First Year exams ( continued from prep for uni and starting uni 2015)

[voilets]

Dear all,

I have really enjoyed these threads. So if anyone else wants to keep up posts on DC travelling through trials and tribulations of uni life - do post here.

Have your DC been revising at all for instance? Do you now stand back?

Quietly. If she finishes this year then she met be able to take the credits and start somewhere else in year two. Might she be 'happier' somewhere where she would be one of the strongest students or perhaps somewhere with a much higher coursework content? Do you think living in Uni accommodation is causing her extra stress? Might a Uni closer to home work better for her?

I couldn't believe it when DS said his lectures were finished, it seems no time since he started.

Sauvignon I just messaged DD and her lectures are finished too, I had no idea until I read your post.

Ds hasn't even started back after the break .

My DS is going back today. His exams aren't until second week in May. Good thing too as he hasn't started revising yet

DS rang yesterday. He had been for his meeting with his SEN mentor although he had delayed the meeting by 1/2 hr as he needed to finish off his lab report that he has known he needed to do for weeks and the deadline was yesterday .

He says he has started revising but didn't sound too convincing. Still hasn't had exam timetable - apparently it's not published until end of April but I reminded him it is only 8 weeks until he finishes his 1st year so that doesn't leave much revision time.

DS isn't going back till Friday. He has a few weeks of lectures and then exams. I have no idea what he's been doing work wise but he's always been a secret reviser so no change there. Not like DD2 who fills every available space in the house with colour coordinated notes.

Offspring went back on Sunday. She is going to work in China for part of the summer. Which seems a long way away.

Hello
DS went back nearly two weeks ago as he was hosting his not-a-girlfriend while she was staying in his room city. We are not allowed to ask about her though so I have no idea if she's still there and/or if he's doing any revision. He's been suprememly vague about when (or even if) he has exams and when (or even if) he intends to come home at the end of term and how (or even if) he intends to get a summer job.

I suggested to him that he volunteer to be a student ambassador or whatever they're called on the open days for a bit of cash but he scorned the idea because it's not a proper job. I said, at least its money of you've got nothing else to do, but what do I know?

Haffdonga at the not-a-girlfriend! I fear ds (15) is already like this. He has just split up with his first girlfriend who had been seeing for 3 months but it is very diificult to get any info out of him. Very strange after dd who shares everything!

We took dd back today and to my shame I cried again when I left her. Does this ever get any better? I really didn't think I would this time but I do find it hard leaving her. If I behave like this when ds goes to university he will disown me. Need to get better at this

Hello all, thank you Voilets for the thread.

We took DS back last Sunday, laden up with home cooked food and brownies. He says he has about three weeks before his next piece has to be in. However I am pleased to say he did do uni work whilst at home over Easter.

He finishes uni on the 16th May, we will bring him back on the 21st.

He still doesn't have a job

Can I rejoin? I was on the other threads

Ds is STILL HERE ... His term didn't finish until just before Easter (his last lecture finished at 5pm on Maundy Thursday) and the summer term doesn't start until a week on Monday

He's got two exams in May but hasn't started revising yet as "there's plenty of time when I get back, mum"

He's apparently been suffering severe anxiety and has finally started to get treatment for this and his OCD

I am doing my best to be helpful and sympathetic but it's hard when all he does is mope around the house in tracksuit bottoms, watching tv and leaving a trail of wet towels and tea mugs, but then suddenly springing into life when it's time that go and see his girlfriend (she's still at school so not around in the day). He's done no work, not earned any money and apart from the odd dog walk has had barely any exercise in the last 3 weeks. It's driving me insane

I think they do have plenty of revision time when they go back because that's all they have to do. And it's pretty standard to pull an 'all nighter' for students who do last minute cramming

Dd says that her exams don't count towards the final and she only has to get 40% so not too much pressure, although obviously she is going to try her best.

She went back yesterday. Her last exam is in six weeks and then she's finished for the year

It's gone so fast! I was thinking that I've missed a year of her life almost because first year is over and I wasn't that involved in it. I remember helping her through the stressful weeks leading up to and during gcses when she was 16. All the nerve racking driving practice and all the uni visits when she was 17. Learning all about UCAS, applying for courses, waiting for offers and anxiously finding out A level results when she was 18. And then, of course, waving her off and now she is 19 and I've barely seen her.

Good grief, I'm going to be a wreck when ds goes too

Dd goes back today. She still has quite a few weeks of lectures, then one exam in June.

I'm trying to bite my tongue in RL as don't want to spoil her last day but am feeling a teeny bit cross with her.

