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Open days - what attracts you? What puts you off?

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shovetheholly · 06/02/2017 12:58

I'm interested in hearing about your experiences of open days!

What attracts you and your DS/DD to a course or a place? What puts you off? What kind of information is it good to receive about the course? How much does the city/town of the university matter? How significant are job prospects later on to your decision? Do open days always confirm what you already think, or has one changed your mind (either positively or negatively)?

Am asking because we rarely get honest feedback from parents on the day (for obvious reasons), and I'd love to hear what you REALLY think... and get a sense of what we can do better.

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RhodaBull · 13/02/2017 09:15

Ii don't think sample lectures are of much worth. When I was at university there was a huge range of lectures and lecturers. Some were great, some would send someone who had consumed ten cups of black coffee to sleep. Same with tutorials. Some lively, some best avoided. So much - like anything - depends on your peer group, too.

I do think the accommodation matters - warts and all. I was impressing on dh yesterday that this generation are not like The Young Ones. Back in the 80s it was a badge of honour to have the scruffiest, mankiest, most health-hazardy student accommodation. People top-trumped each other about who had the worst landlord, the least amount of heating, and who had managed to purloin three giant loo rolls from the Student Union. Young people today (grumble, grumble) are testing wi-fi signals and being sniffy about coffee options. They are not spooning out Nescafe and keeping a pint of milk on their windowsill.

EnormousTiger · 13/02/2017 09:25

I suspect the main things people want is for things they are told will happen at a certain time to happen at that time and that they get a chance to hear about the university, speak to some currents students and perhaps look at some student accommodation. Perhaps I will report later when my son has had his Bristol trip. I think it's in March.

BoboChic · 13/02/2017 09:29

Rhoda - accommodation matters - and it has also become fiendishly expensive. I lived in quite basic accommodation at university but it was dirt cheap. I also had no valuables. These days students have much more stuff and need more secure accommodation.

senua · 13/02/2017 09:32

Back in the 80s it was a badge of honour to have the scruffiest, mankiest, most health-hazardy student accommodation.

I'm afraid that I'm in the throwback camp with your DH! He will be pleased to hear that horrible accommodation is still out there to be found. DD had awful problems (damp & mould) with her second year digs and had to do battle with her landlady. DD ended up taking the case to the Council and getting the HMO licence revoked. I was very impressed with DD and I think she learned a lot (about herself, about building construction, about tenant law, about due process). I'm not convinced that cotton-wooling them in fancy en-suites does them as much good.Grin

ErrolTheDragon · 13/02/2017 09:50

Tiger, the actual open days for bristol are, again, 2 days in june and one in sept. So presumably March is an applicant or offer holders day - some of the same considerations apply, I guess, but not exactly the same - far fewer people for one thing. If your DC was able to make a good guess at the 5 to apply for, just doing it this way round must make life easier -

Wandaback · 13/02/2017 09:50

Another one here with DC who have had appalling accommodation. Not halls though. Even the cheapest halls that DC had were warm and sanitary, albeit small and with shared facilities. It has been the privately rented off campus student housing that has been shocking. Having said that DC seem to see it as heroic and compete with tales of awfulness.

bojorojo · 13/02/2017 11:10

The good accommodation gets snapped up very quickly in some university areas! Early bird etc! You also pay the price for better accommodation so the poorest students end up at the worst places. Very few university cities have enough good accommodation and, if it is all lovely, expect high rents!

Looking at the rented sector on an open day is a non starter though.

It will be an offer day in March and that does present an opportunity to have a good look round. I know Bris has newer accommodation nearer the city centre (and the clubs - as my friend's DS was delighted to say) however, look at the halls at Stoke Bishop. They are a bus ride away but actually it feels like going home for the day after work! They are less likely to attract the noisy students now the other hall has opened!

BoboChic · 13/02/2017 11:17

The accommodation situation for students largely mirrors the national accommodation crisis. Housing in the UK is overpriced because, like pretty much everything else, it has been viewed by successive governments as a way to boost headline figures on national wealth. The £million rabbit hutch / mouse hole is still a rabbit hutch / mouse hole, however...

ErrolTheDragon · 13/02/2017 11:19

Looking at the rented sector on an open day is a non starter though.

Not necessarily - some of them, having had to stay overnight because of the distance, a bit of a look the next day at letting agents windows and then a gander at the areas where the student lets seemed to be was easily doable and quite informative.

BoboChic · 13/02/2017 11:20

I really wonder whether prospective students from the EU are going to want to go to university in the UK after Brexit. How are open days going to address the issue of a massive fees hike and no guarantees of long term prospects post-degree in the UK?

