You're a part-time vegger and full time friend... 10/10 thread - all welcome

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MrsC, is DS being looked after by F's dp? Poor Franny, if dp can't come to the hospital very much to support her.

oh oh, good news update!

Franny just texted a moment ago and said, thank god she can visit him, she is with him now. They say perhaps tomorrow night she sleep there but tonight she has to go back to the other ward. He just had a lovely breastfeed and took some milk from a cup while she was away. She is having an ultrasound tomorrow to see if her infection is kidney or uterus.

Good news

Is her dp able to see DS2 or be with Franny? This must all be very difficult for DP & DS1

dp was on his way up earlier, someone was going to look after ds while he went.

Oh dear poor Franny ,that's rubbish, hope she's feeling better soon - glad that she'll be back sleeping there by tomorrow. Rotten start but I'm sure it will all settle down as soon as they get back home.

Guad I didn't sent a parcel wonder if she meant someone else to thank?

Hmm, I don't know, Boco. Do you think it could be the big parcel? She just said to thank you and Lully, I assume her dp would have said something was there.

Just caught up with today's news. Poor Franny Oh but I am glad she can visit L and will hopefully soon be back with him.

ds1 was in SCBU for, I think, 3 or 4 days with jaundice (SCBU I think because they didn't have anywhere else to put him, not because he was very ill). I was close by him in a family room and could and did go to him whenever, but it was odd being separate from him, especially at night. Of course poor Franny is going to worry about L and she will find it hard to take reassurance on board, although she will do such a wonderful job it will be just fine once they are out of there.

Maybe we can send her reading material, books, audio books? Anyone have any ideas?

Oh poor old Fra. How awful. It's all that one step forward, two steps back stuff.

If it is a Kidney infection, she'll be feeling pretty rotten physically on top of everything else

I think books are a good idea. It takes at least 2 weeks to send anything from here. I have a small package for her but haven't sent it yet. Will go to P/O this week.

DS was in equivalent of scbu with jaundice too and they kept threatening to give him a blood transfusion. Was all very scary.

So, F&V:

Juice
Orange
bananas (2)
Strawberries (2)
baked beans
black beans
Lentils (2)

So if I can count each portion of pulses, that makes 10. If not, 7.

oh poor franny. But this is really good news about L isn't it - especially about him taking the milk. It is great the LLL woman was able to help her out. It is good he is off all the machines too because that is so horrible to see - I can just imagine his apply cheeks as he explores in that mammalian way and finds a little cup of milk and laps it. I love that new wonderful exploring stage.

It is good that franny can see him too. So it is a week isn't it. We should write you know, send cards to the hospital - that wold be nice. As MrsC said she wanted support. I can't think what else but that might be uplifting.

Carrot - you know the hospital? Can I text you and you tell me the address?

I am very disorganised and can't do anything grand and creative like our wonderful tatties - but letters - oh I can do letters.

a card is a lovely idea. Books - anyone got any ideas on books? I really can't think what she might like and not have read already.

mrsC - email me the hosp address? petrovafossil at gmx dot de

some psycho babble bollocks from stuff I did earlier in the year:

"The recognised sensitive period for mother and infant bonding is from 2 weeks to 6 weeks and again at four months (National Institute for Clinical Excellence, 2008)."

National Institute for Clinical Excellence(2008) Postnatal care: routine postnatal care of women and their babies. National Collaborating Centre for Primary Care: London

I don;t know how helpful it is to post this stuff but Franny need not fret.

I'm worried I'll sound like a weirdo, because I've hardly ever posted on here, but I finish my nannying job on Friday and I'm going back to uni so I wasn't going to get another, if Franny or her dp need some help with ds1 while she's in hospital I'd be happy to help out next week (I don't know where she is, but I'm in London?)

Thanks, Peqoud. I am fairly certain that Franny wouldn't leave ds with anyone he doesn't know but I will mention it to her.

Also, I'll ask if she would like any letters/books sent to the hospital or to her house and dp can bring them up.

That sounds positive, Bbbee, about the two week bonding thing.

Oh I'd like to send a card/letter too. I'll email bero who has put her address on here.

Poor Franny, but good that L is on the up

Oh I'm sure it's true too. It's just that as a start it is far from ideal, but lots of things are far from ideal without being damaging in anyway. I think this is true of all parenting though. Flexibility in the face of surprising circs and all that.

Hope they are okay. 10 days is a long time isn't it?

Sorry, that sounded a bit Anne-ish. I meant it in a positive way. It is quite possible though that this parenting philosophy was dreamt up in two SCBU units.

Tell Fra I have two v. attached and talkative and affectionate (if a little demanding) DS's, one of whom spent 10 days in SCBU too. I have to say that the experience does NOT seem to have affected DS2's tremendous sense of self or love of me or mine of him. [bows]

Though it may be that she is worrying about the ABs? But she shouldn't be.

[sigh]

I'll write her a letter.

Oh no I've just caught up with the latest news! Good to hear that L is on the mend but Franny must be feeling rubbish poor love.

Bbbeee I liked what you wrote about bonding being established from weeks 2-6, very heartening news . I rather suspect that Fran must feel like she's living a nightmare but once they are back home and normality is resumed it will all fade into memory and there will be no harm done in the long term.

I would love to send the Zooeys a card or something... could someone email me? I don't even know Franny's RL name. tangerinecath [at] hotmail dot co dot uk. I won't be able to pick it up here (am at work) but will catch up tonight.

Oh dear, poor ol' Fran. She must feel horrific.

Sending positive love and light blessings to Franny and L X

Poor Franny.
I hope she gets some good news soon.

I am wearing too many clothes and a wide plasticky belt and the sun is burning off the haze and I am uncomfortable. It was cloudy when I got up.... I could take the belt of I spose. That would help.

And today is my day for walking home (arse, 2 hours sweating and swearing pushing DD's pram up every frickin' hill in Briz.)

However, I am going to make chicken satay for tea and the thought is keeping me going. Mmmm... peanut butter badness.

It is mental here today. Thank god only 2 months left, it is starting to make me feel grumpy and drained when I get home. Too many chiefs....