Both my sons are outliers. It doesn't make things easy. Maybe they aren't easy for anyone, but the grass IS always greener in the next field, isn't it?
State schools are not crap. Well, ok, some teachers are but its not a general rule! IMO the experience is a teacher by teacher one, not a school by school one, nor a sector by sector one.
Take this HoD, for example. He's probably a good teacher, and he probably does a good job with the dept overall according to the objectives he has been set. I bet they say something like get a high % of children to A* and the vast majority to C or better at GCSE. Keep the teachers motivated, take care of the teacher's professional development and record keep appropriately. If G&T gets mentioned, it will be a bland non-speciific statement with a low priority.
Nothing is ever perfect, but the SLT are mostly content, I am guessing.
No one wants to know that the HoD lies to parents so poorly that they know that he is lying.
If the school cared about its outliers, it would do something about them. It doesn't. Most children aren't outliers and league tables are based around getting 5 GCSEs, including English and Maths at C or better. As long as a decent percent are A/ A* (which they are), then who cares about children like mine?
The answer is I care. We'd like a school that specialised in children like ours, but its not what we've got, so DH and I will just have to make up the difference ourselves, as best we can. I believe we aren't the only ones who don't leave education completely up to the school.
Funnily enough, none of this ever shows up in Ofsted reports or in endless debates about grammar schools/ middle class parents piling into good schools or any of the other misconceptions and half-truths that abound.