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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 16:49

and actually i'm challenging 'pronouncements' given as fact by others crescent.

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 16:49

i am equally critical and questioning of christian practices and interpretations given as 'gospel' excuse the pun. does that make me christianophobic?

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 16:51

or sorry perhaps you don't believe that bit? is it ok if i ask how you feel about stoning people to death?

crescentmoon · 20/10/2013 17:00

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swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 17:13

because secular governments rule rather than sharia law.

the thing is if you believe the koran to be absolute irrefutable word of god then surely you believe what it says should be done is right?

what don't you like about the sentence you quoted? i didn't mean islam is inherently violent but that violent and/or oppressive people seem to be able to make good use of it to justify themselves. whether that is something to do with the religion or the areas it originates in i questioned.

i don't think for example that islam encourages the poor treatment of non muslim girls yet it is pretty common - i've heard imams say that it is because of the way islam is being preached in mosques in britain and that demonising westerners and their lifestyles is being used as a way of keeping hold of young men and avoiding them assimilating too much and that mosques have a responsibility to actively counter a culture of looking at non muslim girls in a derogatory way to stop the kind of problems we've seen reoccurring. it could be that then rather than the religion itself iyswim.

similar for terrorism - not the religion itself perhaps but the uncontrolled nature of some mosques and islamic schools that are churning out hatred of the west and indoctrinating young men into violence and extremist thinking. does islam maybe need more governance? more standardisation? more overseeing bodies? i don't know the answers.

many explanations other than - ahh you're saying islam is violent.

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 17:15

i totally believe most muslims are moderate - my first indoctrination to islam was in egypt where people were horrified by what the islamic brotherhood were doing to their culture and civil liberties and people of other faiths and the rights of women etc and fought to get them out.

i do sometimes wonder though if religion becomes more extreme when it is in a minority.

GoshAnneGorilla · 20/10/2013 17:43

Swallowed - again you are putting all the problems that people who are Muslim face entirely at the foot of Islam.

It is utterly wrong headed view all Muslims as a monolith, with problems related entirely to religion. The problems faced in Palestine are different to those in Egypt (It's the Muslim Brotherhood BTW), are different to those in Somalia, are different to those in Chechnya, are different to those in Bradford.

To take Egypt - it is absolutely not just about Islam vs secularism. Class, social inequality, the military, public perceptions of Nasserism, divides between rural and urban areas...the idea that it is lack of secularism that is causing all these problems is laughable.

Somalia is a failed state. Warlordism and corruption is rife. You have a young population who have known nothing other than war in a country awash with guns. Political tensions between Somalia and Kenya have far more to do with what happened in West gate mall then misreadings of the Quran.

Afghanistan is casualty of proxy politics of the Cold War. It was destroyed by the Soviets for over a decade, then left to it's fate by the US. In choas , the men with the biggest guns reign supreme and that happened to be the Taliban.

Not sure what any of this has to do with a woman in the UK wearing a niqab though...

alemci · 20/10/2013 17:49

Yes I don't like being thought of as an infidel and the way the West is viewed by some and that all our girls are slovenly and promiscuous etc which really isn't the case.

Again you know I mean somepeople's viewpoint not the majority ITMS

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 18:02

i never said it was about secularism v islam in egypt - why do you keep putting words in my mouth and assuming ignorance? tons of friends of mine were involved in the revolution - i was there only a couple of months ago talking to loads of people who've lived through it all.

they are muslims but they are moderate - they have no desire to see their country run by extremists - it's not about 'it must be secular' but about not wanting their culture destroyed by religious extremists. my point was not at all that it was about needing secularism but that the majority of muslims i know are MODERATE. as i clearly said! it's just getting deliberate 'find something to attack and if it isn't exactly there just twist it and pretend she said something else'ish now.

maybe - just maybe - i might know more about the situation in egypt what with having loads of egyptian friends who i've known for nearly 20yrs now, having spent years in egypt over a period of 20yrs, etc. maybe that is considered arrogant for me to assert but maybe treating me as if i'm a complete ignoramus who is talking out of arse (not to mention lying about what i actually said) is not on.

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 18:06

and i never said those run by secular governments are doing great - i was asked why the practice of stoning people to death only happened in a couple of countries as a rule and my answer was that those countries are run by sharia law.

that does not mutate into me saying something completely different just so you can twist it and throw a load of attack at something i didn't even say gosh. that is not reasonable.

