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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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crescentmoon · 21/10/2013 12:21

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SpecialAgentFreyPie · 21/10/2013 12:25

I agree with you crescent that people would find the niqab less intimidating if it weren't black. I personally don't find it intimidating, but I'm curious, is there a religious reason it doesn't come in other colours?

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fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 12:32

nicename, a group of us friends were talking about mortifying experiences, one friend regaled us of the time she and her college friends were out for ice creams, friend wears a niqab....friend got and ice cream and promptly forgot she was wearing a niqab!!!

I told her well at least the people who saw it wouldn't know it was her specifically, of course she would now need to visit that place with different friends and remember her veil when eating.

You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget what you're wearing unless attention is specifically drawn to it.

Grennie · 21/10/2013 12:33

This is an interesting article written by a Muslim woman who decided to stop wearing the Hijab i.e. headscarf

www.howjsay.com/index.php?word=frances

Grennie · 21/10/2013 12:33

Sorry - wrong link

This is an interesting article written by a Muslim woman who decided to stop wearing the Hijab i.e. headscarf

www.salon.com/2013/08/25/why_i_stopped_wearing_hijab/

fuzzywuzzy · 21/10/2013 12:34

The Shia self flagellate specifically during the month of Muharram, it's terrifying to watch.

nicename · 21/10/2013 12:40

In Afghanistan it's a pastel blue, isn't it? The colour of the sky.

Interesting article - but in general people who focus inwardly can get themselves worked up to high-do' especially when they are focussing or dwelling on the same subjects. It can amplify behaviour and thought processes, and not just in those wrestling with depression or OCD/type behaviour.

Chin up, walk tall - that's what we tell clients.

nicename · 21/10/2013 12:53

Fuzzy - I have been known to wander around asking where my glasses are... And they've been on my nose! I've also managed to jump into the shower wearing them.

I suppose we all forget especially where there is a greater force at play (ice crew!).

Self-flagellation - that's the one with the chains? Even kids. Really scary stuff.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 13:55

fuzzy - re "Cote, the face veil is debated, some say it is recommended some say the face can remain exposed"

I don't really care what "some say". Islam is big on each Muslim reading the Quran and doing what God expects of them without the need for an intermediary like the Church.

What we have is both Quran and Hadith saying no covering the face. This is not debated. So why believe face veil is "highly recommended" like OP says?

As for Mohammad's wives, I remember Quran saying different stuff was expected of them maybe their husband was a bit too jealous? than other Muslim women. And again, Mohammad has said that a woman's face should be seen. So why disobey your Prophet and his Holy Book, which is the "complete, perfect, and fully detailed" word of Allah?

peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 14:16

He doesnt say the face should be seen he says the face doesnt need to be covered. The wives of the Prophet Muhammed PBUH were more of a target then other women. I can understand why they would be required to be covered more as the enemies of the Prophet Muhammed PBUH would have targeted them or used them as a way to get to him. Also I have always found people tend to judge religious people much more harshly, I am also sometimes guilty of that. I once had a religious studies teacher who use to be quite abrupt with people and I remember thinking once or twice that she was really rude for someone who was supposed to be religious. Really she was just a human being like everyone else not an angel who had bad days and good days and shouldnt be expected to be happy clappy all the time. I can understand how veiling would have shielded the Prophet Muhammed PBUHs wives from constant scrutiny and judgement about whether they were religious enough. By the way this is all my own personal opinion and speculation.

innoparticularorder · 21/10/2013 14:48

Special agent - I'm not sure about other face coverings but the wearing of niqab isn't illegal in the UK, unlike France and Belgium. She is wearing it as an act of worship, if it was used to commit a crime then of course she should face the consequences but she's not.

My thinking is the intention of wearing one is between the wearer and God, she intends to cause no harm to others by wearing one, if members of the public feel aggrieved, insulted, fearful then shouldn't they look at why they feel this way. If I don't understand something my first port of call would be to educate myself.

GoshAnneGorilla · 21/10/2013 15:43

Cote - You have misinterpreted the the hadith. What it states is that everything should be covered as a religious obligation (a fard) except the face and hands. Hence the common opinion that hijab is a religious obligation.