She had a summer job lined up but they were very specific that they needed people to commit to the whole of the school holiday period. She has now booked flights to go away with friends before the schools go back. I have tried to get her to phone the company to ensure she hasn't scuppered her chances but she hasn't yet.

And breath.

I had explained that it was a good idea for her to work as much as possible for various reasons, including family finances.

Grrr.

Welcome noitsnot

My DS back today too. He has about 5 or 6 exams and more course work to do. An awful lot of constant work on his course. I think he just about keeps up with most of it. Not all.

He'll be back next weekend to see friends who are still here then not home until after exams. He seems to need to leave home gradually after a break!!

Overall though, proud he's coped.

Yes, a short year in a way - Mid Sept. to early June. It is upon us and they'll be home for months - apart from travelling.

Good luck to all DC in final semester.

Decorhate at least she has a summer job lined up...unlike DS

Noitsnot DS doesn't do any exercise! No I am telling lies actually....he does, he opens the fridge door about 50 times a day, that surely is muscle building . I also got him to drive me or DS2 around when needed.

Pug, I'm just worried they will withdraw the job offer. She hasn't had the contract through. Plus I believe there is a bonus if you do the core weeks they need covered...

I've been trying to very much step back now my daughter is a student. So one or two reminders have come through the posts. (Dentist's appointment due.) Or there have been one or two occasions when she's asked for help. (A laptop that I bought for her online, so I'm the one who need to speak the Tech Support people first about a glitch.)

A lot of saying, 'You're grown up now.' 'It's your choice.' 'It's up to you.'

Mainly it works. If it doesn't then she deals with the consequences...

Sorry to hear that quietly have you been able to unpick what is it that she is unhappy with?
Mine loves her course but doesn't like the uni life. Hence she went back Sunday and returned Friday. Fortunately she has a car...which helps enormously. So we get to see her quite a bit. It was a good move not applying to those far flung unis!

Will the course lead her to a job she wants quietly?

She has a meeting with her tutor tomorrow (so travelling up to London as she is home on study leave). She loves living in London and appears to enjoy fending for herself! Just says her course is boring! The main problem is she hasn't been doing the independent study needed so is this the problem and this is also out of character for her! So thinking an option may be to defer her course for a year and have a gap year to work out what she want to do! She has NO clue what career she wants now - was always going to teach but this doesn't seem to be the plan anymore either! She doesn't want a 'dead end' job (her words) and loves studying! It was always her goal to get into Kings and she has worked really really hard to achieve the grades and get in so this is a massive decision! I feel like my head is going to explode - trying to keep a level head around her moping and feeling anxious whilst revising for her exams! Walking on eggshells! Good luck to all your dc's doing exams soon 🍀

Hope it all works out well Quietly.

Ah so she had the goal of uni in itself?
Perhaps time out now would be good. She can the try work, try and see what types of work suit her, office, outside, with people, independent etc. Then she can focus on the type if degree needed. Perhaps some work experience?

What subject is she doing again?

I didn't like my subject...couldn't see where it would lead...and really should have quit and done something else, but people tried to get me to finish. I did finish, but ended up doing another degree.

Could she look at a conversion course afterwards?

Decorhate it must be very frustrating for you, hopefully she will ring them soon.

Quietly what a worry for you.

Hoping it's just normal exam nerves for your DD Quietly and things improve when exams over and she can think straight.

DD1 went back this weekend, seemed happy enough though, despite having 2 prices off work due in that could have been completed during holidays. Seems her course mates did similar, and there have been some late night library marathons already.

Still has about 4 weeks of lectures left, and a large piece of coursework before exams start. Has her dates for written exams, both in 2nd week, but no date for practical yet. Not a clue when she wil start revision, nor what state her notes are in - if she even has any.

Very proud of how well she has faced her essay issues, and the results she has had for them,, though still struggling with essays in exams. Hence stressing over next years module choices which have now opened. Judging by some of the reading lists, looking like a big jump.
Not all the essay module choices have exams next year - BUT she prefers the content of those that do. Has decided on her non-essay choices (some of which may have limited places, mixed messages here too) but cannot submit until all decided, so hope she doesn't lose out.

As for the a summer job, 'may' get some shifts from last years p/t job, but not guaranteed. Hadn't looked elsewhere, not sure she will, but still has savings and should have a big chunk of last loan instalment left. She seems very unclear on how the student ambassador applications work , seems to think those that started last Semester get kept on for the July & Sept open days?

Good luck to all those with exams looming.

DD has just messaged me to tell me that she has sunburn after she and some friends fell asleep on her balcony this afternoon.

Clearly revision is not a priority just yet.