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Short story - dd bruises on legs, I ask her she tells me 2 boys at school did it. I ring the school this am and dp went in to speak to them this morning. Teacher rings me back to say she was going to ring me anyway as they have strict child protection policies and the bruises are so bad they've made a note in their 'black book'
She goes off to talk to my dd and then phones back to say she thinks its all sorted, has spoken to the children involved, will be having a 'circle time' tonight etc etc. BUT she's says that my dd has told her in previous weeks that 'please don't tell mummy i did x, y, z' and begged her not to tell me things and that when questionned she has said 'all she does is shout'!
She also told the teacher that I smacked her legs in the bath once (this is true, months ago, I hardly ever smack dd but snapped this once when she'd screamed at me and thrown water all over the floor. I told her if she didn't stop I was going to smack her legs and she didn't and I did )
I hardly ever raise my voice I don't think. Occasionally yes, but only if she's consistently ignoring me will I finally shout her name, and even then its usually just "dd1 NOW" type stuff. We do do a lot of 'I'm going to count to 3...'
Is this normal for kids to say? I'm crushed now, I thought we were bloody brilliant parents (not perfect obviously) but she has loads of attention, cuddles, we read with her constantly, lots of trips to zoos, parks, sorry I'm trying to defend myself now. I feel like bloody Rose West Also she is so not scared of me at all, she said to me yesterday 'You don't rule my life mummy' because I'd asked her to put something in the bin!!
Please tell me this is normal 5 year old stuff!!!
Just retyped that in case you thought I was mad - I've just posted in chat there were more developments when she got home, am asking for advice over there -->