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JuliaMumsnet · 09/06/2021 17:07

Stephanie Hilborne

CEO at Women in Sport

Earlier this year, Women in Sport released first a report on the impact of the pandemic on teenage girls' sports and exercise and later launched a campaign on the menopause and sports. We asked CEO Stephanie Hilborne to tell us more about these issues and Women in Sport more widely:

"When someone says the word "sport" what’s the first thing you think of?

For me, it is gazing longingly out of the window at the netball courts during French class. But our charity Women in Sport knows that for many women the opposite is true. "Sport" brings back horrible memories of school. Whether it was being forced to wear “gym knickers” or a leotard when you were on a period or never getting picked for the team because you weren’t “sporty”.

And yet the word sport means “being carried away from stress and responsibility”. It’s about having fun. I don’t know many women who would reject the idea of less responsibility and more freedom.

Now think about exercise. What do you first think about when someone says the word “exercise”? Many women we talk to wince because they think they should be doing more of it. For others, serious exercise conjures up pain and suffering. But when we actually get around to going out for a brisk walk or even a run, we feel great. Our bodies release endorphins when we exercise, which is the healthiest way to get high.

Women in Sport has been looking into the lives of teenage girls and women during the last year and finding out how lockdown has affected women’s experiences of, and views on, exercise and sport. Before the pandemic, Sport England statistics showed that the gap was closing but women were still slightly less active than men overall.

The biggest gender gap was in team sport – with 25% fewer girls than boys involved in teams and paltry opportunities for girls at school. That’s why the closure of schools affected boys’ sports the worst.

Why should we care about team sport? Because being in joint endeavour, in a team, trying to win while having fun brings lifelong benefits. If more girls had positive experiences of team sport at school, more women would enter the workplace and wider society trained to lead, to take risks, and to be resilient if they lose.

So, what did we find out about girls in lockdown? During the pandemic, the Government put exercise front and centre as one of the few ways we were able to leave our homes. This opportunity has released some girls into new worlds. We talked to teenage girls going for walks outside with friends for the first time, and 82% of girls said they would put more effort into being active when life returned to normal. Teenage girls we spoke to recognised the value of exercise for their physical and mental health, some for the very first time. They may not know that research shows a positive impact of outdoor sport on body image, but they are feeling it.

Then we spoke to the women. We know that women have borne the brunt of pandemic redundancies and that home-schooling has exposed ongoing stereotypes and gender inequalities in the home. The women we spoke to were time deprived. 32% of women said they could not prioritise exercise during lockdown as they had too much to do for others. But on the positive side, the crisis has led people to reappraise. People have been resetting their priorities and there is more motivation to exercise than there used to be. 85% of women in our research said they would either put more effort into being fit and active or would keep up being active after lockdown.

Our recent new research into women around the menopause showed that this too can prompt reappraisal. So, the double whammy of an unprecedented pandemic and an unprecedented change in hormones seems to be triggering a bit of a revolution amongst midlife women.

One of the most fascinating insights we gleaned even before the pandemic was how much teenage girls cherished time alone with their mum or mother figures in their lives. They saw such relationships as ‘safe spaces’ without fear of judgement. Lockdown has exaggerated this feeling and girls have appreciated time being active outside, in nature, in a safe context without toxic commentary from peers.

Last year we launched our #TimeTogether campaign based on our understanding that midlife women and teenage girls both face unique physical challenges and pressures, and that they want to support one another. Women and girls also know they ought to be more active, but many find it hard to act on that. So, we’re inspiring women and girls to team up, to get active and have fun together outside. As we go back to some normality post lockdown, this special relationship may well help overcome shared concerns about loss of fitness or being in large groups.

The pandemic has led to a growing intolerance of inequality, whether racial, economic, or gender inequality. At Women in Sport, we’ve been intolerant of this for a long time. We know that less wealthy women from certain diverse backgrounds are the least active of all. How wrong is this, that society is denying these girls and women joy and health?

