Preparing for Uni in 2015 continues...

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New thread

Old one here with loads of info

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/2408327-Preparing-for-Uni-in-2015

my daughter had the same problem with her meningitis injection, they had ran out and were waiting for some more. She on had it done on Friday so hope she will be ok.

Ive given my dd plenty of multivits to take as i know her diet is not great, just hope she takes them.

Mrs B - same as Decorhate - DS has to take his immunisation record - he has a printout. I had lost his red book before he went to Nursery .

OK folks, so what is an acceptable level of contact from a neurotic wannabe helicopter parent pfb mum to a secretive and inwardly shy but determined to be independent and confident ds?

I've so far tried to limit myself to once a day chatty how's it going type messages and not expect replies (but received short All good answers ).

I realise that in the initial few days most parents and dcs are sharing loads of where are my pink socks? and don't drink too much type texts, but ds is fiercely private (despite me and dh's pretty laid back approach to parenting) so what do you expect in terms of parent/dc communication? Daily? Weekly? Termly? Ever see them again?

sitting on my texting fingers here

ive txt a few times today lol

This is one of my texts:
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Young Tinkly is not too bothered though Stone; she says everyone is very friendly and nice. The Muslim boy seems to have attached himself to her a bit though, they are going out to find somewhere he can buy some chicken from tomorrow.

I feel very lucky as my DD is a BIG mummy's girl - so she happy to share lots of messages! Although I do worry that she will still rely on me for her 'social contact' rather than make friends as it's safer in her mind! Saying that she has gone on a walking Shakespeare tour to The Globe!

That's really good Tinkly. But it is the drug thing normal? DS is a bit of a health freak about food and is into sport/fitness but he likes to party too. I'd like to think he'd say no to drugs but I'd like him not to be living with people who are doing them.

Haffdonga DD went yesterday, and sent a few texts while we were on our way home. We had the initial what flatmates like and how first night went messages this morning.
Still getting quite a few 'where are' and 'how do I' type texts on and off today.
Also had a family SKYPE today at DDs request, and her and DD2 been exchanging a few messages. Expecting far less contact tomorrow, as DD2 at school and I'm at work.

Keep thinking of things I want to remind her, but trying to leave it until she initiates a conversation - which seems to be quite often, but she is cheerful enough.

Thanks Decorhate and Hocus - dd is going to the doctors on Friday for her meningitis jab so I will get her to ask about her immunisation record.

On a very lighthearted note, DD, DH and I got stopped on campus by the Uni Reporters, doing an article on stylish dads. ????DH was mortified but managed to bluster his way through a few questions and a photo shoot while DD and I cracked up!

Anyone else getting a row of ??? wherever you start a new paragraph?

That is so funny Gammon - I can't imagine my dh would get stopped!

stonecircle ketamine is also known as the "date rape drug". One of my friends at school in the 80's went to Majorca when she was 18 had her drinks spiked ended up in mental institution suffering from schizophrenia. Totally wrecked her life. That was back in them days. Gave DD the talk of not letting strangers buy her drinks.

Thanks everyone for your good wishes. Hope you are OK Cooroo.

Glad to hear that so many of your dc's are settling in well. Hang on in there to the parents who still have worries. I'm sure it will get better. The whole drug scene is a big worry but your dd sounds sensible Tinkly. I've been trying to guess which university.

Focus here has moved away from university packing to organising this funeral & finances. I have to buy a suit for my ds as his old suit ends just below his kneecaps. DD is musical so at the request of her Grandma is going to travel back from her university on her own (6 hour journey, including crossing London by herself on the train) to play a Lament on her instrument. I hope the university will not mind her disappearing for a day sometime in the first two weeks.

Got home a few hours ago. DS went out to Welcome Party last night. Didn't divulge any info - had to be tied down and interrogated before we found anything out!

We took him to Sainsburys and £100 (and a faint!) later, we offloaded him back at halls and said G'bye.

So, that's it; it is done! I was a bit choked as we left but managed to hide it. DH was a bit miffed with him when we left as his attitude was rather disdainful.

He says he's coming home at the end of Oct - we probably won't hear from him until he needs a lift, unless he runs out of cash beforehand!

So now my attention turns to DS2 in Yr12...

PS I would be freaked out about the drugs thing

I should just like to add that I have belatedly joined the ranks of people feeling mildly hysterical about minor items of domestic equipment. (In this case the local availablity a laundry bag.)

I suspect my daughter's educational future does not depend on this.

And yet...

Dd says she's missing lots of things, like a chopping board, wooden spoon, etc.

I reminded her that those were the things she had on her list and couldn't be arsed to pack

Ha ha Marianne - it gets you in the end!!

Gammon thats hilarious. Will it be published on the Uni website?

Circular I believe it will be on The Tab website. I'll post it if I see it. Ha ha ha!

Is he at Bristol gammon?

Meant your dd

Sheffield. Poor DH isn't living it down - but neither does he want to. I was annoyed at him earlier and barked "stop being a nob!"??"Please!" he protested, "call me a stylish nob."