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MaryAnnSingleton · 06/11/2009 09:41

Am sick of my messages never getting through - I have had 7 attempts to reply to Cakes' last post- am starting a new thread ....
this is what I wrote anyway.....

righto, this i my 7th attempt to reply on this thread - everything keeps disappearing !
My assessment is on 25th,and am told to allow two hours for it,crikey !!
Saw a lady in town yesterday who was having rads and finished at about the same time as me and she's just seen the onc. for her follow up - they are running very behind I know- so I emailed to ask about mine - I tie myself in knots in trying to be assertive yet not too needy or a nuisance - I suppose I just like to feel that everything is done in order. Am not worrying about my health -am sure breast is fine and dandy, it's more my emotional state which troubles me.
Anyway, they have made me an appointment but it's at the same time as my assessment so have emailed back and left a phone message...arghh !
Special thoughts for RWU today and of course KurriKurri - hope all ok..and of course you Cakes and Morph.

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reallywoundup · 13/11/2009 09:29

card making- now that is something to be in awe of one of the ds's once asked me to draw a horse which i duly did and he asked why i'd drawn a cat

Dress need very liottle alteration- just have to hem and overstitch the zip [yey] now i have to make up my dress which is a shorter and simpler version of the wedding gown- apparently i HAVE to have a handmade original as friend will be telling all that i made her dress

Hey ho- all kids off school today and monday- so apparenlty this morning we are playing power rangers followed by a trip into town to poundland! Oh Joy! Blardy INSET days!

Cakesandale · 13/11/2009 09:58

A long weekend of mayhem. Sounds like just what you need (Not).

Am envious of anyone who can make anything. We struggle here to make our beds of a morning...

DD got her part in the play. Hooray!

Turns out it is the biggest part. Boo!

How the hell are we going to learn all the blardy lines???

MaryAnnSingleton · 13/11/2009 19:57

hooray about dress RWU and well done to Cakes' dd for her success in getting the BIG part - yay !
Am totally shattered after my trip to London - it was a long day and a longer walk from Old St to the venue -the place was quite grotty and freezing cold and sadly no lunch laid on as I'd hoped,though we all went over the road to a really nice pub and I had delicious roast parsnip & chestnut soup -yum ! The meeting was interesting and we discussed loads of new ideas,things to improve our chances of getting work etc etc - everyone was really nice but was intimidated by the ones who are just obviously very successful - one has tons of books comissioned and other projects...and worse still,one of my ancient books was out on the table (agent had grabbed a selection of our published work) which isn't really representative of my current work...grrr
Have good weekends everyone xxx

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Cakesandale · 16/11/2009 09:30

Hi MAS

Don't feel intimidated by other people, they are probably just talking themselves up - there is a lot of it about!

I hate those networking things, I am just hopeless at them (though the yummy sounding soup would have cheered me up a bit) I cannot think of good openers and am no good at smallt alk in a business context. I think you did well to go all that way. I'd have thought of a reason to duck out, I am sure.

I have a fun packed week washing second hand toys (in November!! Yikes!!) for the school Xmas Fair (feel guity about going away for the weekend and not helping on the day, so hjave volunteered for a REALLY crap job to assuage my guilt!

MaryAnnSingleton · 16/11/2009 10:36

good luck with toy washing - I always avoided that task (but got landed with minding a stall for hours !)
It's hard not to feel a bit like a poor relation in comparison with others - they were all very nice indeed but there's a bit of professional envy on my part in that some just get work,others have a harder slog...I don't think I'm hard to sell really,it's just finding the right project at the right time - I know I'm good but confidence falters quite often !!

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Cakesandale · 16/11/2009 11:31

Yes, I have never been any good at selling myself. Can do it for others but not me.

Self belief and self motivation are pretty tough, aren't they?

(Up to elbows in suds emoticon)

MaryAnnSingleton · 16/11/2009 14:11

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KurriKurri · 16/11/2009 14:38

Hello all, hope everyone had a good weekend. We didn't do a great deal, the weather was appalling, and when we did venture out a big tree had been brought down by the wind, at the side of the road.

I did get some nice black ankle boots in a sale at of all places a garden centre - no they are not wellies! They are very smart for me (seriously unfashionable person).

How is the skin Cakes - any better? did the hospital have any helpful suggestions?

MAS, my son is in what might be called an artistic business, and it is very much to do with being in the right place at the right time, your time will definitely come, don't feel intimidated.

