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A Level Results Day

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3catsandadog · 30/07/2018 09:50

Hi If UCAS does not update first thing before the school opens for result is it a bad sign that the offer has been missed.
Good luck to everyone awaiting results :)

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Witchend · 18/08/2018 13:52

It's rather sad that people can't share good exam results without being accused of boasting.

My observation is that on my feed the people who share are the people who are getting mid grades-and parents are rightly proud. The people who have children who get exceptional grades (I have one whose dc just got 6 A*) don't put anything.

Why shouldn't people be able to post that they're proud of their child for getting whatever is good for their child. My dc will never achieve 6 A*, doesn't mean I can't be delighted for them, just as much as the other person who posted their delight their in dc got CDE.

It sometimes feels that in academics people are in a race to the bottom.

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Twistella · 18/08/2018 14:23

Woah hold on. I don't mind people being proud but I personally wouldn't talk about grades. I do have one mum who put a photo of her ds gcse results (stellar) and has done the same with her dds A level results this year. I'm sorry but that's cringe worthy.

Twistella · 18/08/2018 14:28

Pressed send too soon - I also have a mum whose child is national level in a sport and I love reading about what she's done, it's really amazing. It takes a huge amount of sacrifice and hard work to get to that level in a sport whereas SOME (please note SOME) high fliers academically just find it too too easy - dds ex boyfriend deals drugs, did bugger all work and still got AAA!

Justanothermile · 18/08/2018 14:31

Cringeworthy in your opinion.

It's not my thing but I'm not judging anyone that does choose to post grades.

NotTheWayISeeIt · 18/08/2018 14:36

posting actual grades is naff and unnecessary but posting that you are proud or happy or whatever and that your DC are off to whatever Uni seems reasonable.

I’m my friend group we don’t usually discuss grades at all but we do chat about our kids and what they are up to. It’s not a banned subject but it is a subject where people are careful. Our kids exams results are their not ours. My kids would hate me to be boasting and blabbing about them online.

NotTheWayISeeIt · 18/08/2018 14:37

Sorry for typos

Misspuffle · 18/08/2018 15:17

What do u guys do in a situation where a friend has been bragging for ages how their son is going to be going to top tier uni. Only to find out from other sources he's not and has ended up in a ex poly a lot lower ranking than expected.

Justanothermile · 18/08/2018 15:23

I don't think I'd do anything personally. There's obviously a lot going on there. Surely the truth will out anyway at some point? What a sad and strange situation.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 18/08/2018 15:31

Don't do anything, it will be really stinging them anyway and having to face people is going to be really hard. Be nice.

LoniceraJaponica · 18/08/2018 15:35

That has happened with DD's boyfriend. He had an offer from a top uni and didn't get in. He managed to get a place at another good uni though. His mum was crying on Thursday, and I'm not sure whether she was disappointed for him or for herself.

It didn't help that DD did much better than he did and is now taking a gap year.

Clairetree1 · 18/08/2018 15:35

What do u guys do in a situation where a friend has been bragging for ages how their son is going to be going to top tier uni. Only to find out from other sources he's not and has ended up in a ex poly a lot lower ranking than expected.

congratulate him of course,

nothing wrong with going to an ex poly, or to a lower "ranking" place, a lot of such places excel in particular subjects even if the rank low overall, and it is certainly no bar to going on to excel individually.

If he is feeling a bit down at not getting his first choice, then reassurance etc, but it may be that he is perfectly pleased and happy with what he's got

Twistella · 18/08/2018 15:35

I wouldn't do anything, I'd hope her ds has a lovely time.

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Twistella · 18/08/2018 15:38

Although a mum I know has talked about her dd going to Bristol when it's actually UWE. I always think that's a shame for the dcs it makes it sound as though the parent isn't pleased for them

Misspuffle · 18/08/2018 15:41

just Im kinda avoiding her at the moment. I do feel sorry for the son. He's obviously caused dissappointment to the parents and will get a lot of flack. She has been so bloody arrogant about how smart he is and how the uni's was falling at their feet giving him quick offers and he will be the schools only pupil going to the best uni for his year. It's not Oxbridge but not that far down from them. He must have really flunked his exams poor kid. If only she was a bit more humble at the time. Now no one knows how to approach it. Playing it by ear.

Clairetree1 · 18/08/2018 15:47

Although a mum I know has talked about her dd going to Bristol when it's actually UWE. I always think that's a shame for the dcs it makes it sound as though the parent isn't pleased for them

well, Bristol is brilliant, but UWE actually exceeds them in several areas, such as ICT and environment

Misspuffle · 18/08/2018 15:53

clairetree I've been telling her for months not to place so much pressure on the son but in a polite way. But it's always yeah he I'll be fine he's smart kid not made like the others. I just don't want her to feel awkward as much as it does now. Maybe give her space let her find me when time is right.

LoniceraJaponica · 18/08/2018 15:53

And I know a mum who told me her daughter was planning on going to Oxford to do a business degree. She always bigs her children up, but didn't realise that most of us know that the university of Oxford doesn't do degrees in business. Of course she meant Oxford Brookes.

venetian25 · 18/08/2018 15:59

Sorry late to the party.

I was guilty of posting on fb, but I didn't post grades just how proud I was that DD got the results she needed for her first choice uni (I didn't even name the uni) - this is acceptable right?

OhYouBadBadKitten · 18/08/2018 16:02

hah, yes, I know someone who refers to their student going to Oxford when they mean Oxford Brookes and another Cambridge when they mean Anglia Ruskin. It doesn't matter, except they are doing it on fb in front of their kids and so their kids must know that their parents aren't proud of where they are going when they should be.

Nettleskeins · 18/08/2018 16:21

I shall be sure to say that Ds is going to Headington then Wink
luckily I never post on Facebook at all. I cannot imagine putting any grades on there, unless for a very small closed group who knew the context.

I do know someone who suffered a lot when her child didn't get in to Oxford though; that whole year she had suffered her child's hopes and dreams and supported her through exams, why wouldn't she be crying? It can be a cruel system for some, so many hoops and then despite the hard work, trying not to think too hard that it is a definite plan, making plan B, the day comes and the "dream" evaporates. You cannot really win as a parent in that scenario except to model incredible ambivalence, and why wouldn't you suffer when your child suffers a disappointment?

My friend didn't boast, but she minded.