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Fag Free for 2005....Join us.....We need Help!

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charliecat · 13/04/2005 10:41

I cried when I read how many failures theres been and applauded hub2dees approach as sometimes theres no point pussyfooting....come on guys! Its got to be done.
I am so so so gutted that theres been vile puffing going on...did you REALLY enjoy any of them. Truely satisfying were they? No No No! Tell you what though...waking up knowing that bastard nicotine monster has got no grip on me whatsoever is liberating. I could touch the sky with the high that im free. No chain round my neck.
Remember that just one is never just one and even if it was, why would you want JUST ONE? Your aim is to STOP FOREVER.

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almost40 · 16/05/2005 13:29

You answered the question. I can't help myself if I have any left or around. Unfortunately, DH is STILL smoking and so it has been hard going when he is always smoking. . .

TwoAngels · 16/05/2005 13:55

sry haven't been on all morn OMG this is crap I am not having three min cravings, the cravings are just none stop every two mins or so i'm like oh i'll have a fag and then rememeber i can't.... but fortunatley DP has the car and the nearest shop is half hour walk away.....

I never thought this was gonna be easy but this is oh i can't even imagine a word to describe it

MML hunny well done for this morn sry if i'm not much help chicken but for every hour of us both suceeding i'm proud lol.... sack one day at a time i'm doing one hour a time at the mo

almost40 · 16/05/2005 13:59

You go girl. Stay on the computer then. Hang in there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 14:45

Well done 2A. Are you busy with anything? I so know what you mean. When it hits you it's bloody horrible isn't it? Such an empty craving yawning feeling in the lungs.

Hang in there. Think how pleased we'll both be if we make it to the end of the day? And think of our bodies thinking: 'hurray! I feel unpoisoned!'

Whenever I'm madly craving I'm picturing dd at her most loving and most needing of me which is when I feel most guilty about smoking. So so far she's keeping me going.

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 15:23

I've gone 16 hours now according to my quitometer. It feels like 6 weeks!

hub2dee · 16/05/2005 15:42

Nice one, laydees.

If you're thinking OMG OMG need a fag OMG...

STOP FOR JUST ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS...

... and consider the incredible potency of your chemical addiction. It is nothing short of tragic.

Grown adults reduced to nervous freaky wrecks by lack of fag for less than a day...

Now you can choose to give in, or you can think FCK YOU FOR MESSING WITH MY HEALTH AND MY LIFE. FCK YOU, FAGS.

Forever.

Do the hard stuff. Hang in there. You can see the grasp this has over you and this is seriously nothing to be relieved about / comforted by. IT IS A POISON. You are dangling as if by puppet strings.

That's no way to live. You've stubebd out, so just type away the urges / fits / crazes. Post regularly. It doesn't need to be meaningful or interesting.

Look at / think about the kids around you. Your kids. Give them the gift of non-smoking parents.

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 16:07

Oh, hub, you went into preacher mode then. Like the bloke I saw at Oxford Circus last week with a megaphone saying 'you're all shopaholic junkies, shopaholic junkies' over and over.

The withdrawal is a strange feeling because it's there all the time but there are definitely moments when I don't think about it and it's only when it comes back into my mind for some reason that I feel really MAD

charliecat · 16/05/2005 16:12

For the benefits of newbies wondering if they will ever stop wanting a cigarette, I thought I would elaborate on the concept of "urges" that happen weeks, months or even years into a quit. When we say that the urge hits after any significant time period after being smoke free, it is a desire or a thought for a cigarette that is different than the physical "urge" experienced during initial withdrawal. Those urges are physiological craves, the body demanding nicotine to alleviate a drug withdrawal state.
The thoughts that happed down the road are triggers of fond memories. The thought is often that it seems like a good idea now to smoke a cigarette. Kind of like the urge you get to clean your house on a slow day. Seems like a good idea for a few seconds, but if you find something better to do, so be it. The same concept holds true for the thought of a cigarette.

Other times there will be thoughts of "I used to smoke when I did this." Not a desire for a cigarette or smoking, but a feeling that your timing or ritual is off. Sometimes there may even be a feeling that you are supposed to be doing "something" right now, but do not even realize what it is. All of a sudden you realize you used to smoke at this particular juncture of time or a specific new situation. Again, it is not that you want or need a cigarette in these two cases, just that the routine was a little off.

Years into a quit though, most days ex-smokers will go days, weeks and maybe even months without a thought. Even days which they call "bad" with desires, they may be going 23 hours and 59 minutes and 50 seconds without a thought, but because they think of it once, they think that was a lot. It really does get easier and easier.

The alternative side, smoking, is constantly riddled with thought of quitting. Whenever you are going to a doctor, a non-smoking friends or family home where you want to visit but cannot smoke, getting a new symptoms or aggravated by a chronic problem, read a news headline or hear a news report on television or radio on a new danger from smoking, have to pay another price increase for cigarettes, find another friend who has quit while you do not, stand outside in blizzards or heat waves or torrential downpour for the luxury of getting a quick fix or experience some horrible withdrawal because you can't escape for a cigarette or heaven forbid, you run out of cigarettes.