MaryAnnSingleton · 16/11/2009 14:55

thank you KurriKurri- trouble is I've been at this for years now - I have had lots of work in the past,though there are months and months too of no work at all -that seems to be the pattern really..your son is right -it is right place.right time !! This is my 'new' agent -have been with her for about 18 months and she is full of hope but frustrated that we aren't getting the jobs in for me. My only work has been through my own contacts ..anyway, am sure things'll pick up - I shall make a huge effort to get something for her to take to the Bologna Book Fair

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MaryAnnSingleton · 16/11/2009 14:57

but thanks both of you for kind words of encouragement- I wasn't dismissing them- am not particularly gloomy about work really -think I just need a direction !

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Cakesandale · 16/11/2009 15:03

Right place, right time is the thing alright - but I hate having to trawl out to all those awful events and look interested.

My skin is a bit better, thanks - have got myself some Eucerin, I often have to use it in the winter (it's another no-scent option that dd thinks smells of old people ) but it is working already. The Bio Oil was stopping it itching but bits were still flaking off. Eucerin seems to be teaching it who is boss.

Have a good afternoon all - am off to get zapped again

(I think I am going to need a sunburnt boob emoticon for a few weeks though)

PS Boots sound intriguing! Very jealous!

MaryAnnSingleton · 16/11/2009 16:06

is Eucerin made with urea ? as in heel balms ? ick.
Hope poor bosom doesn't get too sore...keep it dry underneath,after showering.

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reallywoundup · 16/11/2009 21:48

GRRRRRRRR!! sorry need a rant! i've been sitting quietly fuming for the whole weekend by some peoples total lack of understanding! Feel free to switch off and pass down to the end of the post where there is some non-ranty bits

So....... Friday pm, next door neighbour had an ann summers party- i went along as we are good friends etc etc- they know i need to be sitting somewhere comfy incase i doze off etc etc etc! So party bit over, some of us sitting in the lounge... another weird neighbour asks if anyone needs anything from toys-r-us as she is going down there in a few weeks, a few of us comment that we have finished our christmas shopping- all done and dusted so no we didn't need anything, she then pipes up "God, you lot have too much time on your hands... you should spend the day in my house!"

Right, so this needs some explanation, she is a sahm as is partner (don't get me started on that one- no disabilities, illness etc, mainly sheer laziness!) they have 4 kids, 11, 5, 3 and 18months, older three are at school all day (yes they pay to have 3yo at nursery all day 3x per week) so in reality all she has to do the majority of the time is watch an 18month old- her dh takes and collects the kids from school, does the shopping and helps tidy the strangly immaculate house. She is often found watching jeremy kyle with a cuppa How the bleeding hell does she figure that she doesn't have as much time as us?

So, that one was stored in the back of my mind and forgotten for time being and the conversation moved onto a friends dd's birthday in march- for which i have been asked to make the cake. THE SAME neighbour then turned round and said "Jesus- keeping you on your toes aren't they, mind you someone needs to its not like you do anything anymore"

So obviously i am a useless scrounging cowbag who sits on my arse all day every day (when in fact the reality is that i have to be up in the morning by 6.30, feed clothe and walk 4 kids up to the school with dd strapped to my back, get home, clean, tidy, cook, REST!!!!, look after dd, then get back up to pick them up, entertain them for the eternity time until dh returns from wherever he has been working, feed them, bath them, get them to bed before finally curling up on the sofa for a sleep and then the important job of an hours mn-ing )

SOME BLARDY PEOPLE!

Anyway- i'm sure i lost a few people along the way there but it is very cathartic to write it all down.

Well done to cakes' dd- lots of line learning going on i take it I have a marching band member, a reindeer, an elf, an elephant and a frigging butterfly to deal with at the moment- and they all take their parts very loudly seriously!
MAS- be easy on yourself, it'll happen, the more you push the more disallusioned you'll get and it won't be fun anymore!
Hurri- hope all is well.

KurriKurri · 16/11/2009 22:13

Phew !!! hope you feel better now RWU everyone needs a rant now and then - and breathe

Seriously don't get worked up she's obviously barking. People like that don't have the imagination or empathy to think about anybody else's life - so their loss really. Some people just seem oblivious to the fact that they are outrageously rude/tactless, and even if you tried to put them right they still wouldn't get it.

The Christmas plays sound fun, do you have to provide costumes? elephant sounds tricky! I miss all that kind of thing now mine are grown up.

