I am travelling tomorrow and I will not be posting again 
My neighbour was asking me some question about the HE. She was very confused because of the conflicting information she was reading from different sources including MN. My first reaction, naively, was to encourage her to ask for clarification! She opened my computer and showed me some of the threads...oh boy!
I've suggested to start a thread and try but she's refused, hesitated and finally insisted on not revealing much about her or her daughter. We have set the scene before hand (few weeks), have replaced few facts by others and have started the thread.
It was all going well until some of the comments started appearing and somewhat similar to a parallel thread (of MrsBright and how she was chased out of her thread because she dared to offer help
).
I felt so sorry for my neighbour and other parents like her. As you can gather by now I don't have any children and I don't need any help but she would like to be able to ask a question without being abused. I don't know what you all gain from these type of responses to someone trying to help or asking for help! This negativity is beyond me, it is exhausting to be nasty and mean. I've learnt something about it this week 
I would have liked someone to ask about the ability of the pupil before stating why he/she wouldn't make it. It would be nice if someone shares the knowledge clearly instead of ''to be or not be'' statements or just don't share anything. EITHER BE HELPFUL OR IGNORE
One thing is very clear, a group on this site behave like a bullying heard. You can ditch it but you certainly can't take it.
Suppose a person makes a mistake, if you were really a helpful bunch, it would be nice to ask for clarification first in stead you were coming with machine guns and expecting a white flag!!
I can go on and on but I would like to ask you to try and be considerate to others, be encouraging, be kind....destruction is very easy, try building up (be honest there is plenty of it and not only on this thread).
PS :
-My father is one of the professors who does answer emails and correct work...so it is true, they care more than some think.
-My friend, who is an expert in human behaviour, has predicted most of the responses and we've had a bet about whether I would be able to have the last word
I have tried, really tried....
-Some of the information shared by some of the ''experts'' is wrong.
-Both my niece and my nephew were helping on the open days and that's how I know about them and what has happened... my neighbour has never been. However many year 11 and younger were attending.
-The Private tuition at 20/21 is all my idea
and I stand by it. The rest is a group effort 
I wish you all the best 