(Flying) Bear hugs for Steve, onlyjoking and their children

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For Steve

For oj

For Elliot

Quick! What do the girls like?

Is this ok? I think you said one of them liked to watch it.

Is that everyone sorted?

Not forgetting the carers!

OJ, I am going off line now but have my mobile with me.

Take care and I hope you have a peaceful night. x

My computer has been out of action and here is my first point of call now its back on, sorry to hear steve had a hard night, I hope tonight is more peaceful for you both.

I am off to bed with a migraine. Wishing you all peace, strength and love, and as someone else said, dignity for Steve as he moves along the longest journey, steps he has to take alone but with you supporting him as he goes.

Praying for comfort and peace for you all

xxxxx

stickyj - what a lovely post.

OJ - guess what? Yup - thinking of you and your lovely, lovely Steve. And of your 3 gorgeous children.

xx

Izabella, i think you are right ( i hope and pray you are). My Dad did this, even though he never regained conciousness that we were aware of, his sister was going on holiday just before she went my dad got a lot worse, and she told him be better bloody well not die before she got back, you know, as you do! Well, we got a call on the monday from the hospice - get here as quickly as you can, preist visited etc, you know, he hung on until his sister got back on the sunday, we managed to contact her at the airport to go straight to the hospice, and he passed away about an hour or two after she arrived. The doctors at the hospice were very puzzled as to how he was hanging on, as all of the vital signs showed it was time, but they also said that this happens quite a lot.

Some weeks ago OJ had resigned herself to the fact that steve wouldnt be here for the girls birthday, and he is still hanging on.......who knows, if it is meant to be, then it will be. I feel for you all OJ, your girls are going to have to be so very brave, but with you to support them, i know they will get through this. xxx

thinking of you x

steve calm and settled breathing is ok today
i think i have PMT as i have been very tearful today, MIL asked the SW about the purple marks on steves arm, MIL believes they are bruises and you can guess who she thinks is to blame for them
then at tea time i opened the cupboard door and there was a jar of olives and i ended up a blubbering wreck over a jar of blooming olives, it suddenly hit me that steve was the only olive eater and that he would never eat olives again, it sounds daft really with all the bigger stuff going on that the innocent jar of olives got to me. i have given myself a good talking to and feel less tearful now.

oh oj

I think you're allowed a bloody good cry if you want though!

It's the little stuff that hits you the worst Oj...... you can psyche yourself up for the Big Stuff then something trivial can trip you up emotionally.

Big Hugs xx

Jo ...it is hardly surprising you have been feeling how you are tonight, PMT or no PMT ..last night must have been an awful strain and you are on tenderhooks the whole time, not knowing what is going to happen, while holding it together for the children. You are truly doing a fantastic job but sometimes you need to let it go, there is nothing at all wrong with that. Your MIL is quite unbelievable, I cannot understand how she can be so suspicious and cruel. I hope the SW put her in her place. It is good that Steve is calm and stable, hopefully, you will be able to spend some more time with him and both of you have a peaceful night. You are in my thoughts all the time. As others have said, it is strange since I have never met you, but you and Steve have touched so many. You are a very brave lady. Sending you love and hugsx

Oh darling girl.

You are entitled to blub.

Here if you need me.

LGJ

XXXX

They say it is the silly little things that make you cry but I think we all feel better after a good cry. x

Dont be too hard on yourself, it's sometimes the silliest things that can set you off. Allow yourself to cry now and again for the simplest things that used to be part of your everyday life. It's all part of the grieving process.

Glad to hear Steve is doing ok tonight.

Thinking of you all. X

(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) for steve and oj, abbey bethan and elliott

hope letting it out over the olives helped a little, for a little while anyway.

it's ok to cry oj.

When I was about 9 I read a story called "the jar of olives". something to do with someone who stole a lot of gold and hid it in a jar of olives then put the olives back over the top. it was one of those stories with a moral although can't remember the outcome, something to do with the olives having gone off hence how the judge could prove he'd stolen it or something.

Sorry totally off topic I know but you saying you'd seen a jar of olives suddenly brought it into my head. .

Oh oj, you dont know me but im sending you lots of love, hugs and strength to you and your family. I cant begin to understand what you are going through.
Thinking of you xxxx

You are allowed to cry OJ, You are a loving wife and an amazingly strong mum and your children need to see you cry. They will follow by example and although they may not fully understand they will be aware of what is going on. Dont feel bad about being human!
((hugs for you all))

Ahhhh now OJ...Hope you don't mind me saying you are allowed to cry...cry a bloody river!
Am thinking of you all,as always and I hope you have a peaceful night.xxxxxxxx

OJ, your post made me smile, sadly of course. You are having to be so strong just now, of course it will be the little things that set you off. You actually need to cry, to release some of the immense pressure you are under - please don't look upon this as a weakness.

Your MIL - whats she like!! Dozy fecking bitch. Reminds me a little of my aunt, when my mum was in hospital, quite poorly, emergency admission, nil by mouth, on a saline drip. My Aunty started saying to me, get me the nurse NOW - why? i said. "because you wont let her have a drink and she is going to get dehydrated" . Some people define stupidity.

you probably needed to get some release oj ,it must be an awful strain on you ,and being so scared in the night wouldnt of helped at all.Its good to open the valve and let the tears come.hope you have a quiet few hours so you can get some rest.Glad steves breathing is better. x

((((((oj))))) - the little things are the ones that really get us because we don't see them coming ... you can think and prepare all you can but at no point would you think "might as well clear the cupboard of things that the kids and I don't like to eat"

Will be thinking of you and will check in again before I go to bed. xxx

it is the little things like jars of olives that floor you - but they are also the things that let you cry and help you to deal with your grief.

Sorry about the olives OJ. I can imagine that small things can so easily set you off.

I hope you manage to get a bit of sleep tonight and that it is an uneventful night.

Thinking of you XXX

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

OJ, hun you are bound to feel tearful and some days it will be worse than others. Wish I could be there to give you a big hug. What you are going through right now is so traumatic. Having Steve stop breathing on you is a big deal and you need to allow yourself the opportunity to react emotionally to that.

I see MIL has opened her big mouth made an inappropriate remark once again! I found that Mark often got these deep blue and purple bruises from longterm use of the steroids. I hope you and your darling husband have a restful night tonight. xxx