EnormousTiger · 13/02/2017 11:21

Good point Errol. I don't think any of my children went to any pre offer days at all (and didn't go with them to any offer holder days they went alone ) so I am probably the least qualified person to be on this thread. Yes one twin is giong to his Bristol offer day soon with his friends from school and his twin who also might go to Bristol and has an offer says he doesn't need a visit which is fine too (their sister went there anyway so it's not as if they don't know the place).

RhodaBull · 13/02/2017 11:32

Ds has just visited a friend in Bristol for the weekend. He reported that the hall of residence was quite nice - near to the centre, spacious rooms and very clean. I asked him which hall it was but he looked vacant...

In contrast to nearby one he visited another friend at which he said was grim, concretey and scruffy.

bojorojo · 13/02/2017 11:32

Yes, Errol: A few people stay overnight and can afford to do so, but looking at the coaches laid on from stations and parking instructions, the overnight stays are not so common. You won't get to see inside a house either! How do you know what the state of it is inside? Half the time the students that rent it didn't know! (We had a long thread about a room with no window if you recall). Most prospective students are too busy on an open day to get around the student areas. Although I did when DD was in talks! Great delis and coffee shops in Bris! Not to mention restaurants, the lido, independent shops and regency houses - all within the university area! Didn't see a single group of prospective students though!

2rebecca · 13/02/2017 12:02

In Scotland I see Brexit as being good for Scottish teenagers wanting to go to uni as the EU students were competing for the free tuition places.
I'd prefer to go back to all the UK having free tuition and fewer people going to university and more apprenticeship routes etc.
I'd support higher taxes and more central funding of universities so overseas students aren't needed to the same extent.

BoboChic · 13/02/2017 13:47

2rebecca - yes, I agree, I think EU demand for places at Scottish universities is likely to plummet. Though Scottish universities have been able to be quite choosy with EU applicants which in theory means a very able student body.

BasiliskStare · 14/02/2017 02:52

2Rebecca , I do not work in tertiary education. For those who do , how easy do you think it would be to reign back from the higher numbers (since my day) of those going to university in say the 80s , compared to today. And would it be a good thing or not? In my day tuition fees were paid and then it was a means tested grant ( for accommodation etc) . But far fewer school leavers went to university back in the day. I would be interested to hear what those who work at universities think. (Sorry for this massive side swerve / derail - do ignore) .

I will btw try to come up with something more constructive than what I have already posted about what Ds found useful at open days.

BasiliskStare · 14/02/2017 02:55

Oh FFS rein back - sorry Blush

lljkk · 14/02/2017 05:55

Bad to restrict tertiary education to a very small elite.
The small elite would overwhelmingly come from an already affluent background (was ever thus).
So if we went back to full grants/no tuition, the wealthy would benefit most.
They would get the degrees & the subsequent higher earning power.
I am not in support of heavily financially subsidising already advantaged to become even more advantaged.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 14/02/2017 08:34

full grants were means tested when I was a student - I know because I got one. We've made degrees a requirement for areas of work where on the job training are far more useful. Promoting apprenticeships and persuading businesses that they are the way to go would be the first step in reversing a situation where so many end up with a huge amount of debt saddling them that they will never ever be able to pay back.

RhodaBull · 14/02/2017 09:02

It is a difficult situation. As lljkk notes, the wealthy, or those in the know at least, would dominate universities (again). Otoh, getting everyone to go to "uni" is selling a pup. You see these kids complaining about working as a barista when they've got a degree, but there are too many graduates now, and too many graduates who are not really, if the truth be told, of graduate calibre. We've got the "every institution is equal" brigade, but let's face it, no they are not. I have no quibble with someone doing a vocational degree at a more-recently-founded institution, but, why do English at the University of Bedfordshire? If you go top down your peers will, realistically, not be great by the time you get to that place. The staff are, I'm sure, very dedicated, but they will not be... eminent. I'm sure statistics show that those not repaying the loans (ie earning £21K+) are predominantly arts graduates from ex-higher education colleges.

user7214743615 · 14/02/2017 09:10

I'd support higher taxes and more central funding of universities so overseas students aren't needed to the same extent.

Bear in mind however that a fraction of overseas students is very important for any highly rated course: bringing high ability students from other cultures is crucial to our universities being highly ranked in the world and having influence. International students aren't just there to subsidise the costs of UK students. They are also there because choosing from a global pool enhances the quality of a course.

Kr1stina · 14/02/2017 09:53

One of the things that attracts my DD to her first choice course is the reasonable number of international students.