MaryAnnSingleton · 16/11/2009 22:40

quite right to rant about that RWU - sheesh ! Shall we come round and slap her ?
Am feeling much more chipper having launched myself on Folksy at last (to try to sell my pictures online) -it's taken me ages to sort it out but I feel I'm doing something positive
Love the idea of the nativity elephant btw

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reallywoundup · 16/11/2009 22:41

costumes!!!!!!!!

Yup- elephant is easy- all grey, marching band- school uniform, reindeer- brown (girls-shhh) leggings and top, elf- green and red and looking a bit dim (which is easily done if you know ds4) butterfly- dance school provide costumes! Sorted!

I know it shouldn't bother me, but she is one of those people who really get under your skin- they have just had a run-in with ss about the constant violent arguements, and she has the gall to blame the person who ratted on them for it- FGS, you are standing in your back garden telling each other you are going to kill each other, of course someones going to fecking mention it (DISCLAIMER- IT WAS NOT ME!!!!!!) GRRRRRRRRRRRRR

God i do feel better!

My new mattress arrives tomorrow between 8-10 am, my christmas pressie! How sad are we! Finally an end to the memory foam hell that we have lived in

reallywoundup · 16/11/2009 22:44

btw- the school panto is puss in boots and the early yaers lot are providing a circus, hence the elephant and band other school is far more sensible and do a sort of santa/ nativity- tells the story of the nativity but not in a "thou must attend mass every day" kind of way in improvement on last years 'x-factor' stylee production which was truely awful interesting

Cakesandale · 17/11/2009 09:44

Well I missed a lot here - the neighbours certainly sound charming RWU!! And oblivious to reality!!

Mind you the school plays sound really really lovely - Puss in Boots. Yum! Ours is Christmas with the Aliens (eh??!!) but it has a nativity bit embedded inside it. DD is an alien, but has now counted up all the lines of everyone and discovered someone has more than her - personally I just feel for those poor parents with all those lines, but dd is gutted not to be Queen Bee. (An only one, she is used to being centre of attention, but we don't encourage the grandstanding, honest!)

I think her competitive nature will find an outlet in her Oscar-winning delivery of the lines - she will try to out-emote all her fellow thesps.

it is going to be quite a show (sigh)

And I am dreading what they will what us to create in the mine of costumes - this has not been raised yet.

MAS - yes, Eucerin does contain Urea - it works a treat so I just try not to think about it. I am clearly destined to smell like old people for the whole winter (sorry, DD)

reallywoundup · 17/11/2009 11:48

New mattress on bedstead- made up in new nice smelling sheets- currently with a small child running backwards and forwards trying to give me heart failure

Cakesandale · 17/11/2009 12:39

New mattress sounds lovely (but better without small running person). Is she wearing her butterfly outfit?

Nice, soft fresh bed. Bliss.

If only you could find an opportunity to get in, life would be just about perfect, wouldn't it?

MaryAnnSingleton · 17/11/2009 14:01

yay for new bed !! am not able to check in much today as dh working from home ....

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MaryAnnSingleton · 17/11/2009 14:01

mattress I meant

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reallywoundup · 17/11/2009 14:22

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KurriKurri · 17/11/2009 14:34

of mattress, wish i could get a new one, mine's got some odd knobbly bits in it - had to turn it round so they were on DH's side .

Went shopping this morning and bought my Dad a birthday present (89 on saturday) I got him edible treats, he doesn't really know its his birthday, but as Mum says its a chance to make a bit of a fuss of him.

Have had some pain round my scar, and felt a bit swollen today under my arm, I'm seeing the doctor this afternoon. So having a little quiet panic.

To cap it all nurse from the surgery has just phoned to say Doctors want me to have a second swine flu jab, that's my fed up emoticon.

reallywoundup · 17/11/2009 14:44

i'm sure it will turn out ok at docs kurri- i often go into a "oh my god" type of head spinning panic- then it turns out to be something trivially minor and not in fact worth consulting a doctor over Your scar isn't that old yet though so maybe you've just been doing too much! The perfect excuse for sitting under a blanket watching chick-flicks

I have to go back for a second sf jab as well- dh doesn't but kids do- apparently there are two varieties, the Baxter (?) one requires a top up after 3 weeks, the other is a one jab wonder but tends to cause more reaction at the injection site

I'm sure it will be nice to celebrate with your Dad- he will apreciate the fuss if nothing else
right off to get the kids [arrrggghhhh]