The pandemic exposed underlying inequalities in society across the board, and elite sport was no exception. In August 2020 a BBC survey of elite British sportswomen showed 86% earnt less than £30k from sport, and 60% less than £10k and one in five believed they may have to give up their sport due to the crisis to focus on having a normal job. At the same time women’s sport all but disappeared from our screens. The women’s football Euros were pushed back to 2022 to make way for the men’s Euros to be played in 2021. The Women’s Six Nations was never completed, the 2020 Netball Super League, Football Women’s Super League and Championship were all cancelled. In contrast, the top three tiers of men’s football continued their 2019-20 season; the men’s Premiership Rugby 2019-20 season restarted in August, the men’s Six Nations was completed.

So it is hardly surprising that half as many girls as boys dreamt about reaching the top of sport (30% cf 60%) in a survey we ran with Sports Direct in March 2021. We should not be denying our girls the chance to dream.

We want to redefine the relationship that many girls and women have with sport and exercise. This should be about fun, and we have a right to fun at every time in our lives. Yes, we could be drawing joy from sport, even as teenagers when everywhere you look people are commenting on your appearance; and even in mid-life when that pressure cooker of responsibility means our own needs come last. We want the legacy of the pandemic to be a break down in negative gender stereotypes and the emergence of a new normal in which all women and girls can experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport."

EDIT: Stephanie will be coming back onto the thread at 11am on Thursday 17th June to answer your questions.

Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”
Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”
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Mintjulia · 13/06/2021 12:23

reachersloveinterest That's a shame. Can you try another location ? We have our gazelles too but there's a good bunch of wheezy joggers, fast walkers, strollers and dog walkers who bumble along at the back.

Egeegogxmv · 13/06/2021 12:25

Prizes and accolades for the fastest. Public humiliation for the slowest
You'd think they designed it to be an exact replica of the school sports day experience wouldn't you🤨

MaMelon · 13/06/2021 12:35

Perhaps Stephanie could help by supporting parkrun where they really do welcome people who want to start by walking round and build fitness/confidence from there.

I don’t get the park run love at all. I went along to our local one a few times (9am start on a Saturday morning). Around 300 people taking part, including a significant number from local running clubs. Lots of very fit runners too. Our circuit looped back on itself so as I was halfway round with the other unfit people we passed the finishing line and could see the running club lot and the fit ones finishing - talk about demoralising Sad

Then later in the day our times were released - so I could see how many people were ahead of me (a lot) and how many people were behind me (not so many)!

It didn’t feel like a fun, supportive environment at all.

Mintjulia · 13/06/2021 13:26

I did parkrun to lose baby weight. I liked the fact that I wasn't the oldest, the slowest, the fattest. I walked my first ten parkruns and nobody minded, I was in the slowest 20. Then I started jogging 20 paces every now and then, nobody judged. I've been doing it for five years off and on. There's a few of us who turn out once a month or so. Very relaxed. I don't worry about what anyone ahead of me is doing, I use it as thinking time and I'm happy if I knock 2 seconds off my time.
But if someone wants to go faster, sometime they have pacers, so if you want to aim at 35 minutes or 40 minutes, there's a girl with 40 on her tabard that they can try and keep up with.
You don't have to book, you don't have to register a time if you don't want, it's just there to join in with if you feel like it.

Mintjulia · 13/06/2021 13:29

And at ours, there are no prizes. People get a round of applause if they admit to completing 100 parkruns but most people keep quiet. That's what I like, the anonymity of it all.

