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Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”

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JuliaMumsnet · 09/06/2021 17:07

Stephanie Hilborne

CEO at Women in Sport

Earlier this year, Women in Sport released first a report on the impact of the pandemic on teenage girls' sports and exercise and later launched a campaign on the menopause and sports. We asked CEO Stephanie Hilborne to tell us more about these issues and Women in Sport more widely:

"When someone says the word "sport" what’s the first thing you think of?

For me, it is gazing longingly out of the window at the netball courts during French class. But our charity Women in Sport knows that for many women the opposite is true. "Sport" brings back horrible memories of school. Whether it was being forced to wear “gym knickers” or a leotard when you were on a period or never getting picked for the team because you weren’t “sporty”.

And yet the word sport means “being carried away from stress and responsibility”. It’s about having fun. I don’t know many women who would reject the idea of less responsibility and more freedom.

Now think about exercise. What do you first think about when someone says the word “exercise”? Many women we talk to wince because they think they should be doing more of it. For others, serious exercise conjures up pain and suffering. But when we actually get around to going out for a brisk walk or even a run, we feel great. Our bodies release endorphins when we exercise, which is the healthiest way to get high.

Women in Sport has been looking into the lives of teenage girls and women during the last year and finding out how lockdown has affected women’s experiences of, and views on, exercise and sport. Before the pandemic, Sport England statistics showed that the gap was closing but women were still slightly less active than men overall.

The biggest gender gap was in team sport – with 25% fewer girls than boys involved in teams and paltry opportunities for girls at school. That’s why the closure of schools affected boys’ sports the worst.

Why should we care about team sport? Because being in joint endeavour, in a team, trying to win while having fun brings lifelong benefits. If more girls had positive experiences of team sport at school, more women would enter the workplace and wider society trained to lead, to take risks, and to be resilient if they lose.

So, what did we find out about girls in lockdown? During the pandemic, the Government put exercise front and centre as one of the few ways we were able to leave our homes. This opportunity has released some girls into new worlds. We talked to teenage girls going for walks outside with friends for the first time, and 82% of girls said they would put more effort into being active when life returned to normal. Teenage girls we spoke to recognised the value of exercise for their physical and mental health, some for the very first time. They may not know that research shows a positive impact of outdoor sport on body image, but they are feeling it.

Then we spoke to the women. We know that women have borne the brunt of pandemic redundancies and that home-schooling has exposed ongoing stereotypes and gender inequalities in the home. The women we spoke to were time deprived. 32% of women said they could not prioritise exercise during lockdown as they had too much to do for others. But on the positive side, the crisis has led people to reappraise. People have been resetting their priorities and there is more motivation to exercise than there used to be. 85% of women in our research said they would either put more effort into being fit and active or would keep up being active after lockdown.

Our recent new research into women around the menopause showed that this too can prompt reappraisal. So, the double whammy of an unprecedented pandemic and an unprecedented change in hormones seems to be triggering a bit of a revolution amongst midlife women.

One of the most fascinating insights we gleaned even before the pandemic was how much teenage girls cherished time alone with their mum or mother figures in their lives. They saw such relationships as ‘safe spaces’ without fear of judgement. Lockdown has exaggerated this feeling and girls have appreciated time being active outside, in nature, in a safe context without toxic commentary from peers.

Last year we launched our #TimeTogether campaign based on our understanding that midlife women and teenage girls both face unique physical challenges and pressures, and that they want to support one another. Women and girls also know they ought to be more active, but many find it hard to act on that. So, we’re inspiring women and girls to team up, to get active and have fun together outside. As we go back to some normality post lockdown, this special relationship may well help overcome shared concerns about loss of fitness or being in large groups.

The pandemic has led to a growing intolerance of inequality, whether racial, economic, or gender inequality. At Women in Sport, we’ve been intolerant of this for a long time. We know that less wealthy women from certain diverse backgrounds are the least active of all. How wrong is this, that society is denying these girls and women joy and health?

The pandemic exposed underlying inequalities in society across the board, and elite sport was no exception. In August 2020 a BBC survey of elite British sportswomen showed 86% earnt less than £30k from sport, and 60% less than £10k and one in five believed they may have to give up their sport due to the crisis to focus on having a normal job. At the same time women’s sport all but disappeared from our screens. The women’s football Euros were pushed back to 2022 to make way for the men’s Euros to be played in 2021. The Women’s Six Nations was never completed, the 2020 Netball Super League, Football Women’s Super League and Championship were all cancelled. In contrast, the top three tiers of men’s football continued their 2019-20 season; the men’s Premiership Rugby 2019-20 season restarted in August, the men’s Six Nations was completed.

So it is hardly surprising that half as many girls as boys dreamt about reaching the top of sport (30% cf 60%) in a survey we ran with Sports Direct in March 2021. We should not be denying our girls the chance to dream.

