First Year exams ( continued from prep for uni and starting uni 2015)

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Dear all,

I have really enjoyed these threads. So if anyone else wants to keep up posts on DC travelling through trials and tribulations of uni life - do post here.

Have your DC been revising at all for instance? Do you now stand back?

Meant to add in my previous post that this thread has been a brilliant source of advice and support all the way. Can't believe we have been in this together since year 13!

Are we going to carry on, or all we all pros now?

I don't think I am quite a pro yet. Or at least dd isn't! She is unsure if she has already set up a standing order for next year's rent (first payment due next week)

DD has been at Download this weekend, her Christmas present from me. She was freezing, muddy and hungry. She drank too much and stayed up too late and missed half the bands she really wanted to see. Now she has tonsillitis. I feel terrible for sending her! But she insists next year she'll be better prepared. She wants to do it again?!!

I'd like us to keep going. It's been great to have support and to hear how everyone's DC are getting on.

Me too Gypsy. My DS is home on Sunday, I have to clear his room before then - DS2 commandeered it for revision and has also moved his footy trophies in there
DS1 (who loathes football) will NOT be pleased!

We collected DS yesterday. I cannot BELIEVE how much STUFF we managed to cram into a tiny Corsa. DS and I got the train home and poor DH drove back for 2 hours in a massive thunderstorm with no rear-window vision

Lovely to have the lad home! . He has had a remarkably good year all things considered, and is so much more mature and confident. I hardly recognise him. We are so grateful to his mentor for all the support she has given him. He is moving into a private hall of residence-type place in the centre of town next September with his current flatmates - it is eye-wateringly expensive, but finding a gang of new mates to move into a Young Ones/Fresh Meat Stylee squalid hovel student party house with was a step beyond what he could manage (especially as all the cool kids seemed to organise themselves in term 1 ).

So proud of him . Managed to average a high 2.1 overall, and make a few lovely new friends! Lots of hugs to all the parents of Neurodivergent and Neurotypical students alike - our kids rock!

Hello everyone,

Have been busy. Just caught up.

quietly - just horrid - your poor DD. Hope she hangs on in there.

My DS is back again. Had 2 days of intensive workshops at end of term, compulsory to his course, which despite himself , he quite enjoyed and mingled with 13 other students on his course for 2 days solid - which is breaking the ice. As have said, friends on course are not quite happening.

He was quite exhausted after exams and his highly intensive course - but he got through it. Just a bit nervous about results.

We have also set up deposit for next week. But he may not go to house until September.

Do let us keep going - great source of information on this thread.

dd2 is home now. She had a lovely end of year interview with her tutor and is pleased by her exam results. Her university is especially good with careers advice.

dd1 is still at university as her term goes on longer but is coming out for Father's Day. Everyone home on Sunday.

It is a great idea to keep this thread going.

Started on the open day treadmill again with DS2, been to Leeds today.

Us too Horsemad! Loved it again.
Saw loads of laden cars on the way home ...one parent, one young adult and a year's worth of stuffed crammed in the boot with the lid shutting through the power of prayer only

My DD2 is hopefully going to Leeds this September! I loved it too

DS doesn't finish till Friday. I know he's in a play at the moment and he has a new girlfriend. That's more information than i've had all term from him.

Ha ha Gypsy, DH is collecting DS tomorrow. DS sent pics of his packing today and said he might need 2 cars!

DH said if it won't all go in, he'll send DS home on the train and use the passenger seat for extra space, lol!

Dd came home on Friday - so good to have her back for three and a half months. The dog was more than a little excited to see her, too. Can't move on the landing for boxes and bags!

Please keep this thread going, it has been a great source of advice and although I haven't posted much it is nice to know I am not the only parent who still worries.
DD comes home on Thursday but will only be here for a week as she has a job for the summer a long way from me. She is going to have to find her own way home as I can't pick her up, but we have arranged a storage unit for the summer so she is leaving most of her stuff in her uni town.
As some of you might know she has had a hell of a year, but she is still smiling, she has been on a field trip for 2 weeks and has made a lot of friends from people who were only acquaintances before, I think these trips are brilliant for taking them out of their small groups and letting them get to know others.

I hope this thread will still keep going. I need the support even if ds is launched.

We're struggling at the moment to educate ds in the harsh economic realities of real life as he is treating his student overdraft as free money (his words). He has finished each term so far in debt (despite parental top ups) and he's just managed to keep his head above water with a holiday job. But this summer he has planned FOUR foreign hoildays (one with us, one with uni housemates, one with girlfriend, one with old school buddies) and plans to pay for all this on his overdraft (and of course being away will mean he's not available to pick up shifts at work). He hasn't factored in the fact he has to pay half rent on his student house over the summer and has just assumed we'll help with that.

Dh and I have decided we are not going to help him financially at all over the summer and he is heading for a major reckoning. We'd like to go on four fucking holidays too but we don't because we haven't got enough money . Grrrrrrrr.

Offspring is back - fetched her yesterday. Bedroom here already a tip. She is mostly away (again) until the beginning of August. Awaiting exam results. Trying to decide whether to ditch university boyfriend who - although v busy, hardworking, lots of interests etc - can be a tad clingy.

So feel she is just passing through and will catch up with her properly in 6 or 7 weeks...

It's weird. Good weird. But still weird.

Haff good for you not helping DS! Four holidays is well overkill [hmm

Yay for DS mingling voilets

We have DS here for another two weeks before we move him into his house share. He will be there for 5 nights and then will get the train back down so he can come on holiday with us. The money we normally put into his account every Monday has been put away in one of our accounts whilst he has been at home and this will pay for his first lot of rent that is due on the 23rd of this month. When we brought him home in May the car was packed to the gunnels. We have a 32" tv and a PS4 to go back with him this time that he had bought whilst at home (scholarship that he was awarded that he doesn't have to repay) so space will be at a premium.

Wow Haffdonga, your boy likes his hols!

DS is quite good with his money but I think our contribution is quite generous compared to what my friends give their DC. Also, DS isn't big on partying, so doesn't spend an awful lot.

He is going to Norway for a fortnight but has paid for this from his own money, so I'm ok about that.

Mine really needs to get a holiday job but hasn't done anything about that...

DS has been making a reasonable amount of money writing for a website (I have no idea which one but he gets paid in dollars). He gets paid for ghost writing ebooks as well. He says he spends a third, saves a third and puts the final third towards his MA in screenwriting at the NewYork film school that he wants to do after his degree. I can't argue with any of that!

DS has finished and is back home now but currently has nowhere to live next year. He'd agreed to share with a school friend from a different uni in the same town but he backed out.

DS, who has AS is a but thrown by this and doesn't yet have a plan B, I'm trying not to panic!

Wow that's very industrious Nice ! If yr son is where I think he is, my DD reckons she's seen him perform a few times.

yes i'm sure they're at the same place Gypsy

Yes he's in the college next door I seem to recall. They seem to do quite well for culture up there. DD is off to the ballet down on the Bailey followed by clubbing in Klute...the latter being less cultural but definitely an institution in its own right