My pregnant friend has just had a skiing accident...

[pavlovthecat]

I am furious with her and her DP. Well, I am now I know she and baby are ok.

She has fractured her leg, skiiing in USA, while 16 weeks pg.

She has never been skiing before, thought it would be a good time to try, seeing her dp insisted she would be fine (apparantly gp said it was ok). And now she is likely to be in USA for a few weeks before she can fly home.

How could she put herself and her unborn child in danger like that?

I did not put this in AIBU, because to be honest, I don't think I am. I feel very cross.

oh poor thing that sounds absolutely awful!

Stupid thing to do....I hope they have good cover

aw I feel for her

I had this horrible psnic during my first pregnancy that MY LIFE WAS ENDING, I WOULD NEVER TRY ANYTHING NEW AGAIN!

so I took a course of golf lessons WTF?

ANYHOO be nice to her

Badsister - it appears they are properly covered.

I think I guess I am so infuriated as this should have been a time for her to experience the joys of being pregnant, to get excited about being a mum for the first time.

Instead, she has a screwed knee, and months of physio ahead of her while coping with being pregnant. I am just sad I suppose that it wont be perfect for her.

Golf?! GOLF?!!

But your friend is bonkers, pavlov. Do you think she and DH have learned their lesson?

Golf?!!! That was very risky!

Pavlov, I hate to say it but it sounds like you are projecting a bit...surely she wanted to go? Has she said she is miserable and disappointed that it's not 'perfect'?

Obviously you care about her but she is a grown up and probably knew the risks.

This time last year he was recovering from a broken collar bone, after taking up mountain biking a year before and thinking he was invinsible - he hit a tree stump and broke his collar bone in 3 places. Took him 6 months to recover enough to go back to work (he works in a labour related industry).

I think he is worried about 'growing up' and for some reason it seems my friend wants to show him she is as adventurous or something.

I can't say I am sure they have learnt.

Jane - I am sure I am projecting! But then, I guess, better to get it all out now before I talk to her on the phone eh?!!

I KNOW!

Can you imagine - massive fat rolypoly pregnant THING with golf pro reaching his arms around her saying STICK YOUR BUM OUT, NO, FURTHER!

it was absurd

I am that she thought it was ok to ski for the first time when pregnant! Hasn't anyone told her that she was bound to fall quite a few times???

I've been skiing since the age of 8 and don't remember falling in the last decade, and still I haven't been skiing this winter (pregnant).

I'm sorry to say that what she is done is so incredibly stupid that it is almost Darwinian.

Oh, I just find golf absurd, mp, that's my problem. And ironic, given that I live near the most famous golf club in the world.#

That's what I thought, Cote - if she'd been an uber-experienced skier she'd have been able to assess the risk (and then decide not to go), but for the first time?

cote - but it was not really her first time, she had done a couple of dry ski slope lessons . And how you have put it thats how frustrated I am at her.

Blardy hell you can die from a fractured femur (big bone = big blood loss). Glad she is ok now.

She's bloody daft skiing when pregnant though. Surely she would have been better off sitting in a chalet looking out at the snow whilst drinking hot chocolate and reading a stonkingly good book?

Habbibu - I'm an "uber experienced skier" and can safely say there is a near-zero chance of me falling (especially if I take it slow), and still I haven't been skiing this year because of the off chance that some fearless idiot might crash into me.

That a novice would take up skiing when pregnant is just astoundingly stupid. Of course she would fall. Many times. Fracturing a leg is rather rare, but falling is very common, which is obviously not good for her baby.

That was my point, Cote - as an uber-skier, you'd risk assess, and think "no, not doing that when pregnant".

Perhaps for her or them it was a displacement activity. I think that's why I rode. Total denial really.

Or I could have just said "Yes, I agree with you, Cote". Sometimes I don't think of the simplest thing first!

it's her choice. It's not your place to tell her off and tell her she was daft.

I know you agreed Habibu. Just wasn't done ranting

Course it is! She is my friend and she would do exactly the same thing if it was the other way round. She is a very straight up type of person when it comes to saying what you think, she would expect no less. That does not mean I will spend ages telling her off, or not support her, or help her when she comes home.

Apparantly DH has said she has the heads of all depts looking after her, as she is pregnant, so at least she is getting the best care possible.

God, can you imagine how much all that would cost without insurance?

$20,000 so far, without the knee op and whatever the next 3 weeks entails.

oh ok. If the two of you tell each other off, fine. Would really get on my tits