The hadith is not saying that the face must not be covered at all. The hadith does not forbid face covering and it is not interpreted as doing so. It is stating what must be covered, not what must be uncovered, otherwise that hadith would also be stating that gloves are forbidden (if interpreted to insist that the face and hands must be shown) and we know that isn't the case.

As peaceful explains, the Prophet's wives covered their faces, therefore face covering can be seen as something very pious Muslimahs did and that is why some follow the practice - this is seen a following a Sunnah, something that the Prophet and his companions did. Sunnah acts are not obligatory, so this is why the majority opinion is that wearing the niqab is an optional act, not a requirement.

Other sunnah acts are things like extra prayers, extra fasts, extra charity to using a miswak and various other things. Again these are all seen as praiseworthy, but are not obligations. Also, there is a wide variety of Sunnah acts, it is not expected that Muslims do them all, as stated, small good deeds done regularly are best.

This explanation of Akham may help:

"The acts of a Muslim must be done according to Islamic commandments, categorized in five groups, forming a pentad or al-ahkam al-khamis (Arabic: ??????? ???????). Actions are evaluated and placed in one of these five categories and permitted or prohibited as appropriate to culture and the dictates of Islamic jurisprudence. According to Islamic terminology the pentad consists of:
Wajib, obligatory; also known as: fard, rukn
Mustahabb / Sunnah, recommended, also known as fadilah, mandub
Mubah, neither obligatory nor recommended (neutral)
Makruh, abominable (abstaining is recommended)
Haraam, sinful (abstaining is obligatory)"

peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 16:30

SpecialAgent my friend who left the country had a lot of low level abuse such as spitting, name calling with occasional physical assault such as throwing things at her or hitting. The most distressing thing for her was that this use to happen in front of her children. Her husband worked long hours and was away alot, so she didnt have the option of staying in the house. She had to leave the home to get her and her childrens needs met. Its interesting since she has left, she has been back once or twice and does miss some aspects of the UK. However her children never want to return with her even for holidays and are much happier living abroad. I think it is probably quite traumatic for children to witness their mother being abused publicly like that. I use to have nightmares as a child and still worry now about people being nasty to my mum and she only wears hijab, no niqab.

peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 16:32

tellmamauk.org/

Is a good website for finding out about anti-muslim attacks. Its interesting that the majority of these attacks are perpetrated against women. Thats why I always find it hilarious when I hear those on the far-right and there associates saying the reason they have a problem with Islam is because of its treatment of women. hmm Your not really treating them any better by verbally abusing and physically assaulting them either are you.

peacefuloptimist · 21/10/2013 16:33

I meant Hmm Blush

crescentmoon · 21/10/2013 17:00

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GoshAnneGorilla · 21/10/2013 17:08

Just C+P it. Hmm... Wink

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nicename · 21/10/2013 17:47

So why when I cut and pasted Japanese script I got a load of junk??!

SpecialAgentFreyPie · 21/10/2013 19:22

Thank you for the link peaceful

I'm so sorry about your friend, that's appalling. Shock

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 20:44

"He (Mohammad) doesnt say the face should be seen he says the face doesnt need to be covered."

Sounds very similar to me. If the Messenger of Allah is saying that the face doesn't need to be covered, why is OP under the impression that the veil is "highly recommended" in Islam?

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 21:08

You are right, Gosh. My recollection of that Hadith was "hands and face should be seen" but it actually says that it doesn't suit a girl after puberty to show any part of her body except her face and hands. Meaning that showing the face is perfectly fine. Would you not agree?

"the Prophet's wives covered their faces, therefore face covering can be seen as something very pious Muslimahs did"

Iirc Quran says that Mohammad's wives are "not like other women" (treated differently, with different things expected of them?).

So Mohammad's wives were told to cover their faces, but other Muslim women were not told any such thing. Mohammad's wives were also told "stay in your houses". Is never venturing outside your home also something to aspire to, as something very pious Muslimahs do?

nicename · 21/10/2013 21:22

Maybe the wives were at risk from attack/kidnap, or wanted to come and go incognito without people hassling them to 'put in a good word for them' with their husband. A veil or staying indoors makes sense in such cases.

I'm thinking that there was probably a more practical than spiritual reasoning.

CoteDAzur · 21/10/2013 21:41

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