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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 21:41

That could very well be.

peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 21:54

Cote I dont subscribe to the view that niqab is obligatory or highly recommended so I can not offer you the reasoning behind it. However I do know there are specific hadith about other women (not just his wives) at the time of the Prophet Muhammed PBUH veiling but as we have already mentioned there are also hadith where women did not wear a veil. My opinion is that it is a freedom of choice matter. In some situations it may be more prudent to wear a niqab. On the day of my wedding I wore a niqab when I came out of the wedding hall to get in to the car as I had a face plastered in make up and there was a huge group of men waiting outside who were made up of family friends and friends of my husband. It was more because of self-consciousness then modesty though.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 21:55

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peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 22:00

I see niqab as a female asceticism.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:01

In case anyone is wondering about the dots I post - the blog at the top hides the last post so I can't see it.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:03

And I see it as competitive piousness.

Kind of like "God said we need to cover everything but faces and hands. But if i cover those too, I'll be his favourite"

nicename · 21/10/2013 22:08

Dot dot dot! That white patch is driving me nuts.

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/10/2013 22:18

Cote - there's a difference between an obligation and an option. The OP herself said she viewed niqab as an optional act. I posted the five categories of actions in Islam above and it clearly shows this difference between fard actions and optional ones.

I didn't actually say niqab was highly recommended, just that it is an optional action that can bring reward.

As for why emulate the Mothers of The Believers when they are not like other women, the key way in which they weren't like other women is that remarriage was forbidden for them, this is a very big deal from a fiqh (legal) point of view.

However the fact remains that they did many good things, so of course Muslim women would want to emulate them and there are many ways to do this, several were extremely scholarly, all of them did charitable work and their kindness is well known.

But they were also devoted to their religious practice and people see the wearing of the niqab of a sign of this devotedness and not being overly concerned with worldly matters.

I don't think any Muslim here, or the OP, would say that the niqab wearing woman is the ultimate, or best a Muslim woman can be, it is clear from Quran, Sunnah and Seerah that there are many ways someone can be a good Muslim.

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/10/2013 22:18

Cote - there's a difference between an obligation and an option. The OP herself said she viewed niqab as an optional act. I posted the five categories of actions in Islam above and it clearly shows this difference between fard actions and optional ones.

I didn't actually say niqab was highly recommended, just that it is an optional action that can bring reward.

As for why emulate the Mothers of The Believers when they are not like other women, the key way in which they weren't like other women is that remarriage was forbidden for them, this is a very big deal from a fiqh (legal) point of view.

However the fact remains that they did many good things, so of course Muslim women would want to emulate them and there are many ways to do this, several were extremely scholarly, all of them did charitable work and their kindness is well known.

But they were also devoted to their religious practice and people see the wearing of the niqab of a sign of this devotedness and not being overly concerned with worldly matters.

I don't think any Muslim here, or the OP, would say that the niqab wearing woman is the ultimate, or best a Muslim woman can be, it is clear from Quran, Sunnah and Seerah that there are many ways someone can be a good Muslim.

peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 22:22

Well there is nothing wrong with competing in piousness. For example if I choose to pray more, give more in charity or fast more then what I have to do would you see that as negative. Probably not. I met a woman when I went on hajj who had been on hajj 9 times. Now hajj is just compulsory for you to do once in your lifetime but she had the means to go several times so she did it hoping it would help her draw closer to God spiritually. Most people would agree that is her choice to do that and if she can do it why not. So its the same thing with niqab to me, though to be honest the more that I research it the more I wonder why some women think its obligatory. The majority opinion doesnt follow that and much of the reasoning I have read online saying its obligatory is quite circular.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:33

"there's a difference between an obligation and an option"

Yes I know. Fard, wajib, sunnat, mustahab etc. Islam is very precise about the various levels of strictness and obedience needed for each act.

"I didn't actually say niqab was highly recommended, just that it is an optional action that can bring reward."

OP said "highly recommended".

I guess you mean "mustahab". Still, I don't see where you would get that from. Surely not from the Quran. And the Hadith we agreed on earlier is pretty clear that Mohammad doesn't expect the face to be covered, optionally, for reward, or whatever.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:36

"I met a woman when I went on hajj who had been on hajj 9 times. "

I take that as listening to a favourite song more than once. Or, more literally, visiting a favourite destination more than once.

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/10/2013 22:48

Cote face-covering is not mentioned in that hadith because face covering is not the issue being discussed.

In the hadith a women visits the Prophet wearing an outfit made if a rather transparent fabric, hence the clarification about what must be covered. As it is not a must to cover the face, face covering wasn't mentioned.

I'm not sure how many different ways I can explain this to you.

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/10/2013 22:48

Cote face-covering is not mentioned in that hadith because face covering is not the issue being discussed.

In the hadith a women visits the Prophet wearing an outfit made if a rather transparent fabric, hence the clarification about what must be covered. As it is not a must to cover the face, face covering wasn't mentioned.

I'm not sure how many different ways I can explain this to you.

fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 22:55

Actually the Prophet (pbuh) pointed to the eyes and hands in that hadith, so there is room for debate, some say he meant the face should also be covered, those who observe niqab regard it as mustahab, there are differences of opinion between the schools of thought.
I've not studied it so am not in a position to debate it. Certainly my ex SIL a scholar who had studied Islamic jurisprudence and was in a position to pass Islamic rulings (and did so) observes niqab.

There has never been any hadith or Quran verse that says the face must not be covered.

The Prophet was the personification of Islam as it should be lived so we emulate his household, because his household lived Islam as it was meant to be.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:56

If there is another (reliable) Hadith where Mohammad says face veil is not obligatory but will get you rewards if you wear it, would you share it with us?

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:57

"so we emulate his household"

Mohammad's wives were also told not to leave the house.

That is what you want to emulate?

fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 22:57

"I met a woman when I went on hajj who had been on hajj 9 times. "

I take that as listening to a favourite song more than once. Or, more literally, visiting a favourite destination more than once.

Cote have you ever been on Hajj?

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:57

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CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 22:59

"Cote have you ever been on Hajj?"

Seriously? What do you think Grin

My late grandfather had been, though.

fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 22:59

No Cote the Prophets wives did leave the house, they had businesses, they went to the masjids, they rode in the wars, they taught others and were often the first point of contact for people who wanted to discuss Islamic principles or had questions for the Prophet (pbuh).

fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 23:00

Performing the hajj is not the same as listening to a song or going on holiday.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 23:02

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CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 23:03

I didn't say it was. Hard as it may be, going on Hajj was obviously something she enjoyed doing. So she did it again. That's how it looks like to me anyway.

ShreddedHoops · 21/10/2013 23:03

Having multiple wives is not an ideal situation nowadays.

What does feminism mean to a modern Muslim woman? It seems to me from reading this thread that the idea of women possessing a beauty that men find attractive is a massively major part of being a woman, holding this power and it being your duty to hide it (called 'modesty' whereas 'modesty' for men means not looking?!) - in modern Western culture women wear whatever they want and it doesn't affect their moral standing, likelihood of being faithful, or so on.

Also something that strikes me is the classic shifting of response - niqab is 'just clothing' when it's criticised, or it's an important and symbolic measure. No-one has explained why 'modesty' for a woman +/- religious piety.

Disclosure - I'm not religious and frankly, the waffle and ritual discussed terrifies me. From birth to death, instead of living a full life as a human placed on the planet with the abilities and intelligence we have, you have to follow ancient and meaningless dictats which are often based on politics, anti-woman sentiment, fear of the unknown, and so on. It's depressing and holds humanity back.