First Year exams ( continued from prep for uni and starting uni 2015)

[voilets]

Dear all,

I have really enjoyed these threads. So if anyone else wants to keep up posts on DC travelling through trials and tribulations of uni life - do post here.

Have your DC been revising at all for instance? Do you now stand back?

My DS also came home on Sunday, back for 3weeks.
He has some cat sitting for our neighbour lined up, but no other work.

Happy New Year everybody

Happy new year! DS has just been to stay with DD1 for a few days and so has just disappeared upstairs for some alone time to recover from being sociable.

My dd goes back tonight. Have been feeling sad about it all day. She was off for much longer last Christmas... And with Easter being late this term is 3 months long. I am already nagging her about booking train tickets to come home for a weekend soon! It doesn't seem to get any easier.

Happy New Year all!

Sorry to hear you are dealing with similar sadness voilets - hope you are ok

Thank you mrs B.

My DS is back on sunday. He has been doing quite a lot of work and even more socialising so his stress seems okay.

Hoping his Jan exams don't exhaust him like last year.

Happy new year all. enjoy them growing up. I feel so proud and relieved he's doing okay that it tempers my empty nest feelings

Hello all, Happy New Year!

For some reason this thread stopped showing on 'Threads I'm On', so I have just been reading and catching up; for MrsB and voilets.

DS has now gone back. Think his term starts on Monday.

I am at all the house share shenanigans. Hope all is sorted now - sounds very stressful.

House shenanigans all sorted for my dd. She loves the new place & flatmates.

Happy New Year everyone.

Dd went back on Wednesday on the coach with one little suitcase. Dh and I are going today with a carload of her belongings. This is the first time she has gone back on the first day she can get into her room. She tells me it is so that she has a whole week to use the library before term begins - I think it is more to do with the new boyfriend being there

Has everyone else's dc gone back now? Dd is starting to think about internships for the summer holiday as they will be thinking about applying for jobs before we know it!

Good on your DD mrs B.

My DS finds the course so full on that we are not raising idea of sumner jobs really.

Maybe a few weeks nearer the time. He hopes to do the MA.

Hope all are back safely and their houses are not too draughty in this snow.

My DD is still home - going back on Sunday with her dad and lots of new belongings. She is currently trying to finish a piece of coursework due in Sunday evening deadline - I shall
Be staying out of her way as she gets very stressed!

We have just secured her accommodation for next year as she will stay in student accommodation - although the info needed to be guarantor is ridiculous.

Hope all our DC have a good term as they reach half way through their 3 yr courses

DS has gone back today and I helpfully got the time of his (booked) train wrong and so had to do an hour long Top Gear style race the train journey to Peterborough to meet it. DS had left his packing to the last minute so had to throw everything in the suitcase and I'm sure must have left something vitally important at home. Not the most relaxing way to spend a Sunday morning!

DS went back on Friday. Off on the train with his big suitcase.
He has been applying for internships, but no joy yet.

Hello All, it's a while since I touched base here.
Hope all DC are ok and working hard.

DS has just told me he has failed one of his modules - in his Repeat Year, so I think it is game over now

He is being very cagey about what will happen next, so I am none the wiser but don't envisage a good outcome.

DH is going to call him for a chat tomorrow but has told me it is DS's problem to sort out, which of course is correct.

Hey ho. DS2 is gearing up for his A levels, so fingers crossed he does the work.

Horsemad

So sorry to hear your news. It is so difficult. I don't know what to suggest but hopefully someone will have some good advice. I hope something works out for him.

Oh dear Horsemad - that is difficult. Hope the chat goes ok and he manages to sort something out.

We will be having a chat of our own here with ds (Y11) who has just had his report and is clearly not doing enough work. So frustrating as he is perfectly capable but just not keen on putting in the work. Not sure I have the patience for this as I am still struggling with grief nearly 3 months on from my db's death but the world keeps going so ds needs to be dealt with.

Dd is doing well. Just got her room sorted for next year. She has a bedroom with adjoining living room so she is very pleased with herself, especially as she was at the bottom of the ballot.

Thanks both, I am really frustrated with him.

MrsB for you, I remember your news about your brother Hopefully your DS is having a blip, fingers crossed for you.

You just can't give someone maturity. So frustrating.

for you MrsB. Am in same position as my lovely Mum is going to die soon and I can't imagine a world without her in it. It is so hard to focus on the GCSE's, A Levels and university stuff at the same time.

Thanks both and so sorry LittleHo. In some ways having other things to focus on is helpful but these last couple of weeks I just feel so drained I have no energy for anything. Wishing you all the best through a very difficult time

Littleho

Dear all,

I'm so sorry to hear all your news.
I am also suffering a bereavement so know how 1st world problems seem insignificant and i'm watching those it directly affects try to pick up the pieces. My deepest condolences. It is shattering and our DC still need us to step up at times. Do take care.

Horsemad, feel i've been with you all the way with this. So frustrating and worrying. Your DH is right. It is DS's life and he will have to learn from it. But as their brains are still developing until 25ish you can stimulate and support. He needs help to see consequences and how to dust himself off and regroup. I'm a firm believer in support -realistic chats but help in making sensible choices. Such a shame as you said he is bright. I do wonder if the course just did not stimulate him.

Seen friends with uni not working out. Worrying but help to stand on own 2 feet in long term reaps benefits. He needs career guidance to know his options. So sorry.

for you too voilets. Seems like there are quite a few of us going through tough times at the moment. I am so exhausted with it all that I have booked a weekend away for dh and I on our own without children to just rest. I know it won't bring db back but I just need some time away from it all. Look after yourself as well as the dc!

I'm sorry to hear of those suffering bereavement it's difficult to have try and support children when you don't feel you have anything spare to give.

Horsemad maybe paid work is what your DS needs and if he finds something that suits him he'll work really hard.

After a final straw type crisis DS is going to move out of his disastrous flat share and back into college. We've had to put aside how much it's going to cost and put his wellbeing first. I'm going up later in the week to move him and help with the practicalities. It doesn't help that work is mad busy and it isn't ideal to take the time off but needs must.

Oh dear cardi

I do like to hear mums'going extra mike for their DC because I'm sure with support they make better , more successful people. Sorry to hear about flat.

My DS has been very happy but feels at moment he makes more effort in friendship than his housemates. fingers crossed, it'll go okay.

1st semester exams okay. Phew! This time last year, we were really worried.

Extra mile should read on my phone!