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FairyTaleEnding · 19/02/2009 21:55

Rather nervously putting head above parapet to invite anyone in recovery to chat. I don't want this to be heavy, it's about finding a space away from the 'I drink too much' threads where we might be seen as a bit zealous! Anyway, I'll be surprised if anyone except MIFLAW replies ...

My name's FairyTaleEnding ...

OP posts:

FairyCCTaleEnding · 04/03/2009 10:03

All gone a bit quiet over here ...

Hope everyone's ok.

FairyCCTaleEnding · 05/03/2009 16:10

Just popping in to sweep up the tumbleweed.

ManIFeelLikeAWoman · 05/03/2009 23:06

Missed a bit.

jeminthecity · 06/03/2009 09:34

lol.

Have been a bit busy, although I havn't been to the book club in a while... I keep thinking of things to write, but its a public forum etc

I actually find the hardest thing is living with ME, my emotions in particular, but I do know thats all part of recovery. I have to work very hard to keep myself well, otherwise old patterns start creeping in. Anyone else find this?

ManIFeelLikeAWoman · 06/03/2009 14:06

Absolutely.

I am also living proof of the saying that the hardest place to work this programme is in the home ...

jeminthecity · 06/03/2009 14:22

Yep, its the day-to-day insignificant stuff that sends me mad, and I have to constantly recognise and then re-order myself. Worth it though, obviously.

jeminthecity · 06/03/2009 14:23

Cheers, MIL, by the way, for reminding me...

chloemummy · 08/03/2009 19:07

Hi All,
Myself and my daughter did a drumming workshop today and tried to do African Dance although my DD laughed her head off and asked what I was doing.... I told her to have a go if she could do better but it was a bit energetic for me and made me realise how unfit I am. There was also taster sessions for alternative therapy so both me and dd had reflexology and had my fingernails painted and my dd had her toenails painted.

I just feel so spaced out today... Very tearful and just not with it. I think I am depressed. The smallest of things set me off shouting at my daughter. I enjoyed the drumming it was something I had not tried before. Just dont feel right, not sure what I am supposed to feeling like but most things seem difficult. For eg. tomorrow I feel like just resting but then I will probably isolate... Then I think perhaps that is not the best thing to do... Just feel constantly tired and stressed... I have to make myself do things. I booked a holiday to france at May half term and now I wish I had not done it...

Hopefully these feelings of hopelessness will go away. Any suggestions will be appreciated.

ManIFeelLikeAWoman · 08/03/2009 22:06

Chloemummy

There is a saying - "the good thing about stopping drinking is you get your feelings back. The BAD thing about stopping drinking is ... you get your feelings back." Assuming you have not drunk for a couple of days, this is probably the reason you are feeling like this - you have all these feelings to deal with, some of which have been waiting quite a while to come out, and no mechanism for doing so.

This is why we continue going to meetings after we have stopped drinking - we need an outlet for all these feelings, we need guidance on how to deal with them, and, most important of all, we need the sympathetic ear of someone who knows what we're going through.

Do get to meetings if you can - if not, do try to share honestly here - as you just have - how you are feeling and how it's affecting you.

You are not alone. Stay with us.

chloemummy · 08/03/2009 22:18

Thank you MIFLAW. I have not drunk since July 4th last year. I cant get to meetings. What you say makes sense, I dont know how to deal with these feelings. Feel I am shouting at my daughter for no reason but she has just gone to bed finally because she loves dancing on ice....

Yesterday was at the ice rink all morning then had to go to a 1 yr old bday party. My friend offered me a brandy or a beer and she was shocked when I told her I had stopped drnking. In thelounge where people were drinking I could smell it and I am like oneof those ex smokers who cant stand the smell, the lounge smelt of drink and it made me feel sick...

ManIFeelLikeAWoman · 08/03/2009 23:39

I know you said you can't get to meetings.

Based on how it sounds like you're feeling, you might want to reassess that.

are the weekend meetings with a creche really not an option?

You sound desperate to share with others.

jeminthecity · 09/03/2009 09:36

Yep, agree about getting the feelings back.