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 18:09

there was an excellent radio interview that i'll try to dig out alemci with the save the children people saying the reason why it was gangs of predominantly muslim men grooming, raping and prostituting young non muslim girls was because they tending to work in late night industries like taxi driving Confused and it was the imam who was saying what a load of rubbish, name the problem, it is no coincidence these are muslim men and no coincidence it is non muslim girls they are doing it to. he was amazingly strong and honest and was calling for mosques to stop teaching young men that non muslim girls were filth and not decent women etc because he saw this as the direct output of that attitude being encouraged.

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 18:11

he said, and i firmly believe, that you don't change things by pretending they're not there - problems need facing and dealing with.

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GoshAnneGorilla · 20/10/2013 18:53

Swallowed - How do your friends explain the large support that the MB have? Do they support the military coup and the subsequent government violence? I know plenty of Egyptians, Muslim and non-Muslim who were no fans of the Muslim Brotherhood, but are extremely unhappy with the current military rule and feel utterly betrayed by the Tamarod movement.

And generally saying "I have friends" isn't a fantastic argument and it answers precisely none of the other issues I have raised with regards to Egypt. Again, Egypt is not about moderates vs extremists either, regardless of what your friends tell you.

Also, "an Imam on Radio 2 said" (especially when that Imam is probably Taj Hargey, who is frequently wheeled out to attack Muslims), is another poor argument.

Again I ask, what has this got to do with Sahar Al Faifi?

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swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 21:19

most of them are pragmatists who knew people would not survive much longer with them in control - they were literally stopping food and gasoline being delivered to parts of the country. prices had rocketed. there was so much violence from them (gangs of 'brothers' arriving in towns and causing hell) that people who had never had guns in their homes were getting them. on the day the military took over tons of guns were handed in at police stations because people had never really wanted them it had just been so dangerous it was necessary.

none of them would have chosen the military taking over but it was that or watch their country, livelihoods and culture destroyed and having overthrown mubarak with blood, sweat and tears only for another regime that didn't give a damn about what average egyptians wanted.

nicename · 20/10/2013 21:21

Interesting thread too. It's been rather civilized (which is good for a thread on religion around here these days).

Night all.

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 21:22

i didn't say an imam on radio 2 said by the way nor use it as an argument. love that you assume it was someone you dislike because they said what? something objective? acknowledged a link between driving home that women who don't dress like x, y and z (non muslim women) are not worthy of respect and are doomed for the fire etc might be a contributing factor in gangs of young men feeling entitled to groom, rape, kidnap and control them?

nicename · 20/10/2013 21:34

I thought that there were asian victims but that they were less of them as the girls were the far less likely to come forward because the shame they would bring etc. Also proportionately the local asian girls would be less likely to be in the care system or runaways.

There is a section of men in society who do have an exceptionally low opinion of 'white girls' but this isn't religion - it's only their justification for their perversions. We all hope/believe that they will rot in hell, whatever your religious persuasion.

alemci · 20/10/2013 21:47

watching the ottomans, interesting, night all and keep posting. Smile Smile

swallowedAfly · 20/10/2013 22:01

asian does not equal muslim.

GoshAnneGorilla · 20/10/2013 22:05

"on the day the military took over tons of guns were handed in at police stations because people had never really wanted them it had just been so dangerous it was necessary."

Ha ha ha!

Because the military are no threat to the people, SCAF were a bunch of angels, right?

No mention of the government slaughter of anti-coup protesters either. Nor that plenty of people absolutely did not want the military to take over and would have settled for early elections instead.

Being matey with a bunch of AUC grads is not the great insight into Egypt you think it is.

As for grooming (which like everything else you keep bringing up is irrelevant to the O.P), it was Taj Haringey who said that, he has as much standing in the Muslim community as the Qulliam Foundation. I do wonder what the big excuse is for the white men who groom and abuse young girls. Funny that's not being linked to their culture, isn't it?

I am tired of your ill-formed drivel masquerading as insight. Whatever great claim you have to knowledge is not being displayed in your posts. For all your claim that you are "not some Daily Mail reader", your posts read exactly like one.

ShreddedHoops · 20/10/2013 22:23

GoshAnne - I entreat you to refrain from the sarcastic and insulting posts - every other poster on the thread has, which is why it's remained civil...

/threadpolice, back to lurking and learning Grin