Yes there were plenty of times smoking made your life totally unmanageable. Not to mention the times that may come where a diagnosis of a horrible condition that require extraordinary measures to save your life that in themselves are almost as terrifying and painful as the disease itself. That unpleasant scenario still provides a chance of survival. There are frequently the cases where the first real symptom of a smoking induced illness is sudden death. Then you don't even have a chance to save your life.

As an ex-smoker, there may be times you want a cigarette. As a smoker, there will be times you want to quit. Neither side is perfect, but the ex-smoker side has clear advantages. It will get easier and easier over time getting to the point of smoking becoming a thing of the past. The smoking side leads to a much more ominous road.

Keep focused, whether it is hours into a quit or decades into a quit. It was a good decision to quit, maybe the most important decision you have made in your life as far as quality and length of your life goes. To keep the decision alive and continue to reap the benefit, always remember, Never Take Another Puff!

OP posts:
mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 16:25

Thanks cc

hub2dee · 16/05/2005 16:26

mll that was me !

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 16:29

Well, I always wondered what you did for a day job, hub. You need to ditch that heavy moustache though.

JoolsToo · 16/05/2005 16:31

hub2dee - Mr Fixit - BobtheBuilder - whatever - I'm putting you up for a Nobel prize

TwoAngels · 16/05/2005 16:35

MLL hiya hun had to go for a sleep am soooo lucky that DD's are away at present poor Dp came at lunch and pathetically i know I had a hissy crying fit he was fab though and laughed then comforted me

from the sounds of it we both had our last cig around the same time last night so we are doing well....

I'm so gratefull for ur encouragement MLL to know you are feeling the same litrally at this moment in time....

have just spoke to my brother who has now been a non smoker for three weeks and he said he was exactly the same but we have to riddddde through it. Do u have anyone around who has been a ex smoker??

TwoAngels · 16/05/2005 16:37

sry ment to say someone who is an ex smoker doh

hub2dee · 16/05/2005 16:37

Oh no, what have I done now JoolsToo ?

(Or is it because I was the only man who could ever reach me, was the son of a Preacher Man)...

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 16:45

2A, no I don't have any real ex-smokers around me. Everyone I know is fairly clean-living! Dp smokes a bit, but so little it hardly counts, usually just if he's out in the pub or something like that. He hasn't a clue what real 'addiction' feels like. It's brilliant that you've got your dp going through it with you. How's he coping? I gotta go now but will pop back later this evening.

Good luck!

JoolsToo · 16/05/2005 16:47

you're just so ................. helpful

you deserve a gong of some sort!

TwoAngels · 16/05/2005 16:49

well we are definetly here for u MLL and maybe if things heat up to much maybe u could try getting into a quitters group??

Dp is ok he's at work and very rarely smokes through the day.

I have to go to work also now THIS is the big dread I have been having as I have to drive about 1hr there and 1hr back hmmmm

will chat later

takecare
xx

hub2dee · 16/05/2005 17:58

Out all evening, so wishing you both SUCCESS till you go to bed.

Tomorrow morning it will have been one day or one and a half days....

charliecat · 16/05/2005 20:39

Hows everyone going? What happened with dp MML on the other thred?

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mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 22:05

Almost 24 hours now, cc! I so nearly folded this evening with various other things going on. But there's no fags in the flat and there's no way I'm going out anywhere so I'm just chewing my cheeks and drinking a beer.

fee77 · 16/05/2005 22:14

Yeah - well done mml and 2A your first day is over. You should feel really proud of yourselves!
I know it is hard, there will be tears and tantrums, but it is soooooo worth it. Poor your selves a glass of wine you deserve it! I think i will join you!

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 22:23

Thanks fee. Would anyone mind if I attempted to start a new thread as this one takes an age on my computer now. Though we'd need to instantly implant some of cc's cut and pastes onto the new thread to keep us going!

I'm not great at links but will have a go in a minute ...

mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 22:27

ok, come and join mehere

dropinthe · 17/05/2005 09:51

Is this thread dead now only to be reborn with two new smoke free allies on the other one?
WELL DONE YOU GIRLIES-GO!GO!GO
Am proud of you both getting through that first day without a trip to the fag shop-SO remembered TWOANGELS how you were feeling when you smoked that last fag with tears in your eyes as if you were seeing your best friend for the last time ever! Well remember,cigs are the enemy-they feed the monster within and KILL!
I have been surrounded lately with people suffering the long term effects of smoking and it isnt pleasant.
Keep yourselves as busy as you can physically manage-clear out cupboards,drawers,crap from your lives so as to give yourselves something to focus on.
Keep going-each day will be a little bit easier than the last and you will both be moving towards a better life free from the guilt that smoking brings-smoking has never made people happy deep inside-just ill!

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