The ABC of university life (2019/20 cohort) - settling in we hope

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Previous thread - sorry about the lame thread title but done in a hurry!

Yes Tilly my DM was mugged but they threw her bag,containing sentimental items, away after they’d removed the cash. Luckily someone handed the bag in.

@Benjispruce, great she got it back!

@Piggywaspushed, well I guess at least he's onto it!

Well I’ve been a complete wreck today- literally sobbing. I think it’s all hit home. Like a PP said I’ve had phone calls when there’s been problems so Monday was bad. Too busy, too full on and overwhelmed so DD didn’t eat in college - just a pot noodle in her room. Then nothing from her since. I think I’m missing the daily “How was today?” conversation we had each day. Im struggling not knowing how she’s feeling or what she’s done. I hope she gets a photo of matriculation today but she’s not one for selfies or group photos so I don’t hold much hope.
@Piggywaspushed so sorry to hear about your DS. It’s that sort of thing that would tip me over the edge. 18 years of sorting things out and now she’s too far away to properly help - or so it feels.
Sorry everyone. I think I just need to get used to the new normal and stop worrying.

I am actually remarkable calm about it. If he had lost his bank card and/or laptop I'd have lost the plot, mind!

@mum2eim Bless you. Don't be too hard on yourself, don't forget it's a massive transition for us as parents as well as for our kids. We've all had a huge build up to these couple of weeks, starting back at the beginning of A levels really, but intensifying over the last months. Now we've reached the summit, our children are rightly spreading their wings and we are left, hoping and praying they will be ok, worrying ourselves sick that they are not, but unable to sort it all out as we have done for the past 18 years, lack of communication compounding the issue. DS is the youngest of four, my emotions are the same this time as they were when DD1 set off, but at least this time I do know that I will feel better and that I will settle to the new normal, even though it doesn't feel like it right now. As will you. Until they are home for the holidays and we have to get used to the mess again! In the meantime I'm just waiting on those photos - just one will do . . Hope you feel better soon.

Ah Mum2elm it will all settle down for all of you x

Hope the mums having a wobble feel better soon and that Piggy's DS find the rucksack or sorts it out.

We are nearly three weeks in and I'm worried DC is sounding tired. I expect it catches up after all the excitement. How are the other long termers doing? sounds like jail

@Ginfordinner - Could you send a new calcualator via Amazon? We've already sent a couple of things to DS's Amazon lockers which are on site.
DS's calcaulator that he needed for 6th form was £70 - I hope it is cheaper than that you for / your DD!

We are seeing her this weekend blame, and she can afford another calculator. I think she just needs another Casio fx82.

@Tinseltrauma, well said!

I am home alone this evening, so I have put my candles and I'm relaxing

Dd would like a full length mirror for her room as there isn't one in there or In the shared bathroom,

Thinking I might just send it by amazon straight to her halls.

Spot on Tinsel it's very early days, and a big adjustment for everyone, parents and freshers (I wanted to say children but that's not very accurate!).

I struggle with not being able to swoop in and fix every little things, but that's all part of it I guess. We are getting photos etc (and I actually had to message her for help with a Facebook issue, so who's helping who here? It does make me think back to my parents who wouldn't have had any contact with me at all baring the weekly phone call from the box on the corner.

Piggy What an annoyance for him! but at least he's on it with the passport.

mum2eim sorry you’re feeling that way. I’m not feeling sad at all now. I suppose it’s because I know DD is having a whale of a time but also I’m enjoying the peace and quiet, as I know it won’t be long before she’s back, collecting mugs in her bedroom and staining my sheets with fake tan !

Fx82 can be bought at Argos/WHSmith I think so they can easily buy themselves. We looked at some of the more advanced graphing calculators but it wasn’t clear if they were allowed in exams

Not super comfortable with DS taking passport - needs for ID at the time but now they have their student ID I might ask them to bring it up next time they come home

@mum2eim

I'm not getting any photos either. Dd does not do selfies, and hasn't the confidence to ask someone to take one for her.
I asked if she could get one of matriculation, and she said "oh yes, I've ordered one", which wasn't what I meant-I wanted one of her and possibly with new friends (preferably looking like they're all having a wonderful time!) rather than the formal one.

Otoh one of my fb friends took their dc to uni at the weekend and has taken lots of photos of their dc with captions "goodbye, #we'regoingtomiss you, #loveyoubaby" and posted them on the uni fb page
I can't really get my head around doing that. please don't tell me any of you did that

Re: a full length mirror. You can buy mirror tiles that you attach to back of a door or a wall. Check with the uni. on that one. DS certainly does not have room for a freestanding one. It would have to go in their kitchen.

There’s quite a few full length mirrors that hook over doors, maybe the wardrobe if not possible over bedroom (fire) doors.

witchend oh no that’s awful. I haven’t said the ‘miss’ word at all. Have only said ‘proud’ and ‘excited’ and don’t do FB anyway thank goodness!

DD has her passport and driving licence as they needed photo ID to get their room key. Also for 2nd year accommodation rental agreements. I do hope she’s not wandering around town with it though and that she’s put important docs in a safe place.

Dd had her introduction type lecture thing today plus met their supervisor who they keep for three years. Fortunately she liked her. She's got a busy day tomorrow.

@Benjispruce, same with DS. I gave him a zip up wallet to keep important stuff in - he has seen DDs so knows it's a good idea!

@Witchend eeek! How did she even get access to that group?! DS would never contact me again if I did that!

DD has her passports and other important docs other than her birth certificates, which I forgot to give her. I figured it's time for her to be responsible for them. Plus her hall of residence has far better security than our house, where we never lock the doors.

Absolutely Lobster, if not now, when? DD is 19, they are her documents, not mine.

@Benjispruce I wouldn’t mind, but a room on a shared floor with random people coming in and out wouldn’t be my first choice for securely storing valuable documents.

Does your DS not have a lockable door to his room MrKlaw?