’s going to need quite a lot of support and I’m due to go back to Canada for March, so I don’t want to leave him all on his own in a strange house in London, but he will move here in April although we are committed to paying his rent in Norwich till August.
He’s still very up and down and although we did look at him possibly going to do a different degree, he’s currently not motivated enough so we wouldn’t really support it.
He’s just hiding away in his room really, but his friends/housemates in Norwich do keep him going, I’m not really sure how it’s all going to work out really but he just needs to get some type of job to get him out into the world and see where it goes.
I’m hoping I can shove him in that direction by being here, but it comes at a sacrifice to us as DH and I have to be apart for long stretches.

It’s really tough for DH he’s working really hard 100% from home, has to look after the dog, it’s freezing cold so going out involves dressing up (including the dog) and things are only just coming out of Covid lockdown, so there isn’t much to do, winter has been very cold this year in Montreal and is feeling long.
We are hoping we can make it work, somehow.
DS1 finishes his degree in June so he will then probably look for work in London and move into the house, so hopefully some progress will be made.

@Itscoldouthere great to hear from you. You were in the uk last time you were on here I think.

That sounds tough being apart from dh. He's a long way away. It sounds challenging with the cold too. That's good you've completed on a London house. If Ds moves there, there will be more job choices for him in London compared to Norwich. Perhaps he'd like to do a degree online though OU. He has many years ahead of him to get a degree if that's what he wants. So there's no rush. It would be good to get him working, just to get him out and give him something to do. But I'm sure that is easier said than done.
That's good ds1 is almost finished and hoping to move to London. I hope you can make it all work.

Thank you @icanbewhatiwant yes things are challenging but I’m sure it will all work out in the end.
I’m very glad I still have lots of friends in London, we couldn’t afford to live in the area we used to live 10 years ago, but we’re not that far away and by buying on a busy road we’ve got a house we can all fit in to, near to the tube, so I think it will make job finding a bit easier for the boys.
I hope your DS has enjoyed his Biology degree I can’t believe how quickly it’s gone.

Hi @Itscoldouthere, great to hear from you. It sounds a tough time for you all but particularly your DS2. Glad to hear that you are making progress with making another family home in London, although it will be tough for you particularly, being separated from your DH. At least with the pandemic restrictions being relaxed around the world, things will be easier travel-wise? Perhaps once your DS1 completes his studies this summer, your DS2 will be more settled being back in the family home with him?

On the subject of the graduation ceremonies, not heard a peep yet @sluj. DS said he's not heard anything yet and @icanbewhatiwant's DS says the same, so we're assuming announcements may be imminent.

Yes...still nothing for Ds.

DS1 who should have graduated from UEA last year has just has a date for July 14th so I think they are imminent. Sports Hall at 5.30pm. Hope DS2's doesn't clash.
It does say 3 guests can go but no details on tickets or costs as yet. I think we need to get our DCs to keep an eye on their emails

I wonder if they're doing the graduations by cohort or subject/department/faculty? Thanks for the 'nod' @sluj. Will advise DS to keep a close eye on his emails.