Bordois · 13/06/2021 13:57

My only real memory of PE in school is being made to run laps around the field despite being in tears because of period cramps and everyone else in the class having to stop and wait whilst I did it.

chocolateorangeinhaler · 13/06/2021 14:00

When PE at compulsory education level stops being a borderline bullying experience at the expense of a child by an adult whose whole career will be spent knowing that they will only ever wear a tracksuit to work maybe we can get somewhere.
Main issues:
Preoccupation with naturally sporty types, no time to or won't bother with kids who need encouragement.
Ditto telling a group "today we will be playing (insert sport) so off you go" and expecting everyone to know rules of said game and not explaining. Then intimidating kids who don't understand or have never played said sport before.
Stop making equality to mean having to adopt and play sports traditionally aligned to men. Some girls will never want to play football or rugby because they ain't into it and never will be and there is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to.

Siameasy · 13/06/2021 16:22

I was always a physical child but hated the way sport was taught at secondary. PE teachers were the nastiest of all the teachers. The favouritism still angers me. At 45 I’m still participating in gymnastics and would’ve entered a national competition had it not been for Covid - pretty unusual no? - yet at school I was never chosen for anything because they simply didn’t like me. I wasn’t one of the popular girls
I still feel like I’m not very good at sport no matter what I achieve.

Tinuviel · 13/06/2021 18:58

All team sports taught me at school was that it was OK to bully and belittle people if you were good at sport and that PE teachers only know the names of the sporty people and the troublemakers. Needless to say, I was neither, so was on the receiving end of the bullying (some by the teachers).

The best year of PE was year 11, when they did 'Popmobility' for the first hour and a choice of trampoline, badminton or volleyball for the second.

And yet I was physically active - danced, cycled and walked every week.

Why do you think that winning team sports is so important? What about encouraging people to improve? What about dance on the curriculum? Team sports are not the be-all and end-all of exercise.

thenightsky · 13/06/2021 18:59

I had terrible 'teenage' knees and games/PE was bloody painful. I then had a bad fall and ripped the cartilidge in my knee, adding to my pain. My games/PE teachers had no sympathy and would take pleasure in humilliating me and putting me down in front of the other kids.

Years later I joined an adult badminton group. One of my old PE teachers was there. I got talking to her about the long string of operations and treatment I'd had over the years for my joint condition. She actuallty laughed and said 'Oh we always thought you were putting it on so you could skive'. Angry

PlanDeRaccordement · 13/06/2021 20:19

Team sports are great for the competitive extroverts, but I’m suprised the OP did not mention that lone sports where you compete against yourself are just as good for you and are better for the introverted, noncompetitive personalities. Sport is a big umbrella. Include the lone sports.

ObviousNameChage · 13/06/2021 20:28

@PlanDeRaccordement

Team sports are great for the competitive extroverts, but I’m suprised the OP did not mention that lone sports where you compete against yourself are just as good for you and are better for the introverted, noncompetitive personalities. Sport is a big umbrella. Include the lone sports.
This . Exercise and physical activity is great (well I still hate it 😬) and it should be encouraged. Team sports are just another option, they shouldn't be portrayed as the only option or THE GOAL for someone who wishes to be sporty/active/fit.
MaMelon · 13/06/2021 21:21

@PlanDeRaccordement absolutely agree.

It’s more of the same - women who love competitive sport desperately trying to understand why they can’t persuade other women who aren’t into competitive sports that it’s a Great Thing. How many similar consultations have there been over the years I wonder? It’s really not rocket science 🤷‍♀️

Maggiesfarm · 13/06/2021 21:36

I always hated sport and am no worse off for the lack of it since I left school.

ChaToilLeam · 13/06/2021 21:49

@MaMelon

As an aside - why do these national sports bodies always hire very sporty women to look at why women and girls don’t do more sport, rather than employing women/girls who hate it? If you really want to encourage more females into sport you need someone who truly understands why they were turned off sport - and what could have been done to turn them onto it.
Absolutely on the money here. If you want to encourage women to be more involved in sport, don’t preach to the converted. Understand the barriers and work to genuinely remove them. Talk to women like us who hated school sports and found it demotivating and humiliating. Put a woman like that in charge of this initiative. Then we might see actual change happen.
Preech · 13/06/2021 23:22