We want to redefine the relationship that many girls and women have with sport and exercise. This should be about fun, and we have a right to fun at every time in our lives. Yes, we could be drawing joy from sport, even as teenagers when everywhere you look people are commenting on your appearance; and even in mid-life when that pressure cooker of responsibility means our own needs come last. We want the legacy of the pandemic to be a break down in negative gender stereotypes and the emergence of a new normal in which all women and girls can experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport."

EDIT: Stephanie will be coming back onto the thread at 11am on Thursday 17th June to answer your questions.

Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”
Guest post: “All women and girls should be able to experience the joy, fulfilment, and lifelong benefits of sport”
OP posts:
MaMelon · 14/06/2021 21:37

I absolutely agree @orchardgirl4 - it’s the same here.

Grellbunt · 14/06/2021 21:50

@orchardgirl4

I'd like to do more sports/exercise but there are few/no opportunities. I'd join a womens cycling group if one was available in my area that was not intimidating (just one exists but has strict rules on bike type etc.). I love dancing but there are no adult dance classes in my large town. I have done martial arts, but as an adult, again there are no classes. Nothing is set up for an adult woman that works during the week. Even things like Woman's Institue is not available to me as the meetings are during a working day. I have to drive 30 minutes one way to get to the nearest sewing class. But I live in a huge town!? I don't understand why there are so few groups of any sort I can join.
None of us has any time as too busy with caring responsibilities

Oh and another thing that takes up lots of time that men don't generally do? Beauty regimes. Some women spend a lot of their free time getting their nails, hair, eyebrows and tans done. And clothing/shoe shopping. This costs them a lot in leisure time and disposable income. Not really related to the OP but just occurred to me in relation to your query - that could also be a reason they don't spend as much time doing active stuff/there appears to be less demand for women's sports/exercise groups .

orchardgirl4 · 14/06/2021 21:53

I definitely agree with some previous posts. What one wears for PE can make a huge difference. Girls should be able to get help being fitted for sports bras.

5foot5 · 14/06/2021 22:14

Why should we care about team sport? Because being in joint endeavour, in a team, trying to win while having fun brings lifelong benefits.

I have two observations to make about this statement.

  1. That there are other ways than sport to experience being in a team.
  2. The assumption that being in a team has to be part of a competitive activity.

At school I loathed PE but have brilliant memories of playing in the school band which, most definitely, requires a high degree of teamwork.

This also has lasting benefits since, in later life, I have been able to use the skills I learned then to return to this activity. And unlike most sports it is an activity in which you can participate with people of all ages and abilities

Reallyreallyborednow · 14/06/2021 22:19

Some women spend a lot of their free time getting their nails, hair, eyebrows and tans done

And after you’ve done all that, you’re not going to be jumping in a swimming pool, sweating in a circuit class or risking a nail lifting weights…

Congressdingo · 14/06/2021 22:40

I started secondary school with no knowledge of how to play netball, hockey and tennis. And left with no knowledge of how to play netball, hockey and tennis

Me too, I bet we went to the same school (joke)
I well remember a (bloody horrible) female pe teacher kept saying to me as I was playing tennis for fun "follow through" I still have no idea what she meant, as she either couldn't or wouldn't tell me what that meant. Almost as if she said it to look clever or something.

Another shitty pe teacher made us all play hockey (outside, fucking cold) I had never heard of it til that day. I had no idea what to do and no one bothered to explain. I got winded on that day and my pe teacher wandered over to me and told me to get up and keep playing. I couldn't even breathe but ok love I'll just crack on eh.

I had joint problems growing up, not diagnosed or anything, just I think growing aches and pains, add in periods and joints getting looser still when on one and I bloody hurt a lot. Making me run in freezing weather in big knickers and an airtex shirt just put me completely off pe. From that day on I never did it. Always an excuse , if no excuse could be thought up I simply didnt go.
If I liked any sport at all it was tennis, but playing for fun wasnt really an option, but we all knew I wasnt going to be a Martina navratilova. So I didnt continue past about age 12. Not even for fun, because someone would always tell me with the right coach I could play Wimbledon or something. As that never appealed they would get angry and hostile.
So many things to put women off, nothing ever actually done about it.

Kanitawa · 15/06/2021 01:22

I notice the OP hasn’t come back in the past week because she’s been absolutely slated!

Sumerisicumenin · 15/06/2021 08:18

Yes, I’m surprised Mumsnet Towers haven’t moved it to a more relevant section.

AIBU to think allwonen and girls should be able to blah blah blah sport?

Yes, yes you bloody are you solipsistic twat.

