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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 23:06

I know the wives left the house but they were told in the Quran to stay at home: "You are not like other women. Stay in your homes", iirc.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 23:07

"What does feminism mean to a modern Muslim woman? "

To some, it seems to mean the right to hide themselves away behind black curtains, believe it or not.

fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 23:14

Cote they were told not to leave the homes needlessly, which I think is pretty sound advice.

Shredded, it has no affect on you or Cote or anyone else if we follow a faith and observe the rules of our religion.

We'll find out who was right when we die.

sonlypuppyfat · 21/10/2013 23:21

Just knowing Jesus died for my sins is enough to get me into heaven.

CoteDAzur · 22/10/2013 06:43

The position of the only sane person in town is a lonely one Grin

More seriously, self-sacrifice is infinitely more commendable than the conviction that you've got it made because something happened 2000 years ago (if it happened at all).

(And that's as close to a compliment as you'll get, Gosh et al Smile)

nicename · 22/10/2013 07:24

I think a role model is a great thing. But living your life as someone did a few hundred years ago isn't it. You get into the whole 'did they use electricity, or have blood transfusions?' territory.

Essence over details maybe? I'd rather say of a woman - 'she was honest, helped her community and was a good mum' than 'she wore a facemask'. What do you want people to understand about you. Ok so its between you and god but surely that's an internal dialogue.

If I had an accident I won't automatically rush to find a woman in a veil because she is a nicer/better/more honest person.

crescentmoon · 22/10/2013 08:32

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fuzzywuzzy · 22/10/2013 09:17

Nicename equally our behaviour and dress has nothing to do with you.

There's never any conflict between seeking medical help or living life according to the science as it was 1434 years ago, we are explicitly told to seek knowledge and to seek treatment if we are ill. As they did back then.
Keeping well and taking care of yourself is an act of worship.

We emulate the Prophets wives in striving for knowledge, maintaining a level of decorum and modesty which helps us form a closer relationship with God.

Science and Islam are not mutually conclusive.

nicename · 22/10/2013 11:37

Then we get back to modesty and what that means.

Gauri · 22/10/2013 12:10

I agree with what shredd said. God would not want 50% of humanity hidden and indoors all their life.
it may have made sense in the middle east in the niddle ages. a way to keep women safe.
it does not make sense now.

UptheChimney · 22/10/2013 12:27

Then we get back to modesty and what that means

Well quite, nicename -- most of the time, in most religions, "modesty" is imposed upon women and not practised by men.

Religion seems to be a way of institutionalising patriarchal fear of women and femininity.

crescentmoon · 22/10/2013 13:02

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fuzzywuzzy · 22/10/2013 13:05

Modesty is prescribed for both men and women in Islam.

peacefuloptimist · 22/10/2013 13:22

Essence over details maybe?

I agree with you to a certain extent nicename. I think sometimes as muslims we get caught up in the external and we forget about the internal. For example you may see someone who outwardly appears to be religious but they are cruel and nasty to people. The Quran does stress that God will judge us according to our internal condition.

"On that day nothing will benefit the human being, neither wealth nor children, only the one who brings Allah a sound heart." Holy Quran, Chapter 26 verses 88-89

'Oh children of Adam, We have bestowed upon you clothing to conceal your private parts and as adornment. But the clothing of righteousness - that is best.' Holy Quran, Chapter 7, verse 26

People think that Islam demands a lot from its followers because of its rituals however, the rituals are not the hard part. The hard part is that the standards of what is a 'sound heart' so what Islam expects of you character wise are extremely high. For example the hadith of the Prophet Muhammed PBUH.

“Whosoever has in his heart, even a speck of pride will not enter paradise.”

Now thats not because God wants us to have low self-esteem but it is because pride leads to arrogance and showing off and I think we can all admit these are ugly characteristics. Getting rid of pride is an incredible hard thing to do. Islam also stresses the importance of having sincerity when you do good actions (i.e. acts of worship). The famous hadith stresses this:

'Actions are judged by their intentions, and everyone will get what they intended.'