I hated "team" sport in gym class, but enjoyed field hockey and track team in high school. The track team, especially, was a wonderful experience because the head coach's style was one of encouragement and bringing out each girl's personal best. As long as we showed up and gave it our personal best, that was good enough. Taking away the pressure of winning was key to my participation and challenging myself to go out of my comfort zone (I am not a natural runner ... I did the throwing events at meets, and one 4x100m relay as as a favor 😛). Gym class with the boys in my grade was a nightmare: no room for a teammate's learning curve or encouraging them. Only winning. And shouting, and pissed-off aggro slamming the ball on the court when we lose.

My 7 year old daughter enjoyed trying football at primary school ... until the year she had to play with the boys. Because the it was no longer about learning how to play: it was about booting the ball as hard as you could across a gym hall. Or hogging the ball and never passing so you could score the winning goal. She took two balls to the face that season and refused to return.

She's been on a field hockey team since Easter, which is much more heavily weighted towards girls. Most of the boys on the U10 squad seem kind and eager to improve their gameplay, as opposed to dominating the pitch. But then one or two U10 or U12 girls shout at her because she's a beginner and makes mistakes, and that makes her feel a bit crap. She feels discouraged if she can't master a manoeuvre straight away. She hates taking a ball or stick to the shins. She's ready to quit, and I will probably have to let her once this season is up. I'm gutted, because she actually has learned a ton already, and being outside with other people has been a fantastic antidote to the effects of lockdown on her, both mentally and physically.

I see a couple things in common between her experience, and mine 30 years ago.

  1. if you want more women playing team sports, coaching needs to focus on teaching and encouragement. Not domination on a pitch. Not winning. There's no joy in feeling like a failure, and too often in our culture failure is what happens when you lose.

  2. if you want more girls to feel confident giving team sports a try, then educators, youth coaches, and parents really need to address how they teach their boys to play games. With anyone (because turbo-competitive dominance puts off the non-aggro boys too). Aggressive =/= excellent. Booting the ball isn't even good football ⚽️.

  3. start campaigning for fair coverage of adult women's sport on public news channels. My daughter came home from school crowing that "Scotland finally made it to the Euros". I told her yes, the men's team did. The women's team were in the World Cup. She had no idea.

  4. start campaigning for fairer coverage of all women and men's sport BESIDES THE EFFING FOOTBALL on public news channels. Dear Lord, we do not actually gain anything by watching football 365 days a year, unless there's an Olympics on. 🤦🏻‍♀️ put on more variety! It's boring watching nearly the same 11 dudes booting a ball every day of the sodding year.

Nettleskeins · 13/06/2021 23:44

Why not just substitute the word "Dance" for Sport? Would solve so many issues with exercise...
For both sexes.

Sport is an activity a UK aimed at competitive individuals and or spectators. It can be never be truly inclusive.

I feel tense and angry just thinking about my experience of team sports. Yet my Dcs (bad at sport but enthusiastic) loved them at school.
They will never play in any competitive setting now they have left school. Uni is very polarised in its sporty tribes. Who wants to look a fool?

BatshitCrazyWoman · 14/06/2021 06:15

@sharksarecool

I do have sympathy for those who had a tough time with school sport. I was "sporty" at school but most of my friends werent and I have memories of times when they were treated pretty badly. It seemed like the Maths/French/History teachers had to engage with all pupils regardless of their ability, whereas the PE teachers were allowed to siphon off the talented ones and then ignore/shout at the rest.

I would say that things really have started to change in schools (I am a teacher - NOT PE though.) I now see a lot more different types if sport and games available, with focus on improvement and building skills. Pupils are taught how to hold a rounders bat and learn techniques for throwing and catching, rather than just throwing them all into a game. The focus in good PE lessons is the same as any subject: meet pupils at their current ability level and look for ways to help thrm improve, while fostering enjoyment for the subject.