VirgilsStaff · 14/02/2017 10:18

basiliskStare apols - my post wasn't directed at you - it was a general post to remind people that "paying" for contact hours via tuition fee is a very silly & inaccurate way to determine whether or not the tuition fee is warranted.

The Student union at my place sometimes does it - the crude reductive arithmetic of Annual Fee, divided by X contact hours = £Y per hour that they're "paying."

It's so stupid and philistine I tend to see red at any mention, and feel compelled to start to itemise what resources go into a university. Bit of a soapbox, excuse me. Wink

VirgilsStaff · 14/02/2017 10:32

For those who do , how easy do you think it would be to reign back from the higher numbers (since my day) of those going to university in say the 80s , compared to today. And would it be a good thing or not? In my day tuition fees were paid and then it was a means tested grant ( for accommodation etc) . But far fewer school leavers went to university back in the day. I would be interested to hear what those who work at universities think

Life would be easier for those of us who retained our jobs.

But it would be a disaster for the country. We'd have to have very very strong mechanisms to ensure that university entry was really down to talent and ability, and not paid-for socio-economic advantage. I was outraged & amused (an awkward position) to read on another thread in this section from a poster who seemed to have children at Eton, identifying how offers to Eton children from Oxford/Cambridge had dropped. The tone of that post was very much one of outrage that the expected rate of offers to the elite institutions was not forthcoming - as if, jst by buying your child's education, you had the right to enter the next level, as an expectation.

The Sutton Trust has excellent figures on all this. Generally, educational attainment borne out of socio-economic advantage, is worth a grade level at A level. So the paid-for educational attainment of an A is equal to the state-educated B. Broadly speaking ...

So there'd need to be very very strong monitoring and controlling of how universities admitted students. We don't live in a meritocracy, mostly because while there is still just a bit of upward mobility, there's very little downward mobility. Tim-nice-but-dim still gets his place at Durham or Exeter or wherever.

Whereas working-class students who are ambitious and bright, but have lived the 1st 18 years of their lives being battered by Daily Fail style broadsides against their whole culture & way of life (and that's before we look at institutionalised sexism & racism), are overly susceptible to feelings of failure before they've even begun.

I'm at a place with a reputation for Oxbridge rejects & hooray Henrys, and we are desperate for more diversity, as are most of our students (I'm in the humanities where students can be more aware of these sorts of issues). But we're in the middle of quite a big internal debate about how we serve our students who come in via Widening Participation mechanisms. They struggle - with the culture, rather than because they're not intellectually up to the work.

As do many of the young women of whatever class, sadly. Still. Imposter syndrome & apologising for their very existence is still common amongst the young women I teach.

So going back to an elite system would serve this nation very very badly. Particularly with a government hell-bent on destroying working-class culture (I'm as upper middle as you might get - 3 generations of Oxbridge on one side, never really needing to earn a living on the other, but even I can see this). A government not really committed to trying to develop equality & equity via education in this country.

As is (because it is happening) xenophobic policies towards international students. International students don't just subsidise your DCs educations. They bring new ideas, different experiences, different cultures to your DCs' educations. Encountering the new and the different is how we learn.

And we should be proud of an education system which is seen as one of the best in the world, not shutting it down to the rest of the world. I love British cosy suburbia for the comfortable lifestyle it gives many of us, but it has no place in a nation's intellectual life.

ReapAndSow · 14/02/2017 10:35

Otoh, getting everyone to go to "uni" is selling a pup. You see these kids complaining about working as a barista when they've got a degree, but there are too many graduates now, and too many graduates who are not really, if the truth be told, of graduate calibre

I get that the lower 'calibre' degrees dilute the prestige of degrees but I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing that so many get to go to university. If you have done badly at school you get another chance to prove yourself at univesity even if it is a lower tariff one. Some people don't get their act together until they are a little older and some are not ever going to cope with the demands of rigorous degree. I'm not sure but I get the impression that a lot of lower tariff degree have a much bigger vocational content than more academic universities. One of my DC looked at a wide variety of Math Degrees and the 'lower' the university the more career focused the degrees seemed.

The other thing to remember is that telling people they aren't suitable for university is not very helpful unless they have other options which I'm not sure they do at the moment.

From an individual point of view doing a less 'reputable' degree at a less 'reputable' university isn't going to do you too much harm - it's still giving you time to grow and mature and it's still giving you something to put on your CV. If you stay in low paid jobs then you may well not reach the threshold to even have to pay back your student loans.

Perhaps those Graduates who complain that they can only find work as barista's would not have even been able to do that without their degree.
I'm more concerned about how to tackle the high drop out rates at some Universities and the lack of provision of truly vocational training.

(Sorry for typos and crappy grammarWink)

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