Tutor thinks DD is G&T school don't - WWYD ?

[Hideehi]

My DD moved from a crap private school to a good state one, but we knew there were issues with her maths so we found a good tutor for her to see twice a week and all has been going well.
However the tutor basically says DD's writing and drawing is exceptional and her reading is very good too, she regularly does 8 year olds homework, but she doesn't seem to show this in class.
The school think she is struggling with reading (i know this is not true) and last week despite getting 10/10 on her spellings in the morning she got 4/10 in the class test.
What on earth is going on ? I thought she was happier in the state school she has more friends who are like us if you know what i mean and has lots of treats, the theatre, holidays, nice outings etc.
Just not sure how to make the school see the child the tutor sees ?

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Ah well thats good then.

I was not taking issue with the idea of hideehi sending her DD to the tutor but rather the fact that she "would not dump her children in childcare". Very fortunate to be able to afford a tutor without dumping children in childcare IMO.

Bozza dont get too hung up on the word 'dump' some folk use this word as a funny expression.

Here is another one, I like your mop where did you get that done. (hairstyle)

I use 'dump' word quite a lot.

HideeHi, my daughter is G&T, won a junior scholarship to her private school but we took her out like you and have put her in an excellent state school.

It is possible that with 4 extra hours of schooling that she has to knuckle down at that she is tired at school and perhaps at school she can get away with doing less but not witht the tutor.

If she is already G&T why are you giving her a tutor too? If she is staying in the state system it will lead problems of boredom for her as the state school won't be able to fast track her to secondary school.

My 4 yr old ds has been labelled G&T at both nursery and now primary school. My issue is that although he has been put on an Independant Education programme I feel frustrated that he comes home telling me of things he has done which he has already done at nursery. I don't want to sound like a pushy parent and I don't want to isolate him from the other children. Can get very stressful.

Hidehi

Have you considered that she is either bored at school if the work she is used to is of a higher standard and so is not trying, OR coming to a state school from private she does not want to appear different so hides her abilities?

Both are very common problems for bright children.

Hideehi, we are 4 weeks into termtime and your twins are 4 weeks old? Coincidence? Perhaps your DD is a little usettled by this and could even be managing broken sleep (like the rest of your family I imagine)..

With 5 children surely you can see that childcare is a useful tool for you to have at your disposal, nothing to do with dumping your DC off on sb else, but a necessity at times? You have seen your DD has got something out of having a "tutor" but is this what she REALLY needs? At her age I think not.

Good luck to you.

I read that as well. Totally confused now

No that's me i just have one DD and at her tutor she doesn't do what you would maybe imagine homework to be, she does a bit of reading, she writes stories if she fancies it, drwas pictures and generally has a fab time.

Anyway I met with the teacher yesterday who reassures me L is in the middle of the class, which for an August 10th Birthday I'm very happy with and she'll continue with the tutor twice a week.
BTW the difference between my DD's tutor and a childminder is their 15 years experience as educational pyshologists.
Here are some of their books and I feel very lucky we are able to have the benefit of their experience in real life.
www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/search-handle-url/202-1303603-4461468?%5Fencoding=UTF8&search-type=ss&index=books-uk&field-author=Jean%20Robb

Pleased that you were happy with the meeting Hideehi

Ummm...in DD1's last school, when she was in Year 2, all of the children in the G & T group had a reading age of 11. Most of the rest of the class were doing Year 4 work. And this wasn't a selective school.

I think, personally, that your DD has too much on her plate. I was pushed and basically stopped working and dropped out at the age of 13. I don't want my 2 to do teh same.

hide - did you speak to the tutor about the teacher saying she is in middle of the class - for tutors to think shes G&T seems very odd. are you sure they are not telling you want you want to hear so you think oh she must be doing great with them and carry on using them. just a thought.