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Fag Free for 2005....Join us.....We need Help!

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charliecat · 13/04/2005 10:41

I cried when I read how many failures theres been and applauded hub2dees approach as sometimes theres no point pussyfooting....come on guys! Its got to be done.
I am so so so gutted that theres been vile puffing going on...did you REALLY enjoy any of them. Truely satisfying were they? No No No! Tell you what though...waking up knowing that bastard nicotine monster has got no grip on me whatsoever is liberating. I could touch the sky with the high that im free. No chain round my neck.
Remember that just one is never just one and even if it was, why would you want JUST ONE? Your aim is to STOP FOREVER.

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TwoAngels · 14/05/2005 19:02

Ty hub2dee

Am gonna spend this evening reading up on this thread....
charliecat pointed me to a fantasic website yesterday so i'm sure that I will definetly find the advice great

charliecat · 15/05/2005 07:48

Quit Smoking Tip Sheet

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Quit cold turkey. In the long run it?s the easiest and most effective technique of smoking cessation.
Do not carry cigarettes.
Quit smoking one day at a time. Do not concern yourself with next year, next month, next week or even tomorrow. Concentrate on not smoking from the time you wake up until you go to sleep.
Work on developing the attitude that you are doing yourself a favor by not smoking. Do not dwell on the idea that you are depriving yourself of a cigarette. You are ridding yourself of full-fledged smoking because you care enough about yourself to want to.
Be proud that you are not smoking.
Be aware that many routine situations will trigger the urge for a cigarette. Situations which will trigger a response include: drinking coffee, alcohol, sitting in a bar, social events with smoking friends, card games, the end of meals. Try to maintain your normal routine while quitting. If any event seems too tough, leave it and go back to it later. Do not feel you must give up any activity forever. Everything you did as a smoker, you will learn to do at least as well, and maybe better, as an ex-smoker.
Make a list of all the reasons you want to quit smoking. Keep this list with you, preferably where you used to carry your cigarettes. When you find yourself reaching for a cigarette, take out your list and read it.
Drink plenty of fruit juice the first three days. It will help flush nicotine out of your system.
To help avoid weight gain, eat vegetables and fruit instead of candies and pastries. Celery and carrots can be used safely as short-term substitutes for cigarettes.
If you are concerned about weight gain, do some moderate form of regular exercise. If you have not been exercising regularly, consult your physician for a practical exercise program which is safe for you.
If you encounter a crisis, (e.g. a flat tire, flood, blizzard, family illness) while quitting, remember, smoking is no solution. Smoking will just complicate the original situation while creating another crisis, a relapse into the nicotine addiction.
Consider yourself a ?smoke-a-holic.? One puff and you can become hooked again. No matter how long you have been off, don't think you can safely take a puff!
Don't debate with yourself how much you want a cigarette. Ask yourself how do you feel about going back to your old level of consumption. Smoking is an all or nothing proposition.
Save the money you usually spend on cigarettes and buy yourself something you really want after a week or a month. Save for a year and you can treat yourself to a vacation.
Practice deep breathing exercises when you have a craving.
Go places where you normally can't smoke, such as movies, libraries and no smoking sections of restaurants.
Tell people around you that you have quit smoking.
Remember that there are only two good reasons to take a puff once you quit. You decide you want to go back to your old level of consumption until smoking cripples and then kills you, or, you decide you really enjoy withdrawal and you want to make it last forever. As long as neither of these options appeal to you - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF

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charliecat · 15/05/2005 07:53

whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksDMeters.html

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TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 11:16

that site charliecat is gonna be my bible LOL when I read everything on it the other evening it made me feel even more sure than I am now that it's gonna happen and i'm gonna be fag free also the msn group link is good too lots of questions and great answers from it's members... fankoo

MLL hows u hun?? Will be around as much as poss tomorrow hope to see u on mn too am gonna start putting £10 a day in the jar I have just bought and see if this helps and gonna buy a big bumper pack of wrigleys extra chewing gum for the craving times....

Mll if ur around today could u let me know if u are doing anything to prepare or are u just gonna go for it??

hub2dee · 15/05/2005 11:46

You sound bl**dy determined. Gor for it 2Angels.

TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 19:31

wow hub2dee!! how supportive and motivating u are tis lovely to recive some genuine support on mn.... although am getting it in RL too but when I need reasursing even if no one responded again on here I can always go bk to this IYKWIM

just wondered if anyone who has quit or quitting has ever spoke to nhs stop smoking line??

hub2dee · 15/05/2005 20:00

Hey no prob 2Angels. I'm doing it for myself as well, ya see....

I'm allergic to cigarette smoke: it gives me asthma. I also don't like the smell of my hair and clothes when I go out for a night, or to a pub / restaurant / bar / party...

Also, I think it's a bad role model for your kids, and to save my taxes in the future, it would be better for me that they didn't see you smoking and take it up.

Just selfish, me....

(well only a little bit).

GOOD LUCK FOR TOMORROW MML AND TWOANGELS.

TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 20:08

hub2dee definetly not selfish IMO every reason u just stated are the same as mine along with the major financial rewards for doing it too... all that blummin money we have wasted over the years makes me want to cry

VERY WELL DONE YOU!!!!

and everyone else who is stopping or stopped ur all fab in my eyes!!

hub2dee · 15/05/2005 20:21

You will raise a pile of cash if you're on 40 - 50 a day.

BTW, just to clarify... I am not a quitter. I've never smoked. I helped dw quit when we first met. A few days into our 'courting' it was a 'the fags or me' ultimatum.