Also the same can be said for being able to think again. Sometimes it hits people after a few months, sometimes after a couple of years.
The only other people who have really understood what I was going through are the ones who have been there too.
For example noone else ever understood about the 'fear', god that was awful, but I had never realised that others felt it too.It was a huge relief to find out people actually understood, in ways that even my best friends can't.

Its a major deal, and I agree it is the ongoing dealing with feelings and emotions that is really important.

Stay with us Chloemummy!
Also, if you DO think you may be depressed, get to see your GP. You don't have to feel like this remember. x

beinghonest · 10/03/2009 22:19

This post is not entirely related to this thread, and please excuse me if I am going aginst MN ettiquette...

There is a post on relationships "untitled" about a poster worried about her mother's drinking. If ManIFLAW or other AA's are on here, perhaps you could offer some ideas???

FairyCCTaleEnding · 10/03/2009 22:57

Hi all, hope everyone's ok.

chloemummy, I can really relate to what you're saying about feeling down, I'm the same. Life can still be shitty, even if you're not drinking. I find I look for other ways to escape, I feel lethargic and uninspired quite often ... I know a drink won't make any of this better, but life seems harder sometimes than when I was drinking. I think for me the way out of this is to work on the steps, which I've been doing slowly. Have you got a sponsor?

Keep posting, at least you can share here ... x

chloemummy · 11/03/2009 21:58

Hi Fairy,
Thank you for the support. No I dont have a sponsor. I have not worked the steps.

jeminthecity · 12/03/2009 10:23

Hi Chloemummy, sent you message on FB.

Hope to see you all there!

FairyCCTaleEnding · 20/03/2009 19:15

Hi all, decided to bump in case anyone felt like posting ...

Staying in tonight, feel like crap, thought I'd see if there was anyone else out there!

ManIFeelLikeAWoman · 22/03/2009 22:55

Sorry I missed you, Fairy Tale - how did your weekend pan out in the end?

CJCregg · 20/01/2010 17:26

Bumpity bumpity bump!

Hi all, hope you are sober and happy.

I'm resurrecting this thread as a place where people in recovery can share what's going on for them. If you feel like it, no obligation ...

(PS have namechanged, used to be FairyTaleEnding. My fairy tale has now ended so I took on a new identity!)

teasle · 20/01/2010 17:38

Well hello CJC- lovely to see you giving this thread a bump

CJCregg · 20/01/2010 17:59

Hi, good to see you. Have to rush now but will be back later.

teasle · 21/01/2010 18:59

Right! ok, would be nice to catch up...would love to know what everyone is up to...? nice to 'see' you again.

My name's teasle- I'm an alcoholic. I'm in recovery...but I have had a few slips along the way. Main thing is, I keep trying, because if I gave up, ...well it's not worth thinking about.

Well...it was funny(actually, not really), the other day, took youngest DD and friends to cinema to see Alvin and the Chipmunks...I was sat there, as the film opened,to watch Alvin the chipmunk and his brothers 'rock out' thinking..'well this might be easier to watch with a vodka' lol...honestly- did my head in..nearly...the kids all like it anyway...
though,

bBut then if I WAS drinking vodka...I wouldn't have been able to drive...and if I was driving with 4 kids.......anyway, I know this is a recovery thread, just I think I need to remember what I was like, cos if I forget I could go back there again, iyswim.

Well, how is everyone?

Any old recovering alkies out there? x

CJCregg · 21/01/2010 20:13

Evening ... I have seen Alvin 2 and it's terrible. The first one was brilliant, though, we watch it all the time!

I still think about a drink at the kids' bedtime. Having always said I wouldn't drink until they were in bed, I got into the habit of slugging a big glass of red before heading into the arsenic hour. Now I put them to bed sober and it's not any easier! They drive me mental ... but at least I only want to get downstairs for something to eat and some peace, rather than a couple of bottles of wine. It's one of those times when I have to remember the bigger picture - yes, a drink would probably take the edge off this time, now, but I know where it would lead, so I don't do it.

Anyway, blah blah blah ... anyone out there?

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