What I find a bit upsetting about people's negativity with sport is that it will almost certainly rub off on your children. When children hear parents saying "I could never do Maths" or "I found languages really boring", the children often approach those subjects with a negative bias which limits their attainment. So if you as an adult hate sport because of horrible experiences at school then it may well be too late for you but it might not be for your children so its worth trying to be positive.

Both my children (now adults) are sporty. Doesn't necessarily follow.

Off topic slightly, isn't the plural of sport, well sport? Sports sounds very American to me.

Preech · 14/06/2021 06:49

In my case, "sports" showed up in my post because I am American (immigrated long ago to Scotland) and old habits die hard when I'm on a roll with a rant. Grin

MaMelon · 14/06/2021 07:03

I said sports. I am English, now living in Scotland. It really doesn’t matter, does it? More important things to worry about here imo.

FierceBarrie · 14/06/2021 07:12

Off topic slightly, isn't the plural of sport, well sport? Sports sounds very American to me.

Oh gosh, does it matter? Maybe the posters are American. Or not British?

I say sports. I’m a Kiwi.

SamusIsAGirl · 14/06/2021 08:10

Also isn't it somewhat of a concern about how little PE teachers know about health conditions that you might expect to see in a cohort of children like asthma or EDS? Also basic anatomy seems to be lacking in terms of evaluating what puberty does to the body and injury prevention.

Also anyone with a disability or injury - there was no provision other than sit on the side and watch. For PE to be actual PE there needs to be inclusivity to disabled people and SEND people.

carolinesbaby · 14/06/2021 08:55

Calling sport 'dance' and it would still make me run a mile I'm sorry! It's still a way to look a fool and draw unwanted attention to myself because I was much taller than everyone else at school, though not really as an adult, and I can never remember dance routines so just look like a prat, and once again nobody wanted me in their team/dance group.

Also in U.K. English, the correct plural of sport is, in fact sports.
You can say "I play a lot of sport" meaning a lot of time, Or "I play a lot of sports" meaning lots of different sports.

Topseyt · 14/06/2021 10:38

@Sumerisicumenin

God, I hated school sports, the judgement of my peers and the bullying of PE teachers in numerous schools. The mockery that is permitted which wouldn’t be tolerated in academic subjects in the same school.

What’s my first impression when I hear ‘Women’s sports’?
A deep, visceral hate, followed by relief that I’m no longer forced to participate. And that’s 50 years later.

Same here.

I hated being forced to do team sports and, not being naturally athletic or sporty, being last to be picked. Always. It was public humiliation.

I do enjoy exercise, but I want to do exercise that is for me. I don't want to be forced to humiliate myself in front of my entire school year.

For instance, I would have loved being able to spend the lesson in a gym using weight machines, stair climbers, cross trainers, running and cycling machines. That would have suited me and others like me perfectly.

But no! We were forced into team sports such as hockey, netball, football (sometimes) etc. Even in the ice and snow wearing just shorts and t-shirt while teachers wore tracksuits and coats beside the pitch. My skin would be red raw from the damp and cold.

Add to that the awful communal showers afterwards when you were made to strip naked in front of your whole form and walk through with the water on cold.

There is no balance in school PE. Or certainly not when I was at secondary school, which was in the early eighties.

There is/was way, way, way too much emphasis on competitive team sports and nothing at all for those of us for whom those were not our strengths.

I was rather a goody two shoes at school, but had I been forced to continue with PE lessons beyond the age of 13 I was already planning on how to bunk off. They were soooo bad and humiliating.

Topseyt · 14/06/2021 10:47

@PlanDeRaccordement

Team sports are great for the competitive extroverts, but I’m suprised the OP did not mention that lone sports where you compete against yourself are just as good for you and are better for the introverted, noncompetitive personalities. Sport is a big umbrella. Include the lone sports.
Yes, I found the OP also very unbalanced here. The emphasis was almost totally on team sports.

It was also not succinct. Very long and hard to follow.

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