Lucky girl used her head.

Does your dp / dh smoke ? Will he also join you in quitting ?

charliecat · 15/05/2005 20:27

Good Luck for tommorow!... my nugget of advice for you both is, if you give into the just one, you wont have stopped at all, only half tryed and failed...AND you will only have to try it again another day, and what makes you think the next day will be any easier? It really wont be...remember that. Come here and type insanely...do anything, just dont smoke. Once the madness has gone a sense of achievement kicks in and you will love yourself for it xxxxx

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TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 21:20

hub2dee sry misunderstood but well done to ur DW!!!!

£70 a wk will pay for a fair bit of my rent a month which is going to fab

DP does smoke but out of both of us is the one who has always tried to get me to try stop with him and I know we will both do it.... DP's father was a heavey smoker like me 10 yrs ago and gave up by the cold turkey approach so we have him as a mentor also which is going to be fantastic and he is so chuffed about our desion (sp??)

Charliecat i'm quite an indesisive person most of the time but when I do make desions out of the blue like this it will happen I have to much pride to fail ( i hope)

hub2dee · 15/05/2005 21:28

Is dp stopping at same time as you 2A ?

BTW - have you read the book by Carr ? Lots of people have found it useful... I think it didn't do the trick with a couple of recent posters, but it may help you.

But, tbh, from the 'sound' of it, your half way there. You begin your road to freedom tomorrow. EXCITING !

fee77 · 15/05/2005 21:33

Ohhh two new quitters - good luck to both of you, remember take it a day at a time. And use mn - everytime i felt like a fag i used to come on here and type or read, and the urge went away, and here i am 5 months on and still fag free.
Believe in yourselves - you can do it! Tomorrow morning you will wake up a non-smoker.

charliecat · 15/05/2005 21:37

Well Done fee, saw you mon another thread and wondered where youdd got to...didnt want to ask if you were still off them just in case you werent...bet your well chuffed! Well Done again!!!

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fee77 · 15/05/2005 21:41

I am definately still off them, and feeling really good! I lurk on here a lot, but don't always have anything constructive to say! I sometimes feel i'm a bit of a smug non-smoker now!
How is the new house?

charliecat · 15/05/2005 21:46

Greatish...we have came to a complete halt on the stairs, put up banister, coated it once and now it needs a second coat of gloss before we put the stair carpet down and we just HAVENT got round to it...thats all to be done. Hacked the garden to bits out the back this weekend and regained another 8 foot that had been taken over by weeds, just sticking the shed up tommorow, half done at the mo and we are so so so so so nearly there!!!!
Dont lose the fear of just one in yoursmugness...I find i feel smug then a thought will say, well if your so smart....er no Mr Nicotine. Not a chance!!!!!!!!!

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TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 21:57

aye H2D he does... as of tomorrow he won't though we have even discussed the fact that we will proberbly rant at each other and have agreed that if we argue we must apologise at the end LOL!!!

I have only read this thread and the website CC pointed out and a wee bit of nhs stop smoking site which i'm not to keen on reading as it contradicts the "whyquit" site a bit but am going to get as much info as poss....

as soon as I made the desion on friday to stop I booked an appointment with the nurse at my GP's in order to see what support I can get as in groups.

I will admit though now that I'm getting a wee bit scared and DP has just started chucking everything relating to cigs in the bin... thankfully the babes have gone up to their daddys for four days so hopefully things will calm down a bit by the time they get bk......

hub2dee · 15/05/2005 22:10

You are serious about this, eh.

Brilliant to see. Bin the ashtrays / give them to a charity shop too. Let people close to you know so they can give support, not smoke infront of you etc. Maybe be careful of what you schedule for a wee while: perhaps pubs / bars etc. may be an unnuecessary temptation

Fab that you'l be doing this with dp too. Doubtless it will be a bit mental at your place for a few days but it'll be good to do this together.

charliecat · 15/05/2005 22:25

You sound more prepared than most of us here
I havent rang NHS by the way..whats the one where you can ring just to chat for 5 whilst your having a moment? Anyone know or is it the NHS one?

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TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 22:36

each for their own charliecat just know me, that if I get sight of anything round the house to do with smoking I will pine LOL

the number is 08001690169 stored it in me mob first sight of the helpline number.

am quite lucky as I don't enjoy drinking anymore H2D am a stay at home with a good movie and a coffee kinda girl.

Well one last cig left and show time begins [fear]

MLL again goodluck hun hope u will come and chat tomorrow...

charliecat · 15/05/2005 22:37

Go Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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TwoAngels · 15/05/2005 22:41

OMG I am just about to smoke this "thing" and I feel like crying it feels as though i'm about to finish with a long time partner

Please say this is normal????? I daren't smoke it seriously like i want to cling to it

charliecat · 15/05/2005 22:42

Thats the evil thing about it...its not your friend, its your biggest enemy

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hub2dee · 15/05/2005 22:45

It's been part of your life for a large number of years. 2A.

I expect It's normal to feel some kind of grief for this loss....

... but what are you losing ? Shite in your lungs, a disgunstingly smelly mouth to kiss, clothes and hair which reek, a sad role model for the kids, and sub-hourly lust for a stick of toxic addiction.

However much you'll miss your 'present' partner, you're new partner will see you feeling more alive, a bit more fit, fresher smelling, happier, richer, and most importantly FREE from the slavery.

charliecat · 15/05/2005 22:47

www.msnusers.com/FreedomFromTobaccoQuitSmokingNow/advice4newbies.msnw

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