ExConstance · 15/06/2021 09:16

I spent most of my secondary school spots sessions hiding in the toilets, until I managed to erase my name from the class list the PE teacher used. She approached me one day baut as she had hardly ever seen me didn't know it was me. She asked me what had happened to ExC and I told her that girl had left the school months ago. Job done.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 15/06/2021 09:24

I think that thing about hair, nails and makeup is quite important.

My hair looks like a bush unless l blow dry it. So after every sweaty exercise session, I’d have to carefully dry it, even if I’d done so earlier. No thanks.

SamusIsAGirl · 15/06/2021 09:47

Uhhh, if we get overly defensive, then there is no way the OP is coming back. Being robust about opinions is fine but let's not attack the person, just attack the argument.

Kanitawa · 15/06/2021 09:59

It was a week ago. I doubt OP is coming back. And imo those sort of opinions are what she needs to be aware of because it’s informative for her goal of trying to get women to do sport. You can’t fix things if you ignore the people who are telling you what the problem is.

Topseyt · 15/06/2021 10:03

@SamusIsAGirl

Uhhh, if we get overly defensive, then there is no way the OP is coming back. Being robust about opinions is fine but let's not attack the person, just attack the argument.
Absolutely.

Calling the OP names isn't going to further the debate or get the point across effectively.

OP is clearly enthusiastic about competitive team sports and has slanted her post that way. That doesn't make her a bad person. It does mean that she hasn't picked up on the other side of the coin, very likely because she herself didn't experience the problems that not being naturally disposed towards team sports can bring in schools. It does need to be explained. Robustly perhaps, but not nastily.

ChrissyPlummer · 15/06/2021 10:12

@orchardgirl4 Whereabouts are you? If in the North West (Greater Manchester mainly, but a couple of branches in Lancs/Merseyside) I’m a member of a martial arts organisation that caters for both adults and children and has classes at evenings and weekends.

Topseyt · 15/06/2021 10:15

I hope OP does come back. She is the type of person we need to get onside, not chase away.

I would like to add that I think what many of us have been saying on this thread applies right across the board at school PE. Some of the suggestions people (including myself) have been making could benefit some boys as well.

It is just as much of a mistake to presume that all boys love competitive team sports. Not all do and I remember a few from my own schooldays. It must have been at least as miserable for them because there is perhaps even more of an expectation there.

carolinesbaby · 15/06/2021 10:21

@Topseyt
Exactly. My brother was a podgy teen, not popular, hated sports of all types. He was embarrassed by his body shape and much preferred the climbing, hiking, camping and fishing of his weekends and Scout trips to traditional school sports. He refused to swim at all and got into trouble for refusing to change in the communal changing rooms for PE. He would have refused to dance or do yoga or similar as well but of course those weren't an option, especially for boys - it was basically football, rugby or cricket.
Had there been the opportunity to do archery, or canoeing, or hiking he would have loved it.
He's now 6'6" and pretty ripped. School sports didn't do that.

Topseyt · 15/06/2021 10:34

@Reachersloveinterest

Yes, it sounds like your brother is a good example there. School PE is far too tunnel-visioned onto team sports. There is no imagination applied when it comes to students (girls or boys) who don't take naturally to those and who could keep fit much better doing other things.

Sometimesfraught82 · 15/06/2021 13:14

@Topseyt

I hope OP does come back. She is the type of person we need to get onside, not chase away.

I would like to add that I think what many of us have been saying on this thread applies right across the board at school PE. Some of the suggestions people (including myself) have been making could benefit some boys as well.

It is just as much of a mistake to presume that all boys love competitive team sports. Not all do and I remember a few from my own schooldays. It must have been at least as miserable for them because there is perhaps even more of an expectation there.

If she’s not up for engaging and debating then no use
Egeegogxmv · 15/06/2021 14:26

Can we assume thread did not go the way that the Opie hoped it would?

MaMelon · 15/06/2021 16:00

Good news peeps! MN have updated the OP to say Stephanie will be coming back onto the thread to answer our questions - they’ll let us know exact time and date soon.

Sometimesfraught82 · 15/06/2021 16:59

@MaMelon

Good news peeps! MN have updated the OP to say Stephanie will be coming back onto the thread to answer our questions - they’ll let us know exact time and date soon.
On page 4 of 11

I find it genuinely disappointing to post on an important issue.
And see 11 pages of discussion questions and debate
And to not respond. At all.

MaMelon · 15/06/2021 17:06

No, it’s on the thread title Confused

I agree though, there should have been a response by now. She may be ill or on leave though, so will watch and wait.

Sometimesfraught82 · 15/06/2021 17:08

Sorry unclear

After being badgered mumsnet posted a comment on page 4 to say we will get a date soon

MaMelon · 15/06/2021 17:12

Ahh right, my apologies. Yep, definitely should have had a response by now imo

SamusIsAGirl · 15/06/2021 20:46

It's been less than a week though.