So someone who does an act (e.g. wearing niqab) to show off to others about how pious they are then that action will not be rewarded by God and instead they will get that reward from people (i.e. them thinking that you are a pious person). However only God can judge what is in someones heart so you can not say categorically that someone is doing this act (wearing niqab) as some kind of competitive piousness because you simply dont know.

However the acts of worship proscribed in Islam also play a role in developing the characteristics that are admirable. For example praying 5 times a day teaches you discipline, time-keeping and about consistency (i.e. you have to pray them as at the right time every day). It also gives you a break from the hustle and bustle of daily life to reconnect you with God and remind you of the bigger picture. Fasting teaches you to have self-control, about combating greed and also to be mindful of others less fortunate then yourself. Hajj is jam-packed with rituals each of which hammer in some lessons and also does some character building. The most important characteristics I took from hajj were about being patient and controlling my anger Grin. Spending 4 days in a camp with 3 million people who dont speak the same language as you and have different customs to you will do that.

For me ShreddedHoops religion doesnt hold humanity back but it pushes you to develop your humanity to the maximum that you possibly can. It is a continuous process of self growth and development that doesnt allow you to rest on your laurels and say Im fine as I am, but instead tells you that no you can be better.

nicename · 22/10/2013 13:23

What a very simplistic statement.

Don't tell me there are no prostitutes in muslim countries because there are. Strippers too. And alcoholics, drug addicts...

Don't confuse the average woman in the street with a stripper, and don't confuse a woman fully veiled with a saint.

BackOnlyBriefly · 22/10/2013 13:24

Just a thought, but suppose everyone started wearing it. Men as well as women covered completely and identically so you couldn't tell which was which and couldn't tell who was muslim. Wouldn't this be a problem?

For example if your religion/culture limits contact with men, but you might be sitting between two men and not know it. You couldn't uncover your face anywhere except at home without specifically asking each person in the room what their gender was. Often you can tell someone's gender by their voice, but not always and that could lead to mistakes.

The queue at the cinema, the swimming baths (you'd know once you got inside - maybe not if the men wore the burkini). You wouldn't know what gender your GP was or the nurse assisting him. The parents at the playdate you're taking your child too could be both men or both women.

Would you be pleased or displeased if it was taken up 100%

fuzzywuzzy · 22/10/2013 13:34

Backonly I cant see your full post (for some reason I cvant see the last post on this thread!).

But men do cover their heads to a certain extent, you also get some Arabs who veil their faces only leaving eyes exposed.

See this for how Muslim countries deal with good looking men!!!

NB this post is tongue in cheek

fuzzywuzzy · 22/10/2013 13:35

Back those who wear the face veil and interact with them, can tell them apart, I can pick my girlfriends out of a line up of veiled women.

nicename · 22/10/2013 13:37

Cross post there, Peaceful. Nice post - back to the whole 'word, thought and deed' judgement.

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peacefuloptimist · 22/10/2013 14:08

As for what is modesty and why is it good well the word used for modesty in Arabic is haya’. However, Haya’ is more complex and dynamic than just modesty and encompasses many shades of meaning, including humility, sensitivity, shyness, apprehensiveness, and shame.

www.40hadithnawawi.com/index.php/the-hadiths/hadith-20

The link above gives a more detailed explanation of the concept of modesty in Islam. Its not just about covering up but also about letting go of pride and also having self restraint. For me an immediate benefit of modesty is that it teaches people not to be obsessed with physical appearance. I think in this society where people spend thousands on plastic surgery and treatments to make them look younger that is something that would definitely do people some good.

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peacefuloptimist · 22/10/2013 14:17

Its interesting that some people are acting as if modesty is somehow a bad word or a negative quality. However in this society modesty is also seen as a virtue when you are modest about your achievements. For example most people would consider it crass to boast about your wealth, intellect or worldly possessions. But for some reason when it comes to how you look we are encouraged to instead 'flaunt it if you've got it'. I wonder why there is a difference in attitude to modesty in the way you conduct yourself and modesty in the way that you look. Historical hang ups maybe?

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nicename · 22/10/2013 14:30

Where we live there are a lot of SA visitors. The concept of modesty seems to differ - highly made up, bejewelled and fragranced young women in black scarves.

I think that its not really 'modesty' but 'decency' that is the goal.