DS/DD off to Uni? - Empty nest support thread

[rustybear]

DS is off to Warwick in October - anyone else feeling old? Or are there any old hands with advice ?

harbinger did your DD get where she wanted to be/ her original choice?

I assume DD3 is in Oxford because I left her there on Monday in a lovely room but she was a bit cross that I got her stuff to her late having been kept waiting by DD1 at lunchtime (who was an hour and a half late to the rendezvous) and having dumped DD2's stuff off fairly unceremoniously in a Cowley house which was suffering badly from the after effects of a party. I was a bit put out that I wasn't the soignee mama who had the gates of Magdalen specially opened to let her unpack on the spot , instead I had to do a double yellow stunt and hurry off immediately after to find the nearest parking spot (quarter of an hour away). Not great. I think she's still cross. In that she hasn't e-mailed or phoned. Perhaps she's just busy. She forgot a duvet too though we found her bed fully made up with a fluffy college duvet too: that was a first! DD2 forgot all linen but remembered a duvet. Sorry to see Wadham under a blanket of building work again funny:(

What fabulous weather to start off in though. DD3 and I slipped in through the back gate to Magdalen in the morning just to pick up her key, let in by a Maths don who said he always walked the long way to work when he possibly could. As we approached the college he said he hoped she'd be very happy and told her she must remember not to work too hard: "just be good enough". Very sound advice.

Yellow yes into her first choice! All that anguish! Balliol- I know first in alphabet etc. but she fell for it on open day. Actively didn't like some others so put no second choice on her UCAS form.

BG you should be very pleased that you have caught you son in time. My DH wouldn't accept anything was wrong for far too long. As soon as he was diagnosed he was off work for eight months.

She didn't get a direct offer from them just an open offer,hence the continued worry.

Wow harbinger. We're not that brave!

What do you mean?

Sorry BG that was to Yellow. X post.

BG That could be construed as .....Bet you're glad to still have him!

To not put a second choice harbinger!

yellow I was okay about it as she really didn't care where she went,if not first choice! I must admit she wasn't too keen on some other colleges that interviewed her. So,perhaps a two way thing.

I know this isn't the point, but I do think that some of you are gifted writers. Reading these descriptions and little homely details moves me so much and makes the DC and you all so real, even though I haven't met them.

Betelguese reading about your son always makes me smile somehow because he is obviously so talented and you obviously love him so much. It must have been awful when he came home having lost all that weight. At least he is on the right treatment now and should be fine. for missing him. He must be really good on the cello. And at maths.

Harbinger I heard Balliol is great, what was the room like?

Yellowstone Magdalen, Christchurch and Wadham then for your DD? lucky lucky family you must have done something really right to have helped them through it.

Ilostmymind are you coping?

My DD is very happy so far and has explored the college roof amongst other places.

I smile and I'm a bit teary at the same time actually because of all that love and concern and worry you express

Its a place from which the silhouettes of the dreaming spires can be seen in the sunset, and at sunrise, where DD and her new friends sit and chat and enjoy the fabulous views of the Bodleian and the colleges, or just wander and emulate Lyra and her friend in Northern Lights playing hide and seek on the roof of Jordan College.

funnyperson - posting at 5am ?
Night shift or can't sleep ?
How's DS ?

I found to my horror ( and accidently I swear ) that my Google web history on my laptop also shows DS's history .
Not edifying ,and has swiftly dispersed any notions I entertained that he might be socialising in his spare time - of which he has a lot.

funny DD1 had an attic room on the main quad in her first year and they used to sit right up on that roof there. A pretty perch and very high but not for faint hearts. Nicholas, Dorothy and King James used to look on unsmiling (so no change there).

And no-one at Christchurch I'm afraid, DD2 is at a pretty little place in the middle of town. No, I haven't done much and we've had plenty of blips, but thank you anyway :)

I've now sent a final ultimatum to DD3 saying I shall e-mail her very good looking college dad asking how she is if I don't hear by early tonight

Betelguese seems to have an extraordinary DS. Mine aren't in that brilliant bracket at all. I just stand back in awe with Maths and Philosophy - and the music as well: different world, different league. Still, Oxford needs the